Got bored of law of attraction or intention-manifestation

[Jack]

I got bored because it causes me to think like i am responsible(or at least have a share) for some bad events which my family or other people lives.

The last example,and it's a very bad example is,i have a friend and he sometimes goes to other cities for business trips.When i hear that he goes to another city,i feel like it is dangerous,he may have an accident.His last business trip was three days ago,and when i heard he went to another city for business trip,i got a bit afraid,and after day one,i thought like he is lucky he didn't have a car accident,but yesterday i sent him a message(sms) and asked him how is he,and what was the answer?"We had a car accident,we crashed to a lorry and waiting for the police to come"

Also I remember the two days which i tried to manifest something about our car,i said many times to myself "Our car is protected by unlimited power" and dreamed that there is an energy ocean around our car and it is protecting the car from accidents.Then guess what happened?Seemed like my words caused opposite things,we had a small car accident in the first day,(my father crashed to a car which was at our back while going out from parking area) and in another day i dreamed the same thing and repeated the same words,and we had another small car accident too(a car got too closed to our car,and we crashed it while turning left)

[Acting Like Godot]

Originally Posted by Jack

i said many times to myself "Our car is protected by unlimited power" and dreamed that there is an energy ocean around our car and it is protecting the car from accidents.Then guess what happened?Seemed like my words caused opposite things,we had a small car accident in the first day

Ummm, you're not supposed to think about accidents.

[Anagogy]

ALG is right. Your thoughts are attracting experiences to you. You don't attract for another, only yourself. The caveat in that statement being that most are not deliberately creating their experience, but reacting by default to experiences that appear to be random in nature. People say, "I don't want THAT to happen to me. Please universe don't let THAT happen to me!" But, you see, focussing on THAT attracts THAT. And the more you push against it, the more you are just beating yourself back against the rocks, because it will continue to crop up in your reality. Now, for all I know, you weren't thinking about accidents, but from what you've written, it sure sounds like you were. It's something to consider at least.

[RT Wolf]

Its not so much words, but the vibration or feeling caused by them. Did you really feel protected by your imagery?

Here's the theory anyhoo: the law of attraction is always in effect, whether you believe it or not. In fact, the alternative to not using the LoA consciously is using it unconsciously. And a conscious, growth-oriented life is about moving towards higher consciousness of more things in your life. If you don't want to accept hte responsibility that comes with this power, that's ok. But you are also giving up the ability to create consciously with this power, including to create wonderful things in your life.

The LoA is really just a magnifier of your thoughts and beliefs and who you are and how you're feeling.

I doubt that you'll be able to just forget about the LoA. Anytime anything good or bad will happen, you will question yourself and try to look through your thoughts to find some sort of intention or synchronisity.

Alternatively, I believe this article says something similar to what you are talking about:
Mr Wang Says So: Mindhacking Safe & Simple - Part 1

Aside from the actual belief in LoA, everything else has positive consequences unrelated to it. Watch your thoughts. That's important for achieving any sorts of goals, including not letting doubt creep in. Allow and be at peace. Yep, that makes life better regardless of whether its used in the LoA concept. And so on.

[Jack]

Thanks for your answers

I don't think that i can forget about loa either,i don't want to forget too.

I want to ask another question,am i responsible for my father's angry behaviours or can i blame him for being a too much angry person?

"And the more you push against it, the more you are just beating yourself back against the rocks, because it will continue to crop up in your reality."
My confusion is (i still couldn't find the exact and true answer),you said that your reality,what u mean by that?Do everybody have their own reality or is there just one shared reality?(i think like this is a never ending question and i doubt if someone knows the right answer)

[RT Wolf]

Two different schools of thought about that.

1. Hicks-wise. everybody creates their own reality and you can't attract for another.
2. subjective reality like steve posts about. shared reality, we are all extensions of one consciousness.

Solution? prolly like steve does: adopt each belief in turn for a little bit and see which works best.

[Jack]

Hmm,if i can create my own reality,can i be able to NOT attract scarfed head women into my reality without moving to another country?

[Anagogy]

Originally Posted by Jack

I want to ask another question,am i responsible for my father's angry behaviours or can i blame him for being a too much angry person?

"And the more you push against it, the more you are just beating yourself back against the rocks, because it will continue to crop up in your reality."
My confusion is (i still couldn't find the exact and true answer),you said that your reality,what u mean by that?Do everybody have their own reality or is there just one shared reality?(i think like this is a never ending question and i doubt if someone knows the right answer)

Ask yourself this question: how does anything interact with anything? The answer is, of course, there is a connection. Connection implies unity. Ultimately there is only one mind, and therefore one reality. But don't assume that this one mind has limitations. It is the space in which limitations are constructed or removed for the purpose of creation or destruction. It can do an infinity of things at once. Egos are like eyes for that one mind, and it has an infinity of them. An ego is a filter for experiencing reality in a specific way. These "eyes" can look at the same thing if they want. For example, there are many eyes looking at this reality. This is what makes it a "consensus reality". The perception of objectivity is created by a given number of eyes choosing to observe/create the same reality.

Originally Posted by Jack

Hmm,if i can create my own reality,can i be able to NOT attract scarfed head women into my reality without moving to another country?

Conceivably yes, you could. The action part of your reality takes a back seat to the thoughts or vibration you offer. So if you flawlessly exercised intention-manifestation you could filter out that observation from your experience. Easier said than done. For example, DON'T think about scarfed headed women! Oh, darn, you just did... Good luck though.

[Lil Chris]

Originally Posted by Jack

Hmm,if i can create my own reality,can i be able to NOT attract scarfed head women into my reality without moving to another country?

Find the true opposite of "scarfed head women". This would be something like women with long flowing hair. Focus on women showing their long flowing hair, think about that, look for that, focus on that...

Then when you notice it, take notice of it, for example: when you start thinking about women showing their long flowing hair, it may show up not in actual women on the street but say in magazines, billboards, on tv, etc... but take notice of this. then say to your self "hey look at her long flowing hair, I like women that show their hair". What you want to do is make the shift from noticing scarfed wearing women, to women showing their hair.

Am I making any sense...?

[Jack]

Thanks for your answers

It's great,wonderful to hear that it is possible for me to not attract scarved head people.(or other type of people who i hate)I have read in a Louise Hay's book that men who hit women can't even know about her, cause she has changed her beliefs and will not attract them,and this was the first hope for me that i may get freed of people like scarved head people who i hate.

Will only my noticing get shifted from scarved head people to flowing hair people,or will i also attract only flowing hair people and will not come across,see and hear about scarved head people?

If we choose to go with Abraham Hicks,does everybody have their TOTALY own reality?For example,while i am talking with my mother,all i see is my reality,maybe she is not talking to me in her reality?If this isn't true,then doesn't this mean that we have a shared reality?

[Angela]

Jack, if you are trying to manifest avoiding people who wear scarves and other people you hate, I hope you realize the biggest thing you're manifesting: Hatred and being Hateful.

Until you can create a space for yourself for others to have freedom to wear whatever what they wear, and to be exactly who they are, your own life will also be ruled by your own stingy constriction. You will never be free from scarf-headed women until you can grant freedom to scarf-headed women.

[Acting Like Godot]

You inflict traffic accidents on others; you have issues with an angry father; and you hate women with scarves.

You sound terribly negative. Perhaps it is advisable for you to stay away from attempting to use LOA consciously, until you resolve some of your own personal issues.

[Acting Like Godot]

And in that other thread, you post hypothetical situations about your uncle getting cancer.

Sigh.

Cancer, traffic accidents, angry parents, and women with scarves whom you hate.

While these things are the focus of your mind, you should stay away from trying to use LOA.

[Jack]

Acting like Godot,i have problems about focussing on what i want like you see.
Even if i don't try to use Loa,my focussing on what i don't want will still attract bad things,won't it?But if i learn using Loa very well and become sure that it is working,i may start focussing on things which i want cause i will know that i will attract things which i like,and for preventing bad experiences i will try not to think about-focus on bad things.

Angela,i can't grant people to wear what they want(i hate some type of other clothes too),it's one of the most difficult things for me to do it.If it's not possible to change their clothes or attract only what i want,then the only other option for me is not to go outside of home(or if i have to go outside then to close my eyes),not to watch tv,not to read newspaper,be careful on internet against some types of clothes and words(i am doing these now)My father's angriness is far less problem for me,it's a very small problem if i compare it to the clothes problem.

[Angela]

Well, Jack, what you've been saying is pretty scary. I think you'd be very wise to seek professional help. Good luck to you!

[Jack]

I am going to and went to many psychiatrists,am taking and took many anti-depressans but neither of them solved my problem.

So isn't it possible to attract only women with flowing hair?

[Acting Like Godot]

What are you seeing a psychiatrist for?

Anything to do with women, scarves or flowing hair?

[Parthon]

Jack: You need to start thought pruning .. NOW.

When you are focusing on NOT attracting certain people .. you are in fact still focussing on those people. Every time you see those people you think "Oh noes! Those people again! I thought I was not attracting them!" and you focus on them some more. You think about accidents that people might have, then you think "No! I don't want them to have an accident!" and you focus even more intently on accidents.

If you think of your mind as a garden, with the bad thoughts weeds and good thoughts as flowers, imagine what your mind is like right now. I'm guessing it's like a overgrown thorny patch of weeds where flowers can't grow. So taken up by bad thoughts that the good ones can't grow at the moment. They are being stifled by the weeds.

How do you weed your thought garden? Same as you do a real garden, see the weeds, find the weeds, pull the weeds out and throw them away. How do you do that with thoughts? When you have a thought, ask if it's a weed or a flower, and if it's a weed discard it, let it go, throw it in the bin and get rid of it. If it's a flower, keep it, nurture it, water it and let it grow. It's just a choice in the moment of thought to either keep it or throw it away.

Be careful though, It's the THOUGHT itself you want to throw away. Thinking an opposite thought on top of the first thought doesn't throw it away, it just covers up the weed with dirt so it can surface later, stronger. If you catch yourself thinking a negative thought, then thinking "No, I'll concentrate on that not happening." then you've just covered it. The only way to weed thoughts is to listen to them, acknowledge them, then give them up. As you think a negative thought, follow it with "Oh, I'm thinking about something negative, I accept that I'm thinking about it, and I'm stopping thinking about it." The other thing you can't do is throw away the subject of the thought. If you think negatively about something or someone, you can't throw that something or someone away. You have to throw the thought itself away, just to stop thinking negatively about that something or someone then and there.

Pruning negative thoughts and growing positive ones is really a skill that has to be learnt, and practiced. You aren't going to be able to do this in a day, a week or even a year. It's going to take a decade of dedication roughly, but you can be sure that after a decade you will have a cleaner mind and spirit, unburdened by negative thoughts. The clarity and wisdom that comes from this is unimaginable when you are still stuck in a weedy thought garden.

For the best free book on this read As A Man Thinketh, probably the first of books relating to this kind of thought training. And good luck with it, don't be discouraged and have fun.

[Jack]

Thanks for your answers.
Parthon, your answer is a bit long,and seems very good,i am going to read it with details after my this post.

Acting Like Godot,yes i am seeing a psychiatrist for scarves too,but not limited to it.I don't want to talk about details,but i can say basically,i have social phobia at a high level,and have many obsessions.

[Jack]

If i concentrate more on flowing hair women,will i start to attract more of them and less with scarves?

Also thanks for your free book recommendation Parthon,i downloaded it.

[dancer]

Jack, have you ever stopped to wonder what is under scarves? Here's a thought... flowing long hair. Not sure why you have a problem with scarves, but what you are intending, you are getting, but you are blinded by the scarf, my friend. And, like many have pointed out - no surprise with the scarf either, as that seems to be your main focus. Sounds like you are getting both and possibly no disaster.

Like all of us, you may attract whatever you want. Experiement and keep us updated on all your great manifestations or ask for advice re. your roadblocks.

I intend you peace of mind.

[Jack]

I have read this sentences on a web page and liked them very much:
"So, to what do you say “yes” today? Will you say “yes” to freedom? Consider the many yeses that lead you to true freedom. Every decision is a choice. Do not fall victim to the erroneous and currently-popular belief that “I am supposed to say ‘yes’ to everything that comes to me.” Instead, know that you are to discern whether those things that come to you are the things that you desire, and say yes to them."

I don't want to say "yes" to everything which comes to me,i want to say "yes" to only what i want to see in my reality.

[Dharma]

Originally Posted by Jack

I don't want to say "yes" to everything which comes to me,i want to say "yes" to only what i want to see in my reality.

Those things which have come to you you've already said yes to. Saying 'no' is pretty moot once something manifests. I agree you should put your focus on what you want.