Anyone with gender issues?

[Cherlene]

Hi, I'm Cherlene, maybe...my goal is to become completely comfortable in my own skin. because right now Im still struggeling at times to understand unconditional self love and acceptance.
I've been seeking a safe place to explore some gender issues and sexuality issues with like minded intelligent people. I believe that I am only one of many many people who are struggleing with self concept and gender identity issues. I was disapponted to have to choose between male and female on the (gender) question, I wanted to leave it blank, so I've chosen a name but will mention that my gender identity remains in question really.
Well, there you have it, I want to help where I can and learn all I can and support anyone experiencing gender and or sexuality "stuff" his is in no way intended to become a crap talk kind of thread, but is intended to become a place of real genuine non-judgemental support of all people who are experiencing these kinds of issues, and as mentioned; remember, there is a real live human being at the other end who is in pain at times and feels terrified at times of simply "Being" here so use your right to comment and or support accordingly, and with maturity.
Thankyou and I look forward to hearing from you all.
Namaste'
Cherlene

[AidanMatthews216]

Hi,

I support you completely. Although I'm not having gender issues myself, that's only because I gave up trying to shove myself into a predetermined gender role, oh, back in sixth grade. As a young kid (I'm arguably still a young kid, 16 ) I knew that I was a boy but I didn't feel like one... why couldn't I just be a... person? I went through a phase of going around telling everybody that I was half male, half female. The middle school girls taught me how to talk like a "valley girl" and swing my hips. Today I realize that none of that meant anything; I was just a really strange and curious kid, who didn't realize what other stuff people put into the phrase "being both ways." Although I consider myself a guy, I don't care what gender I "act like"; I'm gay, I hate the usual boy interests, and mentally I'm a lot like a girl, but not to the point of being transgendered. I'm sure your situation is very different, but I hope this helps in some way. Anyway, the short of it is that I believe it is a complete waste of time to assume a gender identity--if you *have* to tell somebody what you are (people find it so interesting, God knows why ) I always just smile and check in my pants--since that's really where there judgment stops anyway. Beyond that, I feel and act however I like. (If that judgment were impossible to make, hell, I would probably just flip a coin.)

I don't know if that's helpful. But in any case best of luck to you; since I'm struggling with some strong sexuality issues right now, I kind of know where you're coming from.

Cheers,
Aidan.

[Shamou]

Originally Posted by Cherlene

I believe that I am only one of many many people who are struggleing with self concept and gender identity issues.

Would you mind explaining what a "gender issue" is...??? Obviously you know what you are morphologically... a guy or a gal... and, I believe that you also know to which gender you are sexually attracted... so, what else is there to find out...???

I am not being facetious here... I just don't understand...

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[ginkgo]

Part of evolution is to try many different types of humans. There are many intersexuals that have every possible combination like one testicle and one ovary. Also a boy who became a female model had an xxy chromosome. xy is a male and xx is a female. Also every baby starts out as a female and testosterone changes a female into a male. Note that evolution and intersexuals are not acceptable to Chrstians since the bible does not mention it.

Some can be immune to testosterone, so they are a male but physically they stay a female. Also people in the East believe in reincarnation and people remembered being a different gender. So that can also complicate the matter. From what I can tell, a soul should not be attached to either gender so it can accept whatever the body is. But if it is attached to one gender and the soul is another gender, then that is a problem.

In the American society it is better to have characteristics of both. Macho man and frail and weak women are not good. For example the gentleman and the powerful woman are desireable. But this has nothing to do with a person's happiness. See this short article, What is Enlightenment, to see what does matter in finding happiness. It shows that you are not at a disadvantage. It has quotes from top psychologists, medicine and the science of cosmology.