Subjective Reality Question

[mochamajesty]

If I understand it correctly, subjective reality hinges on the premise that we are the creators of our universe. That everything is a reflection of our thoughts...even other people (although they are not really seperate), objects, etc.

Ok, what if I have a person in my reality who I do not want to deal with anymore. Do I just ignore her and she will go away? How do you deal with unwanted people and situations from a subjective reality standpoint?

I know that I created this person/situation. Now what? Can I un-create it? If I create it, I can "destroy" it, right? Any insights would be helpful.

[Groundless]

As I understand it, you may have created (or attracted) this person to you for your own self-improvement. That thing you hate about this person, is it something you are also? Is there some way this person can be handled with love/compassion and also used as an opportunity to improve yourself?

My suggestion is to do the opposite, talk with them, get to know them, understand why you are driven to the dislike.

In general, in these kinds of things we are meant to go through, not around, over, under, or to pretend it doesn't exist. Avoiding it will likley bring you bad things. Of course, without all the details, I may be giving bad advice here.

Your higher self is knocking, answer the door.

[mochamajesty]

Thanks, Groundless.

It's just that I did something horrible to this person not too long ago, and I thought that I had moved past it. Not only does her very presence remind me of what I did, but I could actually get in trouble for it. I am feeling all types of emotions right now:

Fear (of getting in trouble for what I did)

Guilt (for hurting the person)

Hope (now that I have changed, maybe it would change the outcome of this?)

I really want to believe that no one can do anything to me, unless I allow it. I am really trying to come to a place of acceptance and peace...and admittedly, also wanting to stay out of trouble.

[AtlantaArtist]

It's all about your 'focus'.
Whatever you think about is manifested/attracted...negative or positive.
When you quit thinking of these people they won't be around any more.

[mochamajesty]

Originally Posted by AtlantaArtist

It's all about your 'focus'.
Whatever you think about is manifested/attracted...negative or positive.
When you quit thinking of these people they won't be around any more.

AtlantaArtist,

That's the thing...I hadn't thought of her in months. I wonder if it is possible to think of something and not be aware of it? Scary thought.

[AtlantaArtist]

I wonder if it is possible to think of something and not be aware of it?

yep...the ole sub-conscious

[petewilliams]

It sounds to me like this person is hanging around because of some naggings thoughts or feelings in your subconscious. Now that you have noticed this person again, those feelings have come to the surface, as you mentioned above.

Perhaps this is a sign that you need to deal with those feelings, and that may involve taking the blame for what you did, and accepting the consequences of your actions. (Without knowing what you did it's hard to speculate, but it's clear that you feel remorse for whatever you did, and cannot move past those feelings of guilt and fear.) Although it may seem like a daunting thing to do, I bet you'll come out of it feeling better about yourself.

Pete

[Parthon]

Originally Posted by mochamajesty

Thanks, Groundless.

It's just that I did something horrible to this person not too long ago, and I thought that I had moved past it. Not only does her very presence remind me of what I did, but I could actually get in trouble for it. I am feeling all types of emotions right now:

Fear (of getting in trouble for what I did)

Guilt (for hurting the person)

Hope (now that I have changed, maybe it would change the outcome of this?)

I really want to believe that no one can do anything to me, unless I allow it. I am really trying to come to a place of acceptance and peace...and admittedly, also wanting to stay out of trouble.

This really rang true for me.

I think you are at a bit of a plateau, or at least coming up to one soon. This person must have been reattracted into your life because whatever you did has to be brought up and dealt with before you can move forward. The waves of the result of the action are in the universe and it's not until you accept responsibility for your actions and take steps to rectify it that the ripples will subside.

The guilt is just a reflection of what you know you must do deep down. Listen to your intuition and get some direction on the next step.

[mochamajesty]

Thanks everyone for your thoughtful responses. In this small amount of time, I have come to terms with this, in many ways.

I do not believe in karma, so I kept asking the Universe, "why is this coming up again?" I received an answer on the way to work this morning.

Ever since this woman reappeared, I really looked at my life. I fear losing everything that I have... my reputation; my material possessions, everything. But, this was the very same life that I was complaining about a few months ago!

I kept thinking, "I wish I had a better life." Well, now that I stand in danger of losing everything, the life that I have now looks pretty darn great. I am an Early Riser, I am going back to school (and really applying myself!), and I am finding things to do to improve myself. In short, I am appreciating the life that I have now, and moving towards making my life better. Before...I used to sit in front of the TV or computer and wonder when my new life was going to show up.

So.... if nothing else, this situation has changed the way that I feel about my life.

I am listening to my inner guidance on the next physical step to take with her. I already put out to the Universe that I want the best resolution for everyone involved. Now, I have no doubt that the Universe will deliver (through action or otherwise).

[Parthon]

That's fantastic to hear. Good luck on that.

Just a quick question though. Have you expored what it would be like to lose everything you have? After all it's just stuff, and you will eventually lose it one day. Perhaps it's an opportunity to look past the "stuff" in your life through to what you are really grateful for.

I'm going to go do that right now in a meditation.

[jeff3]

Confession is good for the soul. Maybe you could find an impartial person to talk this out with in detail, perhaps a priest or someone similar.(you don't have to belong to their religion for it to help)

It could be that she desires to know who harmed her and your guilt is part of the process of her finding out.

You could try to rectify the situation anonymously by, sending her monetary compensation, using IM on her behalf, or going through a visualization of the 2 of you talking this out to a satisfying result.

If you have a great deal of fear and emotion tied to your actions, the thing you fear may very well come to pass (think Job). Deal with the guilt and fear or it will deal with you.

[mochamajesty]

Originally Posted by Parthon

That's fantastic to hear. Good luck on that.

Just a quick question though. Have you expored what it would be like to lose everything you have? After all it's just stuff, and you will eventually lose it one day. Perhaps it's an opportunity to look past the "stuff" in your life through to what you are really grateful for.

I'm going to go do that right now in a meditation.

You mean explore it in a meditation? No...I haven't tried that yet. Hmmm...that may be a good way to release the fear.