I'd Rather be a Dude/Dudette

[Hsiang-Lin]

I was bored and I got to thinking:

Would you rather be a boy or a girl?

As a guy, I thought about all the problems girls have such as PMS, guys hitting on them esp. if they're hot, and this societal-induced need to look good.

I imagined what it would be like if I was a hot girl for one day. I think the only thing that would be appealing was lots of dude hitting on me, but I can only take that thought so far. Why is being a girl better than being a dude? Or is it?

[Hsiang-Lin]

So you'd rather be a girl?

If we imagine ourselves as only our consciousness, then it makes it easier to imagine what it would be like if we were the opposite sex. I thought of it this way and if I was girl, I think I'd be a quiet, but hot one cause I workout a lot

Well, I do wonder if there is a difference being a hot girl and not hot girl. I don't like the idea that outer beauty makes such a big impact on society, but I feel that that is indeed the case. If I could be a hot girl for one day, I think I'd be able to see through which guys are really appreciative of inner beauty rather than just slobbering over outer beauty. Now I just wonder if girls themselves know how to pick? Hmm...

[Minishark]

I'm a guy. Haven't had any problems with it yet. I've never felt like there was something I wanted to do but couldn't because I'm a man. However, I think some women may feel that way about some things. I'm glad to be a guy.

[Michael Chui]

I think I'd rather be female, but I suspect this partially stems from curiosity about being on the other side of the line.

[Dating Specialist]

I'm happy to be a gal! I still enjoy the feeling of being pursued ... (blush) haha

[Waiman]

Go sign up on a free mmorpg and make your character one of the opposite sex. Then you have a hands on experience with what its like .

[Wanderer]

Im happy been a guy, but when I was younger I always felt like maybe I should be a girl (I held hands with my male best friend, enjoyed making jewlerry with beads etc.)

Now Im quite confident Im better as a guy.

As for MMORPGS they rock, but be careful they dont take over your life... Ultima.... mmmmm

[Michael Chui]

Originally Posted by Waiman

Go sign up on a free mmorpg and make your character one of the opposite sex. Then you have a hands on experience with what its like .

*clucks tongue* Silly. I've done that, and I've also written plenty of stories with a female protagonist. Besides, MMORPG populations are painfully self-selected.

If you consider yourself a good writer, I'd suggest writing from the vantage of the opposite sex and then handing it off to people to ask for plausibility.

[LillyoftheValley]

Originally Posted by Hsiang-Lin

Would you rather be a boy or a girl?

If you asked me that this morning, I'd have to yell: ''I'd rather be a boy!'', because of all the dull house chores I'm obliged to do in order to have somekind of relationship with my patriarch family (that is under an undercover matriarch tyranny,actually).

But now the day is at its end, and I must say I'm more than glad to be a gal when my man kisses me...

[Radical]

BTW my post that got deleted was lyrics from a song, lol.

Here is the URL VIOLENT DELIGHT LYRICS - I Wish I Was A Girl

[toomuchtoabsorb]

Why limit yourself to either sex?
Fully equipped hermaphrodite is the way to go!

[Gordon]

Originally Posted by Hsiang-Lin

I was bored and I got to thinking:

Would you rather be a boy or a girl?

As a guy, I thought about all the problems girls have such as PMS, guys hitting on them esp. if they're hot, and this societal-induced need to look good.

I imagined what it would be like if I was a hot girl for one day. I think the only thing that would be appealing was lots of dude hitting on me, but I can only take that thought so far. Why is being a girl better than being a dude? Or is it?

Hsiang, you clearly have too much time on your hands if this is all you can think of. What is it they say, 'You Become What You Think About'!!

But for the record, if I became a woman and developed breasts, I would never leave the house!!!

G

[Michael Chui]

Originally Posted by Gordon

Hsiang, you clearly have too much time on your hands if this is all you can think of. What is it they say, 'You Become What You Think About'!!

But for the record, if I became a woman and developed breasts, I would never leave the house!!!

G

Most men seem to think that way. Except you notice that women have no problem getting out and doing things, even if they're nymphomaniacs.

[Isis Kali]

It would be weird to have a wang. I mean, things just kinda...outside the body...just there...eeeek.

It's more fun being a purty lady.

[Michael Chui]

Originally Posted by Isis Kali

It would be weird to have a wang. I mean, things just kinda...outside the body...just there...eeeek.

It's more fun being a purty lady.

Trying streaking. Full spring with nothing keeping it steady. Sucks. I'm sure (some) breasts are the same way.

[Erki]

I'd like to be a girl for a while. Just to see and feel what it is like. Would be cool if I could do a 30 days trial...

[elainevdw]

A really funny show that touches on this is Ranma 1/2. Funny, classic Japanese anime about a martial artist and his son who are cursed -- whenever they're splashed with cold water, the dad turns into a panda and the son turns into a cute girl! Then, when splashed with warm water, they return to their original forms.

When I was a teenager I wanted to be a guy for several reasons: 1) I had crippling PMS; 2) I was raised in a conservative Christian tradition that didn't let me vote at church or sustain hopes of being a minister (schoolteacher was the best I could achieve). And the stupid track meet at my stupid Christian school district wouldn't allow girls to do shotput, which pissed me the hell off.

After growing up, falling in love, getting birth control pills to destroy my PMS, and ditching restrictive religion... I'm quite happy being a woman. I'm just constantly thrilled that I don't live in a third-world country.

Though sometimes I think it would be much more straightforward being a guy. I certainly find friendships with guys easier than friendships with girls, and it's easier having brothers than sisters, too, from what I understand. (I have two older brothers.)

I do have to admit, I don't personally suffer from the crippling fear of being different than other guys that I see some guys go through. The whole, "If I do X, my buddies will think I'm gay!" kind of thing. I don't know whether that's a product of my personality or the product of societal conditioning between male/female roles, though.

[openeyes]

Years ago I created a female profile on a dating site just to see what women were experiencing. Within the first minute I’d had three IMs, and it continued at that rate until I signed off. No longer did it bother me how girls rejected guys so frequently. The necessity was suddenly obvious: time management.

Being able to have the experience of being pursued sexually is something women have over most men. Being bi though, I know very well what it can feel like. To be able to just post my free profile online, and have people send me messages, and I pick which ones to indulge is just the start. We go out and he buys me dinner, then we go back to his place, have wine, maybe watch a movie on his bigscreen. It’s amazing how good it feels to have a guy grab your breasts (at least when you’re already attracted to him and are warmed up).

The funny thing is, once I’d dated men for a while, my mindset towards women totally changed and loosened up. Suddenly it was about as easy to date women as men. I felt I understood women much better than before, because I’d experienced a lot of what they go through in dating men.

While the average hetero, non-PD oriented guy is in chains, I feel very free in my body. I can go dancing, say and do most anything, and of course there’s no fear of being perceived as gay (I was never closeted). It’s funny, but some of my friends are homophobic, but they make an exception for me because I’ve done so many more things with women than they have.

I feel I have the best of both worlds. I have many excellent male/female friends, tend to be very intuitive, am stronger than the average man, and more flexible than the average woman. Of course my lesbian/bi female friends are incredible too (and even some of the hetero ones, if spiritually oriented), so it’s quite possible to live happily as a woman, at least in first world nations.

Whatever gender you are, there's plenty to be happy about. Love your body, whatever form it takes. There's so much to enjoy. So many new sensations to discover, activities to partake in. Your body is a gift, so unwrap and enjoy, then learn to share

[elainevdw]

Originally Posted by Waiman

Go sign up on a free mmorpg and make your character one of the opposite sex. Then you have a hands on experience with what its like .

From what I understand, it's not about posing as a girl... it's about having a shapely ass to look at as you run around killing monsters. Though I've also heard that if you play a girl, you tend to get free stuff from strangers more often.

[elainevdw]

Originally Posted by openeyes

While the average hetero, non-PD oriented guy is in chains, I feel very free in my body. I can go dancing, say and do most anything, and of course there’s no fear of being perceived as gay (I was never closeted). It’s funny, but some of my friends are homophobic, but they make an exception for me because I’ve done so many more things with women than they have.

Why does dancing make some guys feel insecure? I mean, seriously. Watch Antonio Banderas in Take the Lead. Or hell, that one dude in Step Up. Girls love that stuff, and as you pointed out, if a guy's got the ladies, what can other guys say, really? My brother somehow got it into his head that when a guy starts dating, he's REQUIRED to learn how to dance so he can go out dancing with his girl. I love that idea, and believe that his girlfriends are very, very lucky ladies. Wish I could convince my guy of the fact!

[Cath]

Being a girl sucks, every month.
Plus, women still get discriminated often...

[openeyes]

Originally Posted by elainevdw

Why does dancing make some guys feel insecure? I mean, seriously. Watch Antonio Banderas in Take the Lead. Or hell, that one dude in Step Up. Girls love that stuff, and as you pointed out, if a guy's got the ladies, what can other guys say, really? My brother somehow got it into his head that when a guy starts dating, he's REQUIRED to learn how to dance so he can go out dancing with his girl. I love that idea, and believe that his girlfriends are very, very lucky ladies. Wish I could convince my guy of the fact!

I imagine at least part of it is that non-Latin hetero men are taught that there are only one or two areas of their body that can be really sensitive: their dick, and maybe their back (for back rubs). To dance well, one's entire body must come alive, and this can involve venturing into knowing parts of one's body that are generally only enjoyed by women, gays, and possibly Latinos (I'm told that in latin america you're only gay if you're the submissive partner) Still, some men can get past this point so long as it's done to improve their chances with women. One thing I've done lately is teach male friends to give their female partners massages. The ladies are increasingly happy at this point

[kthdsn]

I love being female. I've never wanted to be a guy.

I love being girly, giggling and squealing and skipping and dancing just for the fun of being alive. I love being womanly, getting all dressed up and feeling sexy and seductive. I love being motherly, seeing my children grow up and knowing that my own body created them for me. I love being free to express my emotions without worrying about being unmanly. I love crying at soppy movies. I love pink fluffy things. I love feeling pretty. I love watching people's faces the moment they realise that I'm not just a silly little girl, I'm a capable, intelligent young woman.

Being female is great, and I'm quite happy to put up with periods and those annoying guys who think women are inferior and any other down sides that come with being female, because I enjoy the good parts so much.

Having said that, I do feel that gender is a scale rather than black and white and I do have a lot of what I consider to be more male qualities as well.

I guess I'm just really comfortable and happy with who I am

[Michael Chui]

I think openeyes is onto something. I personally suck at dancing; I can do something, but it usually ends up blending in martial arts. (Not too surprising, since no master of combat should ever be unable to dance!) People with more gritty backgrounds seem to be more easily reminded that their body can say something, too. I've never quite become fluent in the language of pose.

[Hsiang-Lin]

Yeah, I do have too much time on my hands

I've been thinking about this some more and I think I may have actually hit upon something useful.

Ever since I started experimenting with and internalizing the subjective reality model, I've thought of other people as really just a part of myself. In that way, as a guy, I view every girl as a female version of who I am now.

I see everyone as me if I grew up exactly in their conditions and circumstances. Thus, I find myself a lot more capable of sympathizing with their problems because I would be just like them if my consciousness was in their body instead of mine.

It's almost freaky sometimes when I see people this way because I really feel like I am looking at myself in a different lifestyle. But it really takes away any anxiety or fear I have of approaching people because I see it as simply talking to another part of myself.

Now to extend my messed up thoughts even further, that means if I have sex with a girl, I'm really screwing myself

[Yellow]

Originally Posted by LillyoftheValley

If you asked me that this morning, I'd have to yell: ''I'd rather be a boy!'', because of all the dull house chores I'm obliged to do in order to have somekind of relationship with my patriarch family (that is under an undercover matriarch tyranny,actually).

But now the day is at its end, and I must say I'm more than glad to be a gal when my man kisses me...

Haha, I so agree with you. Lol, matriarch tyranny.

I love being a girl but its only a few times when I wish I was a boy, that is when I cant go out for a walk late at night because its unsafe, household chores :P and the times when I have to look good when I could care less

[Johanka]

I don't think it's really valid to say "I'm so glad I am a woman and can be all giggly and dress up and free to express emotions without worrying about being unmanly". It's all society's expectations of what it means to a be a woman/man, not inherent qualities. I'm sure if I were a man, I would no doubt express my emotions regardless of what society expects me to do. :-)

My first encounter with a dating site a couple years ago was when I saw an ad promising 40 responses from potential mates the first day I sign up. So I did, as female of course, picked the nick "appalloosa" (to appear at the top alphabetically) and filled in the about section like this: "I'm not really here for dating, you know, I just saw the ad that said this and that and I'm checking out if it really works!" I wonder how many of those who responded thought I was a guy in disguise.

[Lucas]

I am fine with my scientific gender (male), but the fact is I consider myself to be an androgene, because I allow my feminine side to show through, as well as be a part of my persona. My hair is long enough to be either gender, and sometimes I get it cut more like a girls, when I look for clothes, I look at both sections. While I dont have a lot of girls clothes, I do have some girls jeans and other stuff. The fact is, some girl stuff fits better and is more comfortable. I mean, its mainly jeans and some shirts. I get mistaken for a girl all the time, so I figure, why not embrace it, it gives me more options.

[Erki]

Originally Posted by Hsiang-Lin

Now to extend my messed up thoughts even further, that means if I have sex with a girl, I'm really screwing myself

Now to extend it even further, if I say "f... you" to someone, does it actually mean "f... me"? Talk about being desperate. :

[Erki]

Looks like once again I managed to kill a thread. Oh well, I killed it, I'll resurrect it then too.

(I just hope I didn't kill it twice in a row now...)