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Old 12-10-2006, 03:55 AM
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I was bored and I got to thinking:

Would you rather be a boy or a girl?

As a guy, I thought about all the problems girls have such as PMS, guys hitting on them esp. if they're hot, and this societal-induced need to look good.

I imagined what it would be like if I was a hot girl for one day. I think the only thing that would be appealing was lots of dude hitting on me, but I can only take that thought so far. Why is being a girl better than being a dude? Or is it?
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Old 12-10-2006, 04:49 AM
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So you'd rather be a girl?

If we imagine ourselves as only our consciousness, then it makes it easier to imagine what it would be like if we were the opposite sex. I thought of it this way and if I was girl, I think I'd be a quiet, but hot one cause I workout a lot

Well, I do wonder if there is a difference being a hot girl and not hot girl. I don't like the idea that outer beauty makes such a big impact on society, but I feel that that is indeed the case. If I could be a hot girl for one day, I think I'd be able to see through which guys are really appreciative of inner beauty rather than just slobbering over outer beauty. Now I just wonder if girls themselves know how to pick? Hmm...
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Old 12-11-2006, 03:00 AM
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I'm a guy. Haven't had any problems with it yet. I've never felt like there was something I wanted to do but couldn't because I'm a man. However, I think some women may feel that way about some things. I'm glad to be a guy.
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Old 12-11-2006, 03:51 AM
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I think I'd rather be female, but I suspect this partially stems from curiosity about being on the other side of the line.
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Old 12-11-2006, 06:04 AM
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I'm happy to be a gal! I still enjoy the feeling of being pursued ... (blush) haha
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Old 12-11-2006, 11:44 AM
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Go sign up on a free mmorpg and make your character one of the opposite sex. Then you have a hands on experience with what its like .
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Im happy been a guy, but when I was younger I always felt like maybe I should be a girl (I held hands with my male best friend, enjoyed making jewlerry with beads etc.)

Now Im quite confident Im better as a guy.

As for MMORPGS they rock, but be careful they dont take over your life... Ultima.... mmmmm
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Go sign up on a free mmorpg and make your character one of the opposite sex. Then you have a hands on experience with what its like .
*clucks tongue* Silly. I've done that, and I've also written plenty of stories with a female protagonist. Besides, MMORPG populations are painfully self-selected.

If you consider yourself a good writer, I'd suggest writing from the vantage of the opposite sex and then handing it off to people to ask for plausibility.
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Old 12-12-2006, 10:35 PM
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Would you rather be a boy or a girl?
If you asked me that this morning, I'd have to yell: ''I'd rather be a boy!'', because of all the dull house chores I'm obliged to do in order to have somekind of relationship with my patriarch family (that is under an undercover matriarch tyranny,actually).

But now the day is at its end, and I must say I'm more than glad to be a gal when my man kisses me...
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Old 12-16-2006, 04:21 AM
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BTW my post that got deleted was lyrics from a song, lol.

Here is the URL VIOLENT DELIGHT LYRICS - I Wish I Was A Girl
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Old 12-18-2006, 10:08 AM
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Why limit yourself to either sex?
Fully equipped hermaphrodite is the way to go!
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Old 12-18-2006, 10:29 AM
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I was bored and I got to thinking:

Would you rather be a boy or a girl?

As a guy, I thought about all the problems girls have such as PMS, guys hitting on them esp. if they're hot, and this societal-induced need to look good.

I imagined what it would be like if I was a hot girl for one day. I think the only thing that would be appealing was lots of dude hitting on me, but I can only take that thought so far. Why is being a girl better than being a dude? Or is it?
Hsiang, you clearly have too much time on your hands if this is all you can think of. What is it they say, 'You Become What You Think About'!!

But for the record, if I became a woman and developed breasts, I would never leave the house!!!

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Hsiang, you clearly have too much time on your hands if this is all you can think of. What is it they say, 'You Become What You Think About'!!

But for the record, if I became a woman and developed breasts, I would never leave the house!!!

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Most men seem to think that way. Except you notice that women have no problem getting out and doing things, even if they're nymphomaniacs.
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It would be weird to have a wang. I mean, things just kinda...outside the body...just there...eeeek.

It's more fun being a purty lady.
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It would be weird to have a wang. I mean, things just kinda...outside the body...just there...eeeek.

It's more fun being a purty lady.
Trying streaking. Full spring with nothing keeping it steady. Sucks. I'm sure (some) breasts are the same way.
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I'd like to be a girl for a while. Just to see and feel what it is like. Would be cool if I could do a 30 days trial...
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A really funny show that touches on this is Ranma 1/2. Funny, classic Japanese anime about a martial artist and his son who are cursed -- whenever they're splashed with cold water, the dad turns into a panda and the son turns into a cute girl! Then, when splashed with warm water, they return to their original forms.

When I was a teenager I wanted to be a guy for several reasons: 1) I had crippling PMS; 2) I was raised in a conservative Christian tradition that didn't let me vote at church or sustain hopes of being a minister (schoolteacher was the best I could achieve). And the stupid track meet at my stupid Christian school district wouldn't allow girls to do shotput, which pissed me the hell off.

After growing up, falling in love, getting birth control pills to destroy my PMS, and ditching restrictive religion... I'm quite happy being a woman. I'm just constantly thrilled that I don't live in a third-world country.

Though sometimes I think it would be much more straightforward being a guy. I certainly find friendships with guys easier than friendships with girls, and it's easier having brothers than sisters, too, from what I understand. (I have two older brothers.)

I do have to admit, I don't personally suffer from the crippling fear of being different than other guys that I see some guys go through. The whole, "If I do X, my buddies will think I'm gay!" kind of thing. I don't know whether that's a product of my personality or the product of societal conditioning between male/female roles, though.
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Years ago I created a female profile on a dating site just to see what women were experiencing. Within the first minute I’d had three IMs, and it continued at that rate until I signed off. No longer did it bother me how girls rejected guys so frequently. The necessity was suddenly obvious: time management.

Being able to have the experience of being pursued sexually is something women have over most men. Being bi though, I know very well what it can feel like. To be able to just post my free profile online, and have people send me messages, and I pick which ones to indulge is just the start. We go out and he buys me dinner, then we go back to his place, have wine, maybe watch a movie on his bigscreen. It’s amazing how good it feels to have a guy grab your breasts (at least when you’re already attracted to him and are warmed up).

The funny thing is, once I’d dated men for a while, my mindset towards women totally changed and loosened up. Suddenly it was about as easy to date women as men. I felt I understood women much better than before, because I’d experienced a lot of what they go through in dating men.

While the average hetero, non-PD oriented guy is in chains, I feel very free in my body. I can go dancing, say and do most anything, and of course there’s no fear of being perceived as gay (I was never closeted). It’s funny, but some of my friends are homophobic, but they make an exception for me because I’ve done so many more things with women than they have.

I feel I have the best of both worlds. I have many excellent male/female friends, tend to be very intuitive, am stronger than the average man, and more flexible than the average woman. Of course my lesbian/bi female friends are incredible too (and even some of the hetero ones, if spiritually oriented), so it’s quite possible to live happily as a woman, at least in first world nations.

Whatever gender you are, there's plenty to be happy about. Love your body, whatever form it takes. There's so much to enjoy. So many new sensations to discover, activities to partake in. Your body is a gift, so unwrap and enjoy, then learn to share
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From what I understand, it's not about posing as a girl... it's about having a shapely ass to look at as you run around killing monsters. Though I've also heard that if you play a girl, you tend to get free stuff from strangers more often.
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While the average hetero, non-PD oriented guy is in chains, I feel very free in my body. I can go dancing, say and do most anything, and of course there’s no fear of being perceived as gay (I was never closeted). It’s funny, but some of my friends are homophobic, but they make an exception for me because I’ve done so many more things with women than they have.
Why does dancing make some guys feel insecure? I mean, seriously. Watch Antonio Banderas in Take the Lead. Or hell, that one dude in Step Up. Girls love that stuff, and as you pointed out, if a guy's got the ladies, what can other guys say, really? My brother somehow got it into his head that when a guy starts dating, he's REQUIRED to learn how to dance so he can go out dancing with his girl. I love that idea, and believe that his girlfriends are very, very lucky ladies. Wish I could convince my guy of the fact!
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Being a girl sucks, every month.
Plus, women still get discriminated often...
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Why does dancing make some guys feel insecure? I mean, seriously. Watch Antonio Banderas in Take the Lead. Or hell, that one dude in Step Up. Girls love that stuff, and as you pointed out, if a guy's got the ladies, what can other guys say, really? My brother somehow got it into his head that when a guy starts dating, he's REQUIRED to learn how to dance so he can go out dancing with his girl. I love that idea, and believe that his girlfriends are very, very lucky ladies. Wish I could convince my guy of the fact!
I imagine at least part of it is that non-Latin hetero men are taught that there are only one or two areas of their body that can be really sensitive: their dick, and maybe their back (for back rubs). To dance well, one's entire body must come alive, and this can involve venturing into knowing parts of one's body that are generally only enjoyed by women, gays, and possibly Latinos (I'm told that in latin america you're only gay if you're the submissive partner) Still, some men can get past this point so long as it's done to improve their chances with women. One thing I've done lately is teach male friends to give their female partners massages. The ladies are increasingly happy at this point
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I love being female. I've never wanted to be a guy.

I love being girly, giggling and squealing and skipping and dancing just for the fun of being alive. I love being womanly, getting all dressed up and feeling sexy and seductive. I love being motherly, seeing my children grow up and knowing that my own body created them for me. I love being free to express my emotions without worrying about being unmanly. I love crying at soppy movies. I love pink fluffy things. I love feeling pretty. I love watching people's faces the moment they realise that I'm not just a silly little girl, I'm a capable, intelligent young woman.

Being female is great, and I'm quite happy to put up with periods and those annoying guys who think women are inferior and any other down sides that come with being female, because I enjoy the good parts so much.

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