I'd Rather be a Dude/Dudette

[palimpsest]

I'd rather be a guy. Way more implicit privileges. But then I'd have to give up some newfound rather enjoyable mechanisms specific to my female body. On the other hand, if I'd been a guy they would likely not have been made so violently un-enjoyable in the first place. But if I'd been a guy, I'd never really know how bad women have it, and in embracing the implicit privileges I'd be in an awkward position to fight for equal rights. But then the fact that I just said "I'd rather be a guy" already puts me in an awkward position fighting for equal rights. If I'd been born a guy but had my same exposures, I really think I would have grown into a misogynist and the previous worries would be moot so I'd rather it not have started out that way.

If I became a guy just now, then maybe the girl I have a crush on would finally consider me-- or maybe it would still be weird because she knows me as a girl, it would certainly be odd for me who's already used to behaving like a girl... so I'd be flamboyantly gay in every way except orientation. And while I'd get more flack for being transgendered than being either male or female, at least I wouldn't be misogynist or misandrist. I'd have enough experience to be thoroughly misanthropist, except I already do. But I'm not, I hope. Except maybe implicitly (I don't hope -- just considering...)

Scratch all that, I'd rather be gender-neutral and stripped of everything but my consciousness. But what if that's the only thing anyone needs to have problems...?

[absvan]

Definitely a guy.....GUYS ROCK!!!

[Kaddizzle]

I'd much rather be a dude than a dudette because it seems that dudettes have so much to put up with going through puberty and in adulthood. From videos I've watched in science class, it seems that the first period is the most uncomfortable, and I wouldn't want to have one at all. Giving birth looks like hell!!! And friends of mine that are dudettes expressed to me that the growth process of breasts are extremely painful and embarrasing if they aren't as large as LA's view of nice boobs. Sounds similar to the size of men's penises. So I'd much rather be a dude... which I am. haha!

[Erki]

Originally Posted by palimpsest

I'd rather be a guy. Way more implicit privileges.

Basically I am then an ungrateful piece of #""¤(/&!.
43. I have the privilege of being unaware of my male privilege.
I feel that as a woman, I could behave or more like feel any way I want - women are incalculable afterall. Maybe this would give me then a license to whine...

But by the same token, the same privilege goes for women too. Funnily this link gave me a 404: http://colours.mahost.org/org/femaleprivilege.html What did I do wrong?
I always feel that if I have a relationship with a woman, I would have to be the guardian, the prince who comes and saves her and protects her, the one who's responsible, the one who has to be awake and alert all the time, never get to relax, always show that I am not violent because as a man, I am obviously a potential rapist, mass murderer and allround criminal.

Originally Posted by palimpsest

But then I'd have to give up some newfound rather enjoyable mechanisms specific to my female body. On the other hand, if I'd been a guy they would likely not have been made so violently un-enjoyable in the first place. But if I'd been a guy, I'd never really know how bad women have it, and in embracing the implicit privileges I'd be in an awkward position to fight for equal rights.

What implicit male privilege had anything to do with boy mechanisms? But tell me, really, I mean, really, I'm interested, how bad do women have it then? And sounds like sometimes you have it pretty well too. I'm all for equality, give me pain and violence, I hate that as a guy, I never have to be in pain whatsoever and well, I never get any real good feelings out of my body either. All in all, I find my male body utterly boring like a dishwasher. But hey, dishwashers ain't always boring!

Originally Posted by palimpsest

Scratch all that, I'd rather be gender-neutral and stripped of everything but my consciousness. But what if that's the only thing anyone needs to have problems...?

*high fives*
This all gender thing with all the stereotypes gives me way too many issues, I'd much, much rather have a universe with only one gender, then everything would be equal for once.


PS: just yesterday found this little article

[Michael Chui]

Equality is overrated.