Can you decide what to desire for and what not to?

[Shorebird]

Hello friends

I have experienced this many times in my life:

I did have certain desires in my life for which I have prayed with a great intensity. Some were fulfilled while others were not.

But out of those which fulfilled did not bring me much happiness thereafter. I will give you an example: I had some problems with a college friend and our friendship was at stake. We were drifting apart. Since I loved my friend, was very close to her, and since I realised that it was my fault, I apologized to her. She acknowledged that and said its ok. Still problems were there. So I prayed to God that I do not lose my friend. I won't say I lost her but things were not the same. I did not feel good while talking with her. I prayed for so long as she was in college and after leaving college as well. Now she is away, living her life and I am living my own. But now I am happier. So why did I prayed and longed for her friendship for so many years?

[sehall]

Originally Posted by Shorebird

Hello friends

I have experienced this many times in my life:

I did have certain desires in my life for which I have prayed with a great intensity. Some were fulfilled while others were not.

But out of those which fulfilled did not bring me much happiness thereafter. I will give you an example: I had some problems with a college friend and our friendship was at stake. We were drifting apart. Since I loved my friend, was very close to her, and since I realised that it was my fault, I apologized to her. She acknowledged that and said its ok. Still problems were there. So I prayed to God that I do not lose my friend. I won't say I lost her but things were not the same. I did not feel good while talking with her. I prayed for so long as she was in college and after leaving college as well. Now she is away, living her life and I am living my own. But now I am happier. So why did I prayed and longed for her friendship for so many years?

Hi,

Your prayer focused on NOT LOSING YOUR FRIEND. A negative, fearful thought that manifested. What would have happened it you prayed for a close, lasting friendship? You have the power to manifest whatever your thought is. So be conscious of your intention to manifest.....

[Shorebird]

Ahh! Thats so clear now. You taught me something in just five sentences Sehall...

Thanks

[Acting Like Godot]

Shorebird, I thought you were asking a different kind of question actually. Something more philosophical and practical.

It seemed to me that you were asking about why one may not experience happiness, even if one's intention is fulfilled.

For example, you asked for your friend to remain your friend, and she did - that is to say, your intention was fulfilled, but this did not bring you happiness. In time, the two of you went your separate ways, and you found that in fact you were happier this way.

[Anagogy]

Originally Posted by Shorebird

Hello friends

I have experienced this many times in my life:

I did have certain desires in my life for which I have prayed with a great intensity. Some were fulfilled while others were not.

But out of those which fulfilled did not bring me much happiness thereafter. I will give you an example: I had some problems with a college friend and our friendship was at stake. We were drifting apart. Since I loved my friend, was very close to her, and since I realised that it was my fault, I apologized to her. She acknowledged that and said its ok. Still problems were there. So I prayed to God that I do not lose my friend. I won't say I lost her but things were not the same. I did not feel good while talking with her. I prayed for so long as she was in college and after leaving college as well. Now she is away, living her life and I am living my own. But now I am happier. So why did I prayed and longed for her friendship for so many years?

Sehall made an excellent point. Abraham would say there is no assertion in an inclusive universe. People become so afraid of SOMETHING, and they say, "please, dear god no, don't bring me that SOMETHING", but their thoughts are focussed on SOMETHING, so SOMETHING is exactly what they attract. The universe does not say no, it can only say yes because it is an inclusive universe. You can only deactivate a thought by thinking another.

As far as choosing the right desire is concerned (and expanding on ALG's insightful comments), you always have to ask yourself, would you rather get what you want, or be happy?

Let your inner wisdom guide you. Focus on happiness, and you will attract experiences that make you feel happy, and eventually you will allow the perfect manifestation of your own personal frequency resonance vibration. Basically, this means everything that you experience will become the perfect "fit" for your particular consciousness.

Best wishes.