Having trouble releasing fear

[JMononoetoe]

Hello there everyone,

I'm still getting around to master deliberately manifesting things. I'm reading lots of books, like Ask And It Is Given and Silva Mind Control, and I'm about to start reading The Power Of Now and A New Earth.

However, as I gain more and more knowledge and understanding of the true nature of reality, I still have a lot of difficulty with releasing resistance, especially related to time.

As we speak I seem to have manifested my 'salary' a week earlier than expected. As I look back on what I've been doing, this is only logical. I wanted to buy an effect pedal and I wanted to invest a little more in a certain program. However, I was always happy with what I already had, and I was excited to soon be able to invest more in these things, but never did I feel I was lacking something. In fact, I felt I was rich. As we know, feeling abundant attracts more of the same.

This is where manifestation into 'our' reality is born from. However, when it comes to more serious, time bound matters, I suddenly feel a lot of fear coming over me. I've always been extremely afraid of failing, and more than everything being a failure towards those whom I hold dear. I freeze, and do nothing, resulting in procrastination, which doesn't get me any closer to my goal.

At times like these, it is so hard for me to let go of my fears and move on to manifest my goal. I know that I have been procrastinating, and that I might be 'too late'. My current belief system tells me that I surely did those things in the past, and thus it is impossible for me to avoid the consequences. It also tells me that if I want to make something to change, it will be extremely hard if not impossible, and that I will definitely disappoint people (which is a HUGE fear for me).

These beliefs are so extremely limiting. They don't serve me and only manifest bad things into my life, but they are so deeply 'programmed' in my being, that I have a fear that I might not be able to rid of these beliefs. In other words, I'm afraid to fail.

Or actually, I don't know where to begin. I could use EFT to try and lose these beliefs. I should also get rid of my habit of procrastination. For me, procrastination comes from fear of failure, so perhaps I should tap on that.

The belief I should tap on is my belief of the "path of failure" . I've thought about it and I think I believe that once I've made a mistake (procrastinating, for example), that the only possible outcome can be failure.

So... what do you think? Maybe you guys have some universe wisdom to share? I find this wisdom to be very insightful and enlightening.

[music19]

fear is one of the things that prevents LoA from working. you have to completely let go of all the fear and worry. this is something i have a hard time doing myself. BUT something to feel good about, that i advise myself on, is that at least you are recognizing that there is something (your fear) that might get in the way of you creating more positive vibrations. that is a step towards reaching your dreams within itself. i wish i knew how to get over fear (mine is different, not fear of disappointing myself, but other things) too.

[oberlee]

I find my best results when I've been "out of the loop" for a while, and I'm like, "ok, let's just put aside all thoughts of skepticism and see if this works. As an experiment."

Then, it's fresh, it's easy to grasp because I'm not trying or really attached to outcomes.

BTW, I feel the fear, too, and I just have to tell you: NO ONE CAN PREDICT YOUR LIFE LIKE YOU CAN. No "predetermined" circumstances, or any statistics, have any impact on your success. There's always that ONE that defies all statistics, and it's never too late. You're not on a track, you're living your life. No one says you can't find success at 65 or 75 or 85. It can all be done. Just because statistically doesn't mean MOST people don't find success that way doesn't mean YOU can't.

[wellbeing]

Originally Posted by oberlee

I find my best results when I've been "out of the loop" for a while, and I'm like, "ok, let's just put aside all thoughts of skepticism and see if this works. As an experiment."

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BTW, I feel the fear, too, and I just have to tell you: NO ONE CAN PREDICT YOUR LIFE LIKE YOU CAN. No "predetermined" circumstances, or any statistics, have any impact on your success. There's always that ONE that defies all statistics, and it's never too late. You're not on a track, you're living your life. No one says you can't find success at 65 or 75 or 85. It can all be done. Just because statistically doesn't mean MOST people don't find success that way doesn't mean YOU can't.

Thanks, Oberlee, for that technique (I'm going to play with it some) and that timely reminder.

[torilink]

Rather than try to release fear, anxiety, and other negative states - simply try to accept them.

If you are conscious enough to say to yourself... "There is my ego worrying again" or "Wow my egoic mind is so caught up in fearful thoughts", then you are conscious enough to dispell those things. You dispell them through acceptance. Remember that what you resist persists.

For instance, if I am worrying about money or a bill and I am conscious enough to realize that I my egoic mind is caught up in a cycle of fearful thoughts then I can just accept that as how it is right now.

"Right now my ego is all caught up in fearful thoughts - and that's ok" then take a few deep breaths shifting into a more conscious state and just BE whatever it is you are at that moment and accept it fully, knowing that after you've accepted it - you can then let it go.

[JMononoetoe]

Thank you, everyone. Very insightful

Originally Posted by torilink

Rather than try to release fear, anxiety, and other negative states - simply try to accept them.

If you are conscious enough to say to yourself... "There is my ego worrying again" or "Wow my egoic mind is so caught up in fearful thoughts", then you are conscious enough to dispell those things. You dispell them through acceptance. Remember that what you resist persists.

Ah! That's it! Trying to release fears isn't 'with the flow'! Now I see it, and now I understand why it didn't feel good to try to release the fears. Thanks!

[torilink]

oh and another thing I forgot to mention that if you are doing or feeling anything other than surrender to the present moment you are in a state of resisting.

If you feel you must "Be" something other than what you, have more, be better, be more, feel differently, or in your case release fear - that is your ego talking & resisting present moment awareness. We (egos) always want things to be different which shifts us out of conscious awareness where all our manifesting power lies and into the past or the future where we are powerless. Our power comes through complete surrender to PMA.

Obviously if you can do something in that moment to effect positive change you should - If I saw my child in the middle of the street and a truck was coming I wouldn't stand there in a state of acceptance to the coming accident (a possible future event) - I'd run and get him/her out of the road. In a way I would be accepting that I must act in that moment -

But the first step in finding that path to change - or in manifesting a different situation is always acceptance of the self and experience as it is in the moment.

[JMononoetoe]

Thanks, that makes a lot of sense.
Haha, this is actually quite interesting, because I just started reading the Power Of Now by Eckhart Tolle. I'm sure there's a lot of wisdom in that book

[torilink]

Yes Tolle presents this information in a very easy to understand manner. But there are plenty of books- info out there covering the same concepts & truths.

to name a few just off the top of my head.....

The Old & New Testaments
Kabbalistic writings
Abraham Hicks
A Course In Miracles
All writings by Neville Goddard
Writings by Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj

Tolle's writing is very direct and easy to understand.

[BillyBlanks24]

How has The Power of Now been going for you? has it helped you understand where your fears are coming from and release them?

I find it has for me. But i keep oscillating back and forth between present momentness and time related thoughts. I guess this is normal? My ego doesnt seem to want to fully let go of the past and future. It tries to convince me i need them for useful reasons.

[garentee]

We all experience fear. there is not any one alive that does not have fear. It is what you do with your fear that matters.. It is instructive to remember that 90% of your worst fears seldom come true. So in light of that figure would it not make more sense to look at things more positvely? It takes alot of practice and hard work as does the LOA but then again Things that are the most work are usually the most rewarding. G