|10-19-2009, 07:06 PM||#7 (permalink)|
Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: New England
The question of gender on the forums makes me wonder how the issue of gender is relevant. I understand that men and women are socialized differently to some extent, but also that generalizations are not usually good enough for collections of smart people.
I would welcome a network that was devoid of any indication about the person's looks, age, or even gender, just to see how the conversation would be different.
It is interesting to me that this seemingly simple issue : M/F? : could provoke a response of such complex ideas.
*"Queer" is not a pejorative in this context, please do not pelt me with hailstones; in my world and my community, its just another reclaimed old term. Thank you!
|10-24-2009, 02:49 PM||#8 (permalink)|
Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: Iowa, USA
Gender of Members
That is true, Gene. Your statement reminds me of a humorous situation on a forum I used to frequent, when I debated heavily on politics, religion, and sex.
On occasion, I would have it out with the most challenging, vicious man on the block who spewed intimidating venom with his arrogant, pseudo-intellect, at anyone who dared to disagree with him. Well, every great once in a while when I could manage to checkmate him, he would change the subject and angrily proclaim to everyone that I wasn't really a woman, even though my avatar displayed otherwise. He swore that I was actually another man from the forum he knew who was a writer, and suspected that he was posing as a woman to debate him. I guess he figured that only a man would be able to meet his match, and have what it takes to sportingly "rip him a new one", level-out his ego, and basically deep-fry his mental mountain oysters.
But I really don't like doing that anymore, since I've become privy to the Law of Attraction and where I stand on the Emotional Guidance Scale. When I debate, I feel a sense of restriction. When I allow, I feel freedom.
"I am woman, hear me mew..." ?.... Not!
|12-16-2009, 04:34 AM||#12 (permalink)|
Join Date: Oct 2009
I hope it is not too late to add to this topic.
I have had experiences where my gender was unknown (not asked for) when contributing or commenting. I don't think my gender has any great bearing on what I am expressing. The question of gender never came up nor was it required to contribute in the place I refer to. It was just a fairly open and free place where people basically went to have a good old uncensored work rant. Or share humorous experiences etc. And so, there was a great deal of freedom to be silly, and no cencorship for anything but the obvious things that should not be tolerated.
My intention was never to hide my gender, it just never came up and I never really thought about it. It was, however, available to anyone who looked at my original profile where I had indicated it. In the one instance where I actually referred to my gender (about two years into being a member), there was a reaction of surprise. It was very strange, because I had never gone out of my way to not mention it, however, apparently had not done so. It just didn't seem relevant to anything I was expressing, and in some weird way, I expected that people would know.
There are definately preconceptions around gender and how each reacts or expresses themselves. I think knowing it influences how you perceive the message or opinions of someone. I'm not saying it is a bad thing, because there are differences in the way genders express themselves. And if you don't know it, you will automatically assume one way or the other based on your preconceptions.
|12-29-2009, 07:05 PM||#13 (permalink)|
Join Date: Dec 2009
I have found that at least 99% of poles are marked with male first and then female. Since female comes first in the alphabet then should it not come first on surveys? Just a question to all regarding our sexist society.
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