Hello from West Australia

[VelociRaptor]

Hi Guys,

As the title states I am from a costal town 75km (about 46 miles for those still on the imperial system) south of Perth called Mandurah. I moved here when it was a shire (Pop: 5000) about 25 years ago (I am 30), and saw it swell to 60 000+ people now. I spent the last 7 years in Perth but have since moved back home after separating with my wife 3 weeks ago after 11 years (2.5 years married) So that is probably one of the reasons I have found this place and am now posting on it. (More about this in the correct forum)

More about me, my name is James, 30 years old, enjoy long distance running, going to the gym, going out drinking with work mates after a hard day, and trying my hardest to enjoy life (struggling with this at the moment). I like to play team sports such as basketball, volleyball, indoor beach volleyball. Enjoy watching sci fi, action, thriller, comedies, horror movies at home or at the cinema. (Hopefully going to my first movie on my own for a long time later today, going to see Ironman) I work as a Senior Applications Analyst for a company that deal with rail and gas infrastructure. This means I can be doing anything from developing software to provide business needs, to problem solving a 3rd party application, to leading various projects. I have 4 pets, 2 dogs (Doberman X Pointer and Staffy X Whippet) and 2 cats, lucky I have a nice big house with a decent size back yard.

I found this website through a forum I regular on Overclockers Australia to do with mental illness support. I don't suffer from a mental illness, obviously I have some stages where I have felt really down and depressed, but I guess that is to be expected after the separation of a long term relationship. I have since downloaded all the pod casts and read plenty of articles on this site to do with building confidence, discovering your life’s purpose, as well as browsed the forums. I thought it was time that I join and start doing some posting.

Well that is enough of a story for you guys for the time being, I will be posting in some of the other forums to get some hints and ideas on how to help me deal with what I am going through at present and try and get my life back on track.

Well if you have read this far, then thanks for taking the time to discover a bit about who I am. Hope to start to get to know some of the regulars on here and become a regular myself.

Well I had better make a move, I have a movie to catch, will add more posts later this afternoon.

Thanks

VR (James)

[digitman]

Greetings, I'm from WA too but on the other side i.e near Clarkson

[VelociRaptor]

Used to be from the Swan Valley until the split, still work in the city though, so thank god for the train.

[Dan.Linehan]

Hey VR, great to meet you!

Ironman is a pretty good movie, just wait out the first part where it makes you think it's going to be real lame..

Sorry to hear about your relationship ending. Something like that is a huge life change, for sure. In my own experiences it seems that everyone I get really close to ends up teaches me a lot about myself. It sounds like the same is true for you; I'm sure you know yourself that much better after your last relationship.

What parts of your life do you want to get back on track?

[Dima]

Hey James,
I to am from australia and also used to go on OCAU a fair bit.
Small world.

Everyone goes through tough times throughout their lives, But at the end of the day that is what truly shapes a persons character, and defines them. How they come out the other side.

As cliche as it sounds, Whatever doesnt kill you for the most part does in fact make you stronger. Except for physical pain, For that I am a supporter of a slightly different phrase.. Whatever doesn't kill you just adds to your insurance payments...

Anyway, Great meeting you and wish u all the best.
cheers,
Dima

[VelociRaptor]

I don't really know what I want to change.

I was just so used to how life was and have no idea of where to now.

I feel weak, scared, angry, ripped off, have no direction as to where I want to go, just want to cry, scream, do nothing, crawl up into a little ball and disappear.

I am supposed to be a tough male, but a feel like such a weak little being at the moment. I have never really lived a life on my own and that is scaring the crap out of me. I just so wish the side of my brain that is causing all this hurt could be turned off.

How are you supposed to deal with life when things are this low? I thought I was ready to move on, but I just want to be back in a relationship with someone who truely cares about me.

[Dima]

Well, In that case it sounds like you know exactly what you want.
You want to be back in a relationship.. Great.
So what are you willing to give to get what you want?

Of course some amount of pain and distress is perfectly normal. I mean I can't say I'm speaking from experience, I haven't ever been married, let alone gone through a divorce. However, you can either be resourceful or remorseful at the end of the day. When you are ready to make the transition that will be one of the greatest shows of strength you have ever accomplished as a person.

So don't feel bad or weak, What you see in your life depends entirely on where you sit and understandably you aren't in the best place right now, But I hope you do great.

Take care,
Dima

[VelociRaptor]

Well I have finally done it and up and moved from Perth Australia to Scotland. So 23 hours of flying and 8 hours of hanging around airport lounges I know find myself on the other side of the world.

Have a lot of family here, most I have never seen and I was only 2 when I saw the others. Will do a heap of travelling and enjoy not having to work for the next 6 or so months and just see what happens.

Am looking at doing some back packing through the US and South America as well.

[lifetimelearner]

wow what a move
you area busy fella

and backpacking sounds like fun