Last longer in bed

[mati]

Hi
This is a tough question for me.. I would like to last longer in bed so I don't have to do it always a second time (after recovering within a few minutes) to really please my girl. I have tried the PC muscle workout but they havent helped me I think.
Any recomendations or tips? or books that I should read?
Thanks

[Arthutch]

Taoist Secrets of Love by Mantak Chia is a great book to learn how to last longer and have multiple orgasms. But more importantly, it will teach you how this relates to cultivating male sexual energy and raising spiritual consciousness. Do what this book says, and you will become a beast.

[zeitgeist]

Perhaps you consider this cheating, but it works for me. Condoms with chemicals inside that delay the pleasure; I think they are called durex

[stanmrak]

Learn to pleasure your woman using your fingers; enlist her help in discovering her sensitive spots and what kind of stroke feels best to her. A master of this technique can extend a woman's orgasm indefinitely.

FYI, the penis does not even make good contact with her most sensitive parts during intercourse, so it's not a good way to get her off.

Intercourse, while certainly fun, is highly overrated as a sex act.

Think about this: as you are trying to give your woman maximum pleasure using intercourse, you're going to have a good part of your attention on your own orgasm. This is not a formula for success!

[firenexx]

Mantak Chia's book (there are two versions) may be good but the shorter version does not go into enough detail about the spiritual practices, which is extremely dangerous. Basically you are learning to withhold ejaculation but this is a complicated matter dealing with subtle energies - unless you know how to circulate them and have a feel for your chi body in addition to your physical body, you may end up severely harming yourself, both mentally and physically.
If you don't "believe" in the wishy-washy energy stuff, just think of how bizarre holding in an ejaculation is - you have to know how to do it properly or else you could be doing internal damage.

Instead of Chia's book, I would recommend a book called "Tantric Sex" by Ethan Vorly. It details this process. Google it, it is available as an e-book.

Another thing. Some studies say that if you routinely masturbate by rubbing the underside of your shaft, you are more likely to have problems with erection and premature ejaculation. You should generally circle your fingers around it (think: vagina) rather than rubbing just one side.

Also, for some, smoking weed or drinking alcohol affects this.
Watching porn frequently can also give you all sorts of problems. There was a thread on here about this recently.

[GregD]

Hi. Here is a thing or two.

- breathing
very important. sometimes people forget to breathe. breathing calms and allows circulation and prevents energy build up in one place.

- more than the "O"
many people focus on the "O". that makes the mind anxious. remember the connection is what's precious. massage / explore / discover many other places. this helps keep mind away from the "O".

- if no mind body can not "O"
this one is a little bit rude, but you can use it as a tool, just don't tell your partner you are using it. in order for the "O" to happen both mind and body need to be in the same place. if your mind is in totally another place while the body is doing the mechanical action then "O" (but also any pleasure) is not possible. if you think about your job or your problems or other totally unrelated to the present action things and you really think about them and basically ignore what you are doing then the woman can have many "O" but you will not have any, but you will also not have any pleasure of any kind from it. still, to train the body is ok to use.
just to add, this is actually when one person is in love and the other is not. the one that is in love will have "O" and the other will not - cause just don't care you see. less care less pleasure. more care more fire.