New comer

[Hogag]

New comer! Just want to say hi and I look forward to this forum.
I came across this website by accident as I was searching the net for answers to my marriage dilemma. My husband has been suffering from some sort of personality disorder for the past decade or two. The roller coaster ride I’m living in is hell. The posting I read in here and in many others, all are as if they were written about what me. I am in pickle don't know whether to stay or go.

[Cassieskin]

Hi, i'm a new comer aswell. I have a friend whose mum had five personalities at one time. She has recovered fully now. I think it lasted about ten years. But I think it was the fact that she dealt with some major issues in her past that enabled her to recover.

Sticking by your husband in his illness is the right thing to do. But forcing yourself to stay with him if you no longer love him? ....Well its speaks for itself

[riddlemethis]

I too was in a relationship with a male who has a major personality disorder. Kind and generous one minute, aggressive and out of control the next as if a switch had been flipped. He is intelligent, and articulate during his sane moments, but screaming obscenities at me, and throwing or breaking things the next. I never knew what would set him off. It could be the way I positioned a fork on the table, or how I tied my shoes. He was suicidal, and even asked me if I would help him end his life. Everything was about him: how he felt, what he wanted to do, his life stories, his opinions, where we ate, what we ate, movies we watched, his comfort, his needs, his wants... it was as if I was living with two different people. Eventually, I became an emotional wreck. I became lost in misery, walking on egg shells, afraid to do something that would set him off. The relationship lasted a year. At the first opportunity, I ran as if the seven demons of hell were chasing me. It has been two years since I have seen him, and I am still not the person I was before meeting him. I don't know if your situation is as severe, but living with any one who has a personality disorder is a miserable existence. How is sticking by him the right thing to do? Right for whom? Run, run, run, and don't look back. It will be one of the most liberating moments of your life.