Masturbation: World's slowest learner?

[secretID]

I, in my 20's, have for the first time learned to masturbate. I'm a little embarrased by this, I feel like a 30 year old would if he was still in middle school. I mean how could I have NOT learned to do this? I mean, I don't intend to have sex until marriage, but despite this "belief" I have thought about sex every obsessively since the age of 12, and yet I never even accidently masturbated, even when I was fondling my tool. I've known how to do it since 15 but somehow I never learned to do it for myself. Really, learning to masturbate would have made all my teenage years so much easier, I mean everybody has teenage angst, but what if you also had incredible sexual tension without any way to release it, even for moment; and actually, I've been as horny as when I was as a teenager right uptil now, and nowadays I am almost never horny, and my work performance and focus have skyrocketed. Really, people have some retarded problems, but my problem... well it goes without saying.

Anycase, if any of you would consider yourself to be "late to the game" when it comes to masturbation, let me know. I'm sure I'm not the ONLY ONE in the world, or maybe I am? Does that make me unique?

[PianoManGidley]

You've had wet dreams, though, I'm sure--your body has had to find SOME way of releasing certain amounts of sperm and seminal fluid regularly since puberty, or else you'd have testicles the size of watermelons...oO

90% of men and 70% of women openly admit to masturbating regularly (including myself!)--the rest lie. :-P

[yossarian]

are you a man or woman?

[schola]

Dude trust me. You're not missing out on much. It's cool at first, but after the 100,000th time, it gets a little boring.

But anyway, congratulations on your achievement.

[Erebos]

heh, masturbation certainly has physical and mental benefits. It's nothing to lose sleep over.

[secretID]

Originally Posted by schola

Dude trust me. You're not missing out on much. It's cool at first, but after the 100,000th time, it gets a little boring.

But anyway, congratulations on your achievement.

Man, if it takes me 100,000 times till I get bored, then I will be living in heaven all my life. This thing leaves me feeling completely content for a few hours at least. I think I finally understand some people naturally have such a calm personality, I think they just masturbate a lot.

[JorgeHTQH]

Masterbation is abuse to your genitals....The penus was not made to be used in this manner.

It took me years to even stop doing it. I still struggle with it from time to time. But I've come to hate it and go hard on myself whenever I fail. The best way to stop is to get rid of those sexual thoughts as fast as they enter into your mind. And start filling your mind with positives, such as articles from this website, good clean TV and good clean music.

Just try to think good clean thoughts and kep busy working and not thinking about sex or masterbating. It's not healthy regardless of what society. Society and the media has one goal in mind and that is to turn us all into perverts. What goes in comes out. you watch porn all day and you'll become a pervert. Most shows on tv are nothing but soft porn.

That's just my point of view.. I'm sure everyone has their own but deep down inside every normal person knows that it is wrong and it is abuse... good luck... any sexual activitie should be performed between a husband and his wife. Save your sperm and use that energy to grow...

Read the chapter on sex in the book Think and Grow Rich.... Smart men know to contain their sexual desires and gear them towards personal development and growth in every area of their life...

good luck kid...

[Dave Kaminski]

Originally Posted by JorgeHTQH

Masterbation is abuse to your genitals....The penus was not made to be used in this manner.

Be careful taking sexual advice from someone who misspells penis, and who establishes he knows how the penis was made to be used without providing information on the healthy use of your penis.

Second, it's your penis, and what you choose to do with it is your choice.

Third, I maintain that it's never too late to learn anything, and you'll definitely enjoy learning that process if you allow yourself to.

I would suggest using your imagination for stimulation and not external resources, as this will help you to build control over your sexuality in a healthy manner, as well as allow you to explore without external stimulus what your fantasies and turn ons are

[Tasaio]

Originally Posted by secretID

Anycase, if any of you would consider yourself to be "late to the game" when it comes to masturbation, let me know. I'm sure I'm not the ONLY ONE in the world, or maybe I am? Does that make me unique?

I was twelve years old. One night, my frantic fondling and pulling-down finally caused me to ejaculate. But that short-term pleasure was nothing compared to the worry and anxiety I would go through, over the next few years.

At that time, I thought that I had something physically wrong with my reproductive system. Somehow...I was able to ejaculate by myself--I didn't need a girlfriend to have sex with. I figured, if anyone found out, they would want to use surgery to learn how I developed this special ability, which I thought unique to my body.

I knew I was addicted to this...ability...and felt that I was no different from a crack coccaine addict. I was terrified to tell anyone, lest the "solution" involve surgery. Or, even worse, my special ability being leaked to the press. I was afraid of becoming known as "the amazing kid who could ejaculate by himself". I also assumed that I had a finite number of sperm, and that I was prematurely "using them up" by ejaculating.

. . .

Anyway, I eventually confessed my "addiction" to a close family member, just before entering high school at age fourteen. She kindly explained that everyone--everyone--could (and did!) masturbate, as I learned it was called. To my shock, apparently even my militaristic father (whom I was most afraid of finding out my secret) masturbated regularly.

It's amazing, as you grow older and get away from conservative Bible-thumping parents, just how much worry and stress melts away.

[Erebos]

Originally Posted by JorgeHTQH

Masterbation is abuse to your genitals....The penus was not made to be used in this manner.

It took me years to even stop doing it. I still struggle with it from time to time. But I've come to hate it and go hard on myself whenever I fail. The best way to stop is to get rid of those sexual thoughts as fast as they enter into your mind. And start filling your mind with positives, such as articles from this website, good clean TV and good clean music.

Just try to think good clean thoughts and kep busy working and not thinking about sex or masterbating. It's not healthy regardless of what society. Society and the media has one goal in mind and that is to turn us all into perverts. What goes in comes out. you watch porn all day and you'll become a pervert. Most shows on tv are nothing but soft porn.

That's just my point of view.. I'm sure everyone has their own but deep down inside every normal person knows that it is wrong and it is abuse... good luck... any sexual activitie should be performed between a husband and his wife. Save your sperm and use that energy to grow...

Read the chapter on sex in the book Think and Grow Rich.... Smart men know to contain their sexual desires and gear them towards personal development and growth in every area of their life...

good luck kid...

And this, everyone, is what we like to call faulty logic. Notice how this person is trying to equate masturbation (spelled with a U) with being a pervert. The implication: If you masturbate, you're a ******* pervert. You might as well start sneaking into the ladies washroom or molesting kids while your at it. 90% of men and 70% of women are perverts. It's the silly slippery slope this person is trying to set up. If you step on and kill a bug, then obviously, your next goal is to kill another human being.

This person may not realize it, but take a look at this part:

Society and the media has one goal in mind and that is to turn us all into perverts. What goes in comes out. you watch porn all day and you'll become a pervert. Most shows on tv are nothing but soft porn.

From the premises derived from these sentences, if you watch TV, you are a pervert. Makes beautiful sense, doesn't it?

Masterbation is abuse to your genitals....The penus was not made to be used in this manner.

Ask yourselves everyone, if you don't ejaculate with your penis, what other purpose does it have? Can you play the piano with it? Or paint a picture? Your eyes also have their own function. But of course, using your eyes to LOOK at things is now considered abuse to your eyes. Honestly, you don't even need logic to understand the facts. If you prefer someone else do your thinking, just read up on masturbation, as see how many experts really think it's abuse. People who have sex multiple times a day are obviously abusing their genitals.

That's just my point of view.. I'm sure everyone has their own but deep down inside every normal person knows that it is wrong and it is abuse... good luck... any sexual activitie should be performed between a husband and his wife. Save your sperm and use that energy to grow...

Well, it's become apparent that this point of view (as opposed to the truth) has no rational basis behind it. Also take note, that none of this person's claims are backed by factual evidence, only opinions and prejudices from what I'm guessing is a very ignorant upbringing. As I've already stated, some people have sex multiple times a day. Other people masturbate. According to this person, one is abuse and a waste of energy, while the other one is not. It doesn't take that much education to know that your body will always put in plenty of energy into making sperm regardless if you choose to expel it or not. Seriously, if people don't masturbate, that's their choice. But there's no need to come up with irrational justifications such as this.

Honestly, the only way this argument can become any more irrational is if this person brings in the Bible.

Now if you'll excuse me, I need to go and lose faith in all of humanity...again.

[mlc82]

Originally Posted by Tasaio

I was twelve years old. One night, my frantic fondling and pulling-down finally caused me to ejaculate. But that short-term pleasure was nothing compared to the worry and anxiety I would go through, over the next few years.

At that time, I thought that I had something physically wrong with my reproductive system. Somehow...I was able to ejaculate by myself--I didn't need a girlfriend to have sex with. I figured, if anyone found out, they would want to use surgery to learn how I developed this special ability, which I thought unique to my body.

I knew I was addicted to this...ability...and felt that I was no different from a crack coccaine addict. I was terrified to tell anyone, lest the "solution" involve surgery. Or, even worse, my special ability being leaked to the press. I was afraid of becoming known as "the amazing kid who could ejaculate by himself". I also assumed that I had a finite number of sperm, and that I was prematurely "using them up" by ejaculating.

. . .

Anyway, I eventually confessed my "addiction" to a close family member, just before entering high school at age fourteen. She kindly explained that everyone--everyone--could (and did!) masturbate, as I learned it was called. To my shock, apparently even my militaristic father (whom I was most afraid of finding out my secret) masturbated regularly.

It's amazing, as you grow older and get away from conservative Bible-thumping parents, just how much worry and stress melts away.

Same here, I was 11 or 12 as well the first time and was absolutely terrified after I realized what I'd done- I thought for sure it meant I was going to end up becoming an insane rapist or something, because I honestly thought no sane person did it. I remember as well thinking that, if I were ever caught, I'd probably be put in an insane asylum for the rest of my life. Strangely enough, I don't know where I got these ideas, definitely not from parents who weren't bible-beating nutcases by any means, somehow I guess I just came up with it all on my own- I'm sure being dragged to a Baptist church every weekend didn't help.

As an aside, anyone who claims you should "never masturbate" or seems somehow terrified of their own genitalia genuinely worries me- reminds me again of the Baptist church I had to attend as a kid. I'm sure though that just like me, every boy there my age at the time and older, all that preaching about hell and immorality be damned, went straight home and into the bathroom to masturbate thinking about the hot women that attended

[JorgeHTQH]

Here's a quote from Steve's Daily Blog:

"A man is careful not to allow his energy to get stuck at the level of lust. He re-channels much of his sexual energy into his heart and head, where it can serve his higher values instead of just his animal instincts.

A man channels his sexual energy into his heart-centered pursuits. He feels such energy pulsing within him, driving him to action. He feels uncomfortable standing still. He allows his sexual energy to explode through his heart, not just his genitals."

......End

And as for the other post above, so what if I misspelled a few words... who cares about spelling? Only people looking for excuses like some of the post above try to tear down in everyway possible...

And as for the use of the penis?

You use it to put it into the vagina of your wife to express your love for each other and to make babies.... and of course you use it to pee... But you don't pull and stretch on it... that IS abuse.. it doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure that out...

Sometimes I can't believe how blind most people are not knowing the difference between right and wrong, purity and perversion... No wonder this country is going down the drain.. or maybe it's just that people these days love to do what is wrong.

I saw another post on this forum about a lady who wants to write porn and promote it on her website... I told her to drop it as this would only promote more filth into the world.. but everyone else said, yes , do it, can't wait to see your site...

My goodness, what is wrong with you people.... you guys are on the wrong forum.. You need to go to a sex/pervert/porn forum.

My final words to all of you who enjoy pulling on your penis; stop doing it, get help.. it's wrong and it's abuse. Save your sperm for your future wife...

I feel so sorry for a lot of you guys when the law of attraction comes back to get you. You reap what you sow... don't forget it... Good luck to all of you....

[JimOfferman]

Originally Posted by JorgeHTQH

My goodness, what is wrong with you people....

Nothing is wrong with us, we're just less restricted in our thinking.
Respect our point of view and we'll respect yours.

Save your sperm for your future wife...

There is nothing there to save, because sperm cells only live for a couple of days. Abstinence lowers sperm production, because our bodies were designed to be efficient - switch off what you don't use.

Way I see it, you need to keep sharpening your knife so that when the time comes to finally use it, you don't find yourself holding a blunt instrument.

[Fullcrum]

I respect all the opinions here, but haha Jim, that's funny. Hahaha!

[Susie]

I have a (male) friend who didn't discover this until he was 19 years old. He said after he did he hardly ever left his room for a while there.

[Smarky]

Originally Posted by JorgeHTQH

Masterbation is abuse to your genitals....The penus was not made to be used in this manner.

It took me years to even stop doing it. I still struggle with it from time to time. But I've come to hate it and go hard on myself whenever I fail. The best way to stop is to get rid of those sexual thoughts as fast as they enter into your mind. And start filling your mind with positives, such as articles from this website, good clean TV and good clean music.

Just try to think good clean thoughts and kep busy working and not thinking about sex or masterbating. It's not healthy regardless of what society. Society and the media has one goal in mind and that is to turn us all into perverts. What goes in comes out. you watch porn all day and you'll become a pervert. Most shows on tv are nothing but soft porn.

That's just my point of view.. I'm sure everyone has their own but deep down inside every normal person knows that it is wrong and it is abuse... good luck... any sexual activitie should be performed between a husband and his wife. Save your sperm and use that energy to grow...

Read the chapter on sex in the book Think and Grow Rich.... Smart men know to contain their sexual desires and gear them towards personal development and growth in every area of their life...

good luck kid...

Are you for real? that's the funniest thing i've read all year!

[secretID]

Originally Posted by Susie

I have a (male) friend who didn't discover this until he was 19 years old. He said after he did he hardly ever left his room for a while there.

Actually, I achieved my great feat when I needed to get a lot of work done, and so it was actually quite a relief to me that I found something fun to do that would make me WANT to stay in, distraction free, all alone, so I could get all my work done.

[Lucas]

Originally Posted by JorgeHTQH

Here's a quote from Steve's Daily Blog:

"A man is careful not to allow his energy to get stuck at the level of lust. He re-channels much of his sexual energy into his heart and head, where it can serve his higher values instead of just his animal instincts.

A man channels his sexual energy into his heart-centered pursuits. He feels such energy pulsing within him, driving him to action. He feels uncomfortable standing still. He allows his sexual energy to explode through his heart, not just his genitals."

......End

And as for the other post above, so what if I misspelled a few words... who cares about spelling? Only people looking for excuses like some of the post above try to tear down in everyway possible...

And as for the use of the penis?

You use it to put it into the vagina of your wife to express your love for each other and to make babies.... and of course you use it to pee... But you don't pull and stretch on it... that IS abuse.. it doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure that out...

Sometimes I can't believe how blind most people are not knowing the difference between right and wrong, purity and perversion... No wonder this country is going down the drain.. or maybe it's just that people these days love to do what is wrong.

I saw another post on this forum about a lady who wants to write porn and promote it on her website... I told her to drop it as this would only promote more filth into the world.. but everyone else said, yes , do it, can't wait to see your site...

My goodness, what is wrong with you people.... you guys are on the wrong forum.. You need to go to a sex/pervert/porn forum.

My final words to all of you who enjoy pulling on your penis; stop doing it, get help.. it's wrong and it's abuse. Save your sperm for your future wife...

I feel so sorry for a lot of you guys when the law of attraction comes back to get you. You reap what you sow... don't forget it... Good luck to all of you....

Don't knock masturbation, it's sex with someone I love.






(Woody Allen)

[Trezker]

Men who don't masturbate become rapists. That's my theory...
Has anyone done a study on this?

[ragtag]

Every sperm is sacred.
Every sperm is great.
If a sperm is wasted,
God gets quite irate.

Let the heathen spill theirs
On the dusty ground.
God shall make them pay for
Each sperm that can't be found.

Every sperm is wanted.
Every sperm is good.
Every sperm is needed
In your neighbourhood.

And all sing along now....

-------

Sorry, but I couldn't resist.

[Dave Kaminski]

I see just as many intolerant 'free-thinkers,'

if Jorge feels there are points that haven't been covered or debated to their fullest, he is welcome to bring facts and perspectives into his argument for the sake of the OP.

I suggest that we all stop ganging up on Jorge and talk about why WE THINK his argument is skewed, instead of playing the scarlet letter game, which helps NO ONE.