Focusing on "Preferred State"?

[chitownwriter]

Hello!

I'm new here (just recently introduced myself in the "General" thread if you're curious. I'm already enjoying the intelligent discussions going on in this forum!

Just wanted to throw this out there-- I am able to very clearly identify what I want, set goals, stuff like that (it took awhile for me to be able to do this without my inner voice going "you can't get that!", so I'm really proud of that). I meditate, take "inspired action," exercise, continually improve myself, do gratitude exercises every day, all of that stuff.

Here's the challenge I'm experiencing at the moment: once I've identified a "preferred state," (say, a new living situation, a more tranquil environment, more money coming in, etc), then I really notice the situation I'm trying to leave behind. It's almost as if identifying a "preferred state" throws the current one into a negative light by contrast. I think this might be why I avoided setting goals in the first place.

From an Abraham-Hicks perspective, I guess this discomfort could be seen as a good thing, although once I let it upset me, they would probably say that I am throwing myself out of vibrational harmony, making it less likely I'm going to achieve that goal. Then again, according to John Randolph Price, once a goal is set, you are supposed to literally try to IGNORE outward circumstance (so that it will die on the vine). This makes me wonder if one is supposed to consider "not getting" the goal (in the present) as part of getting the goal (in the future), or if something ELSE needs to change in order to shift things and get them going.

My problem is, when outward circumstance DOESN'T change, I start to get depressed, wonder what I'm doing wrong, etc. For instance, why am I still living in a townhouse, when for two years I've been visualizing my million-dollar mansion? It's not like I stop to think this all the time and put alot of energy toward it, but every once in awhile when I'm reviewing my goals, I have to think "hey, I'm still here! I can still hear my neighbor's stereo, even though in my mind I live on a private compound." I mean, some discomfort is normal, right, because that's what pushes us to be more successful? How, then, to totally ignore it?

Anyone have this problem? Any thoughts? Feel free to tell me I'm way overthinking everything.

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[cylon]

I think Hicks' would say, your current circumstances are manifestations of what you were thinking about previously, nothing more or less. That you only keep in your mind the "preferred state", see it as clearly as possible... if you do that and the good feelings come, then you're on the way. Then of course you look around and see it's not there (could be right on its way) so you're again observing, the manifestations of your previous thoughts, and the cycle starts anew. I think they would say don't deny what you have created, but take ownership of it, and realize that it was you that created it.

As far as ignoring, I don't know if that would work or not. I prefer to accept the current moment as a manifestation of the past. I think it comes down to, you either believe what you want is real, or you don't. That, and don't be too concerned with "how" it's coming, which could limit you as well. The constant thinking of lack in the past has a strong momentum, and you need to keep coming back to the present and reaffirm what you want and get all excited and passionate about it, again.

It's not like I'm there yet, I'm still new at this... just clarifying the Hicks' stuff I've been reading lately, to myself.

[mlbr23]

The trick is to focus upon the emotions, the feelings and thoughts, i.e. the inner state that you might experience if you get what you want. Make it a bigger priority than the actual physical thing that you desire.

Get used to the feeling state of already having what you want and condition yourself not to bind / chain / link it to the physical stuff.

You can generate any emotion at will, but not materialise physical matter out of thin air (maybe not yet).

Be grateful for what you already have then gently lead it to what you want.

For e.g. "I am deeply thankful for the roof over my head and the food on my table, and I would be deeply thankful and joyful if the roof over my head belongs to a beautiful mansion as well"