Manifesting a change in yourself.

[fascinoma]

Does anyone have experience manifesting a change in *themselves*?

I am a horribly passive person. I don't take very much initiative in my daily life and I seem to need to be hit with the clue stick a lot of the time. I tend to let the world happen around me. I need to be less passive. I need more initiative.

There's most people's speed, then there's my speed, which is about a quarter as fast... I'm even a late bloomer, only getting a hang of the job/material needs thing in my 30s as I was always very internal/daydreamy/artsy/metaphysical rather than focused on the world around me. I tend to stay out of group social things because they just seem to happen TOO FAST. I'm good at getting my needs met by manifesting, and in passive ways, but when something requires actually speaking up or reaching for it or taking initiative, that's another matter.

Maybe I just need to honor who I am... but at the same time... there are times I need to find some kind of inner ability to speak up and act and react to the world as it happens around me.

Other things I need to change... I'm horribly messy and disorganized. I realize that it's mostly other people in my life who want to change this about me. But I also know intellectually that I'd be more effective in my life if I did change this. I just don't seem to be able to work up the actual emotional desire to change it.

[Acting Like Godot]

Originally Posted by fascinoma

Does anyone have experience manifesting a change in *themselves*?

Yup. It's commonly known as self-hypnosis.

[Arboretor]

Originally Posted by fascinoma

Does anyone have experience manifesting a change in *themselves*?

Sure, it is not only possible, it is *easy* if you find the right anchor point for your will. I have experienced it myself.
Last year I managed to loose weight - more than 40 pounds in 6 months - and to get rid of some bad habits I had for more than 30 years.
My anchor point was a girl I wanted to get. I was prepared to do *everything* for her, and it still surprises me today how easy it
became to change myself. I thought before that I would never be able to loose weight and to change my habits. Now I got rid
of one those bad habits within *two days* - imagine that!

You can achieve everything if you really, really want it.

[cylon]

You sound like me, fascinoma, with the late-bloomer thing. Not being involved in your life and letting the world happen around you. Being caught up in metaphysical stuff and navel gazing, contemplating, being awful serious.

You can change. But you have to want it. And you have to do things differently. So what's your motivation to do things differently? What's your motivation to be more assertive? Meaning, you see some benefit down the road or you wouldn't be thinking of changing. That benefit, that change, has to become a goal for you. And the only way you can get the sense that you've accomplished your goal, is to do things that are in alignment with that goal.

What I am doing personally is setting lots of little goals for myself. I basically make everything a goal. I set the little goal, achieve it, then say "goal achieved". This is 24/7.

It may sound silly but I've been doing this for two weeks now and my life has already changed drastically. I decided to take responsibility for all my actions, and to start seeing my time as a valuable resource. Right now, this posting I'm doing, I've alloted time for it. In another couple minutes I enter a new "fifteen minute cycle" and I'll plan the next 15 to 30 minutes.

Do you see your time as a valuable resource? Do you know where you're going?

[annie]

Originally Posted by Arboretor

Sure, it is not only possible, it is *easy* if you find the right anchor point for your will. I have experienced it myself.
Last year I managed to loose weight - more than 40 pounds in 6 months - and to get rid of some bad habits I had for more than 30 years.
My anchor point was a girl I wanted to get. I was prepared to do *everything* for her, and it still surprises me today how easy it
became to change myself. I thought before that I would never be able to loose weight and to change my habits. Now I got rid
of one those bad habits within *two days* - imagine that!

You can achieve everything if you really, really want it.

But did you get the girl??

[Arboretor]

Originally Posted by annie

But did you get the girl??

Hmmm - no. And I must admit that it looks pretty hopeless at the moment, although I haven't given up all hope.
But regardless of the outcome, the changes I was able to do to myself already make me a winner.