Attractiveness

[RT Wolf]

Your relationship with yourself exposes itself in your relationship with others and vice versa. If you have difficulty forgiving yourself, then you'll have difficulty forgiving others, etc. What jjclark said is almost paramount in that theory of human relationships.

[sourceofmiracles]

Women are attracted to confidence. Getting in shape seems to work too. When i'm in shape I feel more confident and the confidence radiates off of me like a magnet.

it works, man.

[bigadam]

Find a good weight lifting routine and get started immediately. Stick with it. I personally recommend Men's Health.com as a site that has routines for every goal, whether it's building muscle or burning fat.

If you're new to weight lifting, be careful going to bodybuilding.com as a previous poster recommended, you can get lost in the information there and the huge amount of contradicting advice.

A good weight lifting routine will improve your appearance and your posture, and skin and teeth problems always look better on someone with an athletic frame (forget that Brad Pitt Fight Club nonsense).

[coleflowers]

It's hard to say what would help enhance your appearance without actually seeing you. Do you have a trusted friend that could give you honest feedback? What you may really focus on as a flaw, may not be seen as negatively by someone else.

IMO there are two parts to making yourself more attractive. The first is to change the things you can. Depending on your budget you can get your teeth fixed, see a dermatologist, get a haircut, and buy new clothes all of which can contribute to your overall asthetic look.

The second part is to accept and embrace the things you can not change. If you are accepting of yourself, others will respond to that. Insecurity is like a giant neon sign that follows you around and tells others to notice what's "wrong" with you.

Also, as much as it is frustrating have patience. I think high school girls tend to be more critical of a guy's appearance. If you can make it through the next few years I think you will be able to find a wider variety of girls who find different things attractive.

[stellabeam]

Happiness is very sexy.

[beautyscientist]

Do exactly what I say - it will help you.

Look at yourself in a mirror. Rate your attractiveness on a scale of 1-5, where 1 is pug ugly and 5 is potential Hollywood star. Average is 3.

Done that?

Your true rating is one notch higher.

How do I know?

I don't have the paper to hand, but there has been a study that shows almost everybody underates their appearance. Typically people underate themselves by about 20%. So unless you are abnormal, you rate a point higher than you think.

Don't go back an rerate yourself - this is a one off an permenant upgrade. As a bonus you also all the excellent advice you have been given in this thread that will give you an advantage over the other guys your own age.

One last bit of good news. Girls tend to prefer guys a few years older than themselves, and this will work more to your advantage over the next couple of years.

[Erki]

Originally Posted by beautyscientist

One last bit of good news. Girls tend to prefer guys a few years older than themselves, and this will work more to your advantage over the next couple of years.

Hasn't worked for me for some reason.

[beautyscientist]

Originally Posted by Erki

Hasn't worked for me for some reason.

I was referring specifically to teenage boys Erki, i.e., if you are 16 as the OP, then as you get older the pool of females who consider you potential mate material increases from age 16 upwards. The sad fact is that your general attractiveness will decline once you are mature.

There is a lot of fascinating information about attractiveness generally much of which can be turned into simple tips. I have a talk I give on this subject and I am in the process of turning it into a website.

[munish]

http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/200...of-confidence/

http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/200...ng-confidence/

[LillyoftheValley]

Dear Art,Ree has a great point!
I'll just add my 3 tops:

Radiate with confidence and goodness, and you'll attract the like.

Taking care of your physical appearance can't hurt either. Find your style and dress your inner self. It should all look like you're not trying too hard

And nourish your sense of humor. If you make a woman smile, no skin issue can beat that

Relax and it will all come to you.

[PantherFootball]

- I'm a white, male, 16 years old.
- I have mild excema on my cheeks. It makes them look a little rough and red sometimes, but it's usually not particularly noticeable.
- My teeth are "spacey." They were good enough not to need braces, but they don't look so great when compared to all the kids who had braces and now have perfect teeth.
- I'm average weight.

Any tips on clothing, personal body/face care, and body language? Thanks a lot!

You're pretty young and you will still develop physically as you get older. You won't look the way you look forever

As long as you do the best you can with what you've got, that's all that matters. Try some Proactiv for your cheeks. I don't know what to do with your teeth. Nobody's perfect For your weight, try bulking up and building muscle. It does wonders for your confidence level.

[John Hill]

I bet there are heaps of people you know who think you are fantastic, you just need to see what they see and you will start feeling fantastic about yourself.

Here are some tips on Body Language for Attracting People.

John