How do I lift my emotions when I feel so low

[Nigel]

Hi,
I have a problem with my finances at the moment, my earnings have plumeted to just about nothing but I have a mass of outgoings to keep up with.
The end result is that I can only ever seem to see what little there is to go round and this is all I can focus on. From what I´ve read regarding LOA I know that this means this is more of what I´ll get.
So how do I change my emotional fequency from lack to abundance when all I can think about is not having enough money to pay all the bills.
This is really getting me down.

[Vee]

Hi Nigel,

I know how you feel. I am going through a rough period at the moment too and that's all I can focus on.

A way I am dealing with it is just accepting it. I know this sounds hard and mad, but I find it hard to force my emotions to change so I just watch them.

I'll be interested to see what other people say cos I need to get back that feeling of abundance as well. x

[Holistic Star]

The best book I have read on this is called "Excuse me, your life is waiting" by Lynne Grabhorn.

For the first 30 days she recommends choosing a different topic of self-appreciation to switch to the second you spot a negative thought.

Her view is that trying to go to 'I am abundant' from 'oh no,I'm in deep trouble !' is very hard from some people. But to flip your attention to 'I have great skin' can be done.

Ok - so get this. The first day I tried it my topic was 'I have becautiful blue eyes.' When my H came home in the evening, he looked at me and said 'wow, your eyes look really blue today' I can't remember the last time he said that!

The are 4 other steps to manifesting the life you really want which she outlines in the book - however she recommends first flexing your muscles with a different self-appreciation topic for 30 days, even as she suggests one day all she could find to appreciate about herself is that she had shaved her legs that day.

Hope that helps

[Lola]

You just reach for the next best feeling, like Holistic Star said, which still may not be a great feeling but you're heading the right direction if it's even a little better than the last. It's usually not feasible to make a giant leap from one emotional extreme to the other. But you can move up the scale one step at a time.

Abraham-Hicks talks about this in Ask and It Is Given, in Ch 22, where the emotional scale they describe ranges from a top level of Joy/Knowledge/Empowerment/Freedom/Love/Appreciation to a bottom level of Fear/Grief/Depression/Despair/Powerlessness with 20 more levels in between.

[jimo]

Hey Nigel,

I agree with the advice you were given.

Just accept it and let it go. Say "it is as it is" and focus on something else that is a little bit more enjoyable.

You can also do this. Ask yourself some questions (best to write it down):

(1) what is working,
(and list the things that are working in your life)

(2) what is not quite right yet
(this changes the focus from wrong)

(3) what can i do to make it right
(may be things you can perhaps do to earn money)

These suggestions will not change your situation overnight, but it will change the way you look at things.

it will help you to start thinking about your situation in a logical manner and will help you come up with solutions to your situation.

hope this helps.

[veranadine]

It may sound silly but when I find myself in this situation I like to try picturing myself as a wealthy socialite. You know, one of those people who just signs checks all day, sending their endless supply of money off to various charities?

I just get out my check book, hold my head high, pretend like I have bank accounts filled with millions and millions of dollars.

I still work within my budget. I just pretend that what I am paying is bills for poor souls who cannot afford to pay their own. The problem is not mine personally, all of my bills are always fully taken care of.

I am simply writing numbers on a piece of paper. I am simply juggling my "charitable" donations, not my own financial obligations.

You know what they say about the LOA, if you are not giving anything out then nothing can come in. You have to spend $ to make $.

And I always say, "Fake it until you make it." Or, "Believe it until it becomes a reality."

This exercise really does help alleviate my anxiety about money and my worries about the lack of it.

Like I said, it's silly...but it works for me.

Blessings,

[joyful1]

I agree with HolisticStar - that book is amazing. It lists strategies to help you to stop focusing on what is going "wrong" in your life, and focus your attention on something that makes you FEEL better and brings a smile to your face. If you do the 30 day exercise, you'll definitely be a changed person. Hang in there - things will get better.

[sheffy4]

Originally Posted by veranadine

It may sound silly but when I find myself in this situation I like to try picturing myself as a wealthy socialite. You know, one of those people who just signs checks all day, sending their endless supply of money off to various charities?

I just get out my check book, hold my head high, pretend like I have bank accounts filled with millions and millions of dollars.
Like I said, it's silly...but it works for me.

I love this idea! Right now I am picturing Steve Martin in The Jerk doing just that. Next time I pay bills I will just imagine I am writing checks to benefit the charity to prevent cat juggling!

[elisabeth]

I also agree with Holistic Star (Grabhorn book & exercise, which are great) and also with Veranadine's socialite example. What a cool way to reframe a situation and paying checks.

Most of the time, I try to remember to ask myself a question such as "What DO I want?" And answer it, daydreaming "Wouldn't it be nice to have/do..." (yes, another Abraham-Hicks strategy).

That's a way to really look at a much more positive angle without having my insides go "liar."

And I especially agree with Lola that reaching for the next-best feeling and the emotional scale is very helpful. I use it a LOT.

I write up detailed scales whenever I feel down, and it's amazing how well they work. Actually, I don't always write them from scratch. I take one that is similar, copy it and then edit the new copy to reflect the issue of the day etc. Then I print it out and reflect on the steps as needed.