http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/ Goals, productivity, time management, motivation, self-discipline, overcoming procrastination, habits, organizing, problem-solving, decision-making, intelligence en Fri, 20 Nov 2009 22:41:50 GMT vBulletin 60 http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/images/misc/rss.jpg http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/ http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/personal-effectiveness/39659-feeling-inadequate-help-please.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 20:12:30 GMT I'm gonna try to keep this short and sweet. As the title says, I'm having extreme feelings of inadequacy both in the workplace and in social situations. I understand that these feelings stem from my history of depression and issues with insecurity, and I've been working on improving this area of my life for some time but have seemed to hit a wall. I feel like there's an aura of inferiority surrounding me, that others look down on me, and I'm nervous when I speak to anyone about anything. I have always been the nice guy, the one who avoids conflict and tries to please everyone. To keep it as simple as possible, I would describe it as feeling that I'm not good enough for anyone and thus have to maintain a subordinate approach and attitude to those I encounter.

I've been able to regain some control over these feelings, but decided to turn to the forums to get input and advice from all of you. Anyone out there in a similar situation? How did you get over it? Anything would help and be much appreciated.

Thanks! ]]> Personal Effectiveness celestialife http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/personal-effectiveness/39659-feeling-inadequate-help-please.html http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/personal-effectiveness/39643-help-sentence-right-english.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 12:18:11 GMT Based on my learning about the program in your university and the sense of the development of service industry in Japan but also all over the world, these words could sum up the details and examples I experienced in the past. is the sentence above right? if not, how can it be changed in natural English? Based on my learning about the program in your university and the sense of the development of service industry in Japan but also all over the world, these words could sum up the details and examples I experienced in the past.

is the sentence above right? if not, how can it be changed in natural English? ]]> Personal Effectiveness Lei http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/personal-effectiveness/39643-help-sentence-right-english.html http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/personal-effectiveness/39635-best-chair-personal-effectiveness.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 08:12:53 GMT which one is Best chair for Personal Effectiveness for you. This may sound Stupid, But I believe its very significant to spare sometime on thinking about which chair will be best for us. Which Chair is Best for you ? If you can add some photos that would be great. which one is Best chair for Personal Effectiveness for you.

This may sound Stupid, But I believe its very significant to spare sometime on thinking about which chair will be best for us.

Which Chair is Best for you ? If you can add some photos that would be great. ]]> Personal Effectiveness PerDev http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/personal-effectiveness/39635-best-chair-personal-effectiveness.html http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/personal-effectiveness/39634-how-do-you-plan-your-goals.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 06:55:54 GMT How do you Plan? What is your low level planning method? Once you lock your goals then How you plan for duration of 1Day, 1Week, 1Month, 3Month, 6month? What planning method working for you? Which one is most effective and empowering for you ? How do you do detail planning? in my life, i have never seen anyone who is consistent on good planning including me. But i think this is the best skill to have. What do you think? How do you Plan?

What is your low level planning method?
Once you lock your goals then How you plan for duration of
1Day, 1Week, 1Month, 3Month, 6month?


What planning method working for you? Which one is most effective and empowering for you ?
How do you do detail planning?

in my life, i have never seen anyone who is consistent on good planning including me. But i think this is the best skill to have.

What do you think? ]]> Personal Effectiveness PerDev http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/personal-effectiveness/39634-how-do-you-plan-your-goals.html http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/personal-effectiveness/39616-productivtiy-software-macs.html Thu, 19 Nov 2009 22:01:57 GMT Hey all,

For the last several years, I've used Franklin Covey's Plan Plus program for my to-do list and keeping everything organized, etc.

Now, I'm thinking of going with a Mac. Since the Plan Plus is designed to work with Outlook, I'm looking for something else. Preferably something that would allow me to do most of my main stuff on the laptop and then sync to my blackberry.

Any ideas or suggestions?

Thanks in advance!

Ed ]]> Personal Effectiveness Ed from PA http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/personal-effectiveness/39616-productivtiy-software-macs.html http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/personal-effectiveness/39615-what-languages-do-you-speak-know.html Thu, 19 Nov 2009 21:25:04 GMT My native language is English, but I'm almost fluent in German and know a little Spanish as well. My goal is to become fluent in German, then proceed to learn Brazilian Portuguese or Hindi, or maybe both. I've taken four semesters of German, but I want to learn more languages. Speaking multiple languages opens so many more doors and opportunities than someone who can only speak one. I'm not sure if this is the right forum for this. ]]> Personal Effectiveness AttackLife http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/personal-effectiveness/39615-what-languages-do-you-speak-know.html http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/personal-effectiveness/39614-clarity.html Thu, 19 Nov 2009 21:11:24 GMT Hey guys.

Whenever I'm drunk or really tired, I find that I can think really clearly, in the sense that I know exactly what I need to do in order to get my life to where I want it to be. I'm also extremely motivated to get all these things done.

But when I wake up the day after, I find myself falling back into my old habits of procrastinating and doing unnecessary **** that doesn't help me at all. I've tried stuff like writing things down when I'm in that state so I'll be able to do the stuff I need but it's doesn't seem to be helping.

Does anyone have any exercises or tips that can help me maintain this state once I sober down or actually being in that state without alcohol or not sleeping for 2-3 days straight?

Thanks. ]]> Personal Effectiveness rekcuF http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/personal-effectiveness/39614-clarity.html http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/personal-effectiveness/39610-what-creates-belief.html Thu, 19 Nov 2009 19:42:22 GMT I cannot get over the belief that i have wasted too much time and its too late. I do important things at the last minute. I escape through movies and self pleasure. I have crazy big goals that I would love to achieve but feel money is the limiting factor (or general lifestyle) I cannot get over the belief that i have wasted too much time and its too late.
I do important things at the last minute.
I escape through movies and self pleasure.
I have crazy big goals that I would love to achieve but feel money is the limiting factor (or general lifestyle) ]]> Personal Effectiveness ultimate http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/personal-effectiveness/39610-what-creates-belief.html http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/personal-effectiveness/39592-software-increases-your-working-memory-fluid-intelligence.html Thu, 19 Nov 2009 09:25:40 GMT A recent study published in PNAS, an important scientific journal, shows that a particular memory task called Dual N-Back may actually improve working memory and fluid intelligence. This finding is important because fluid intelligence was previously thought to be unchangeable.

Brain Workshop - a Dual N-Back game

It's free

And heres a article that talks about the benefits of the game.
Forget Brain Age: Researchers Develop Software That Makes You Smarter ]]> Personal Effectiveness supertom http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/personal-effectiveness/39592-software-increases-your-working-memory-fluid-intelligence.html http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/personal-effectiveness/39585-what-things-do-you-think-every-person-should-do-his-lifetime.html Thu, 19 Nov 2009 05:59:38 GMT For the sake of experiment let's just try to cookie cut everyone as much as possible. You know the moments when you think "what if I die/had died before I _____"? Those are the things I'm talking about. I think I'm going to lump education in here too because that is a drawn out experience, all the same. My list.

Try at least one entheogen.
Have a mystical experience.
Practice meditation.
Make love.
Perform an extreme (death defying) physical activity (i.e. skydiving).

Screw it, this list would get way too long. List 5 things, or whatever you want. ]]> Personal Effectiveness runningbird http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/personal-effectiveness/39585-what-things-do-you-think-every-person-should-do-his-lifetime.html http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/personal-effectiveness/39591-questions-about-paraliminals.html Thu, 19 Nov 2009 05:22:41 GMT I notice this this is a pretty old post, but hopefully someone can help: * What sort of an environment do you need to be in, when listening to one of these tapes? * Also do you need to be in a meditative posture, or can you simply lie down on the bed? Thanks I notice this this is a pretty old post, but hopefully someone can help:

* What sort of an environment do you need to be in, when listening to one of these tapes?
* Also do you need to be in a meditative posture, or can you simply lie down on the bed?

Thanks ]]> Personal Effectiveness on_way_to_fame http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/personal-effectiveness/39591-questions-about-paraliminals.html http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/personal-effectiveness/39581-3a-m-experiment-3a-m-lifestyle.html Thu, 19 Nov 2009 02:40:23 GMT Well I decided that I am going to make waking up at 3 a lifestyle change. I can't believe that I am going through with it but it has done so much for my life that I have to continue.

It was just an experiment to start but I am getting so much done and my life has been enhanced so much that I don't want to stop. I posted my follow-up article about it. Let me know what your thoughts. ]]> Personal Effectiveness Ralphiej http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/personal-effectiveness/39581-3a-m-experiment-3a-m-lifestyle.html http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/personal-effectiveness/39576-stuck-procrastination.html Wed, 18 Nov 2009 23:22:48 GMT Hello

I need some help overcoming procrastination. I've spent most of my days/evenings doing useless things and I'm not getting anything useful done. I've fallen into a rut.

I see this is a common complaint and it should be easy to kick; a thirty-day trial should do the trick. There's a complication though; as I'm slightly autistic there's an additional 'energy barrier' that I need to overcome to get moving. I've had much success in doing this with some help, but I'm at a low ebb right now and the person who helped me before is no longer a regular part of my life.

Can anyone help? ]]> Personal Effectiveness Adam Elkins http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/personal-effectiveness/39576-stuck-procrastination.html http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/personal-effectiveness/39558-how-get-rid-fear-when-making-decisions.html Wed, 18 Nov 2009 14:08:53 GMT Hey everybody,

I love this site and this forum and people here and that's where I came to ask for some help and encouragement ;)

I have this big problem of not being able to make decisions. Especially big decisions. It's like I want something and I work to get it (for example I want to move to another city) and when I have an opportunity finally... BAM!... I freak out. I start thinking about what I might lose, that things won't work out there, I won't like it, I'll regret it... blah blah blah... I think this is usual for many people, but why if deep inside I wanted it, I made a decision to go for it and just when all is left is to jump - I back away..
like the thing with moving... I wanted it for a long time, but still can't do it, the thing that always makes me frustrated is about leaving my parents and I think about who'll take care of them when they are really old...and this makes me feel so guilty (even though both my parents moved away to different city from their parents and they support me in my decision), but I keep thinking about it over and over again, making myself feeling really bad and sad and that's what'sholding me back...
I just want to know how to break this "wall" that I always bump into...
I read Steve's articles that are really encouraging: "Regretting tomorrow" and "Making decisions that stick", I get inspired when I read them, but then it all comes back...

I really wish I could stop worrying about the future too much...
I want to learn how to bungee jump without spending 2 hours at the top there thinking about how'd it feel, will the rope break... and just JUMP, because if I'm standing there with ropes around my waist - that's what I wanted to do.. ]]> Personal Effectiveness bananya http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/personal-effectiveness/39558-how-get-rid-fear-when-making-decisions.html http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/personal-effectiveness/39557-last-i-overcame-procrastinaton-started-my-blog.html Wed, 18 Nov 2009 13:50:24 GMT So after reading one of Curtis2011's posts about what he doesn't like about bloggers, and that people should write from personal experiance and what there passionate about, everything just suddenly went together. As if it was what I needed to hear. The last piece of the puzzle.
It was in that moment, that i thought to myself what do I feel passionate about and what do I have experiance in? And I've known the aw
nswer all along, it was basketball. But I never wrote about basketball, with the lame excuse of: It's hard to monetize in this area.

And I just thought #@!§ that! I don't need it to bring me money for it to be pleasureable.

And so i started a wordpress blog, for MYSELF. It feels so good to start a blog, away from all this business stuff and all. For Gods sake I'm 15!

So anyway here is my wordpress blog: Nailedtothebench.wordpress.com

I hope you enjoy it.If you've read so far, I'd really appreciate you going on my blog and leaving a comment.

Crack a bottle of champaign. God I feel good about myself and I've barely started writing. ]]> Personal Effectiveness Sam kovacs http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/personal-effectiveness/39557-last-i-overcame-procrastinaton-started-my-blog.html