The Importance of keeping your desires private

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If you're interested in this topic, you should read this book.

The Power In Secrecy

It's a SECRET that "The Secret" hasn't told you and it may be one of the missing pieces you need to make the LOA works for you.

[Lisa McGregor]

exactly.
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[petewilliams]

Interesting read, thanks for posting.

I've experienced the energy-sapping feeling of discussing LOA with people who don't believe in it, but funnily enough it never really crossed my mind to stop talking to them about it. I guess I felt that if I shared it, that would somehow increase my belief in it, but now I see it's been doing the complete opposite!

Pete

[theknightwhosaysni-NI]

yes, if we need external approval for our goals, then we'd better not tell people about our objectives, because it's impossible that 100% of people will agree with what we do.

Or we can just stop needing external approval, it's more simple.
In this case, if you tell people about goal achievement and success, it is only to help them, because you don't care what they think and don't waste your energy thinking about them.

Anyway, when you start acting towards your goal, sooner or later, people will see your actions and it will be obvious that you pursue a particular goal. Goal achieving happens in the real physical world, so it can't be hidden indefinitely
So at some point really, we do have to "out ourselves" and stop caring about what people think.

[Joely]

This has already been discussed on another board, I think. I can't download the book for some reason but based on what the Knight above me says, I can take a rough guess.

I've found no end of support and assistance from people by telling them what I'm doing with my life, what my goals are. If I hadn't discussed it with them, I wouldn't have an agent now, or be about to start podcasting my book

[Acting Like Godot]

Exactly! The energy that you use to manifest your intentions was never "yours" anyway.

It is what Abraham calls "Source energy"; what Jose Silva calls "Higher Intelligence"; what Lynne MacTaggart calls "the Field"; what the Hindus call "Brahman"; what Wallace Wattles calls the "formless substance".

It's infinite, endless, eternal .... It simply doesn't run out!

The only "risk" of talking to people about your goals and intentions is that they may plant doubt in you that you can achieve them. For example, you tell them that you intend to achieve X, but they say that you can't, because you're too young, too old, not clever enough, don't have the time, stop dreaming etc etc.

So you start doubting yourself, and that's what kills the manifestation. It's not that the thought energy runs out .... It never runs out.

Now ... imagine if you told your intention to your partner, teacher, mother, father, best friend etc etc, and they were all encouraging and supportive, willing to offer help in whatever way they can etc. How could that possibly be harmful to your intention?!

[fellowtraveler]

You want a clean laminar flow of energy, is all. Broadcasting it creates currents and eddies which muddy the intent.

It's just like when I used to tell people the plot of some short story I was going to write. Took the mojo right out of it for me.

Your mileage, as the kids say, will vary.

[Joely]

Originally Posted by Acting Like Godot

Exactly! The energy that you use to manifest your intentions was never "yours" anyway.

It is what Abraham calls "Source energy"; what Jose Silva calls "Higher Intelligence"; what Lynne MacTaggart calls "the Field"; what the Hindus call "Brahman"; what Wallace Wattles calls the "formless substance".

It's infinite, endless, eternal .... It simply doesn't run out!

The only "risk" of talking to people about your goals and intentions is that they may plant doubt in you that you can achieve them. For example, you tell them that you intend to achieve X, but they say that you can't, because you're too young, too old, not clever enough, don't have the time, stop dreaming etc etc.

So you start doubting yourself, and that's what kills the manifestation. It's not that the thought energy runs out .... It never runs out.

Now ... imagine if you told your intention to your partner, teacher, mother, father, best friend etc etc, and they were all encouraging and supportive, willing to offer help in whatever way they can etc. How could that possibly be harmful to your intention?!

I agree completely - and this is where a goal expands to become more than just your goal. You're still there, at the centre of it, but people around you are able to build your goals and dreams into their own, and thus you move forward together. Something large will often require other people to help you out to achieve it. Thinking about how this applies to the idea of contribution, you contribute your first inspiration to helping others achieve their goals as they help you achieve yours. I like working that way!

[fascinoma]

Depends.

In my own philosophy, there is a thing called "the Web of Relationships" that is probably one of the most common doorways for your manifestations to appear. The theory here is that yes, you can manifest sitting on the couch... as long as you have a strong/active social sphere of people in your life who are enrolled in your intentions... and that each such person counts as a node in your Web and may in fact even be a hub.

If by telling people your intention you're activating the Web, that can be powerful.

My mother manifested her husband this way. She told everyone she knew that she was getting married. She didn't even have a boyfriend at the time.

She was VERY specific. Here's how specific: she wanted a blond-haired, blue-eyed, short Jewish man.

She didn't tell people the specifics of what she wanted, because yes, they'd laugh.

She did tell them though that she was getting married.

The husband showed up via one of her existing social networks, within a few weeks. They've been married for about sixteen years or so.

[Matthew Haupt]

Aha, I have heard this from Matt Furey as well. I always get excited when I see more than one guru talking about a principle of LoA. All truths are connected, it seems.

[Matthew Haupt]

I was thinking about this some more today. Made me think: so, when you get help from a coach, this "secret" law doesn't apply because... why? He's helping you focus on the goal, too? He's not just listening and sapping that energy, but helping you focus your energies and reminding you of your goals. That sounds right. Any thoughts?

[jeff3]

Originally Posted by Matthew Haupt

I was thinking about this some more today. Made me think: so, when you get help from a coach, this "secret" law doesn't apply because... why? He's helping you focus on the goal, too? He's not just listening and sapping that energy, but helping you focus your energies and reminding you of your goals. That sounds right. Any thoughts?

I think it could still apply. If, for instance, your coach was not supportive of your goal for some reason, they may sabotage you either overtly or covertly without even realizing it themselves. I think it's important to only share your dreams with people who will be unconditionally supportive, especially in the beginning stages of your development of dynamic will. Once you are assured of your ability to create and have some experience the injurious thoughts of others will have no impact.

[fascinoma]

IMHO you keep things quiet because:

1) Talking about the thing can lead to idle chatting about the thing, which burns off the energy that's supposed to be directed toward the thing

2) You may end up talking to the "Pooh-Pooh Crew". Those people in your life who can be counted upon to pooh-pooh all your ideas and spew negativity your way.

[jeff3]

Originally Posted by fascinoma

IMHO you keep things quiet because:

1) Talking about the thing can lead to idle chatting about the thing, which burns off the energy that's supposed to be directed toward the thing

2) You may end up talking to the "Pooh-Pooh Crew". Those people in your life who can be counted upon to pooh-pooh all your ideas and spew negativity your way.

can't you tell who they are by how they smell ?

[Vasilisa]

Don't you think that it depends on what you believe?
If you are afraid that your intention won't come true because you tell somebody aboit it, then it won't.
If you believe that it will - IT will.

[Joely]

Originally Posted by fascinoma

2) You may end up talking to the "Pooh-Pooh Crew". Those people in your life who can be counted upon to pooh-pooh all your ideas and spew negativity your way.

Why would you want people like that in your life anyway? I wouldn't keep people like that in my life, but not because I want everybody to agree with me. If you're talking about people who are negative for the sake of it, I honestly wouldn't have anything to do with them. Maybe that's why I always get a positive response when I discuss my goals.

[fascinoma]

Originally Posted by Joely

Why would you want people like that in your life anyway?

Some people just starting out might not have completely ridded themselves of their Pooh-Pooh Crew yet. And some members of the PPC, are harder to dislodge than others... family members come to mind.