Desperate for adventure

[bipbip]

Hi,

How do you manage to get lots of travel and adventure into your life after you have started a family, got children and a regular home?

I love my family, but I’m also desperate for some more adventure. Unfortunately my wife doesn’t want to travel as much as I want She’s more into a week or two here and there, while I would love to travel for months at the time.

Taking time off to go on adventure isn’t a problem. I have my own company that I can manage from anywhere in the world (as long as there is internet). My children are 1 and 3 years old.

Have any of you faced similar issues and desperation? How did you manage to get more travel and adventure into your life?

Thanks, Ryan

[JimOfferman]

Hi Ryan!

Is there a reason why you can't go traveling alone?

I spent a month in Peru a couple of years back and one of the ladies in our group had left her partner at home, because he did not enjoy traveling like she did.

[bipbip]

Thanks for your reply.

I wouldn't mind traveling alone and my wife thinks it's ok that I do it. It's just that I feel a little bit bad leaving her alone with the children + I start missing them all after a few days on the road.

In addition, I don't think it's wise to leave the children without their father for say 3 months or more.

[Andreas]

Dude! You're already most of the way there if you have an internet-based company. Why not ask your wife if there's any place she's always wanted to visit? Figure out her interests and see how that could apply to travel? Does she love good cuisine? She'd probably fall in love with France or Italy. Is she a history buff? Ask her if she'd like to visit a real castle built in the middle ages, or even Stonehenge.

The above is not meant to overgeneralize, however. Every place offers a lot, but so many people underestimate what is possible. With modern travel, the entire world is our oyster if we have the ambition to take it.

Communicate and learn.

[Adrienne]

I think you have lots of options!

I know what you mean about missing your kids. I have 2 younger cousins and i miss them all the time when i am not with them. I lived with them for years and they are more like, my kids with a touch of younger brothers added in.

Here are some options.

Find places that are family friendly. I dont mean places like disneyland, but places like Canada, new zeland, fiji, paris, england, finland, iceland etc. I just mean stay away from places where you and/or your wife would feel uncomfortable having your kids (like right now, i would not want the boys in a war zone or antartica)

See if you can work out something with your wife that goes like this.

You fly out, explore and find a place that would be good for your family to visit. Have them come stay with for a while.
Some people really dont like to travel, but if they know they will be there for 3 or 4 months, it does not seem as bad.
She can visit you for a while, maybe leave the kids with you for a while, you can fly back with the kids, spend some time at home, then go off again, she can come visit.. see the circle?

You could look into joining a traveling club and try taking a few longer trips with them and see if you like it. my two favorites are:
The Outdoor Adventure Club- Bay Area, Sacramento, and beyond
Cincinnati Ski Club

I am take a few trips a year with the ski club, but i really want to get more active in the bay area one. Every trip they do i literally droll over.

If you want, Dave Kaminski and i early next year are heading to costa rica for a few months, then moving on from there. We have talked about hitting new zeland, iceland, wondering around Europe and asia, i want to hike the pacific coast trail from end to end, really nothing is off the table. You are welcome to join us. We have issued an open invitation to anyone to who wants to come. It will be an awesome time full of adventure, travel, PD, laughter, growing, and relaxing. Both Dave and I plan to work from the road as well.

Good luck finding some adventure!

Adrienne

[Dan.Linehan]

I know some professional hang gliders if you want to visit SF.

[bipbip]

Originally Posted by Adrienne

You fly out, explore and find a place that would be good for your family to visit. Have them come stay with for a while.
Some people really dont like to travel, but if they know they will be there for 3 or 4 months, it does not seem as bad.
She can visit you for a while, maybe leave the kids with you for a while, you can fly back with the kids, spend some time at home, then go off again, she can come visit.. see the circle?

That's an excellent idea, thanks a lot. I can't understand why I haven't thought about that before.

If we do that, we will be able to combine what my wife want, what I want and none of us have to be without the kids for too long.