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			<title>Strange feeling in my head</title>
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			<pubDate>Fri, 20 Nov 2009 15:02:48 GMT</pubDate>
			<description>For the past two days, I have a had a strange feeling that seems to stem from my head and go out of my eyes and ears. The only way I can really describe the feeling is like when you have the first sensation of an opiate high.</description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div>For the past two days, I have a had a strange feeling that seems to stem from my head and go out of my eyes and ears. The only way I can really describe the feeling is like when you have the first sensation of an opiate high.</div>

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			<dc:creator>Sanchenuss</dc:creator>
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			<title>Help, I Lose my Hair! But Wait, What Are My Options?</title>
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			<pubDate>Fri, 20 Nov 2009 14:03:47 GMT</pubDate>
			<description><![CDATA[Baldness is easily postponed. Uncover the reasons for your potential lack of cover and &#64257;nd out how to beat it. We all lose hair. Although you might feel like Captain Kirk when you’re 18, you could already be turning into Picard. According to the Belgravia Centre, Europe’s largest hair clinic, we lose 50-100 strands a day. Hairs last 3-6 years, then follicles grow new hair in place of the dead – until you reach your late teens, that is. Balding usually kicks off in your mid-twenties, when testosterone levels are at their highest.

Read full article here: Help, I Lose my Hair! | Anioc.com - Unlock Your Potentials (http://www.anioc.com/2009/11/13/help-i-lose-my-hair/)

Do you have any experiences with Regaine/Rogaine treatment?]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div>Baldness is easily postponed. Uncover the reasons for your potential lack of cover and &#64257;nd out how to beat it. We all lose hair. Although you might feel like Captain Kirk when you’re 18, you could already be turning into Picard. According to the Belgravia Centre, Europe’s largest hair clinic, we lose 50-100 strands a day. Hairs last 3-6 years, then follicles grow new hair in place of the dead – until you reach your late teens, that is. Balding usually kicks off in your mid-twenties, when testosterone levels are at their highest.<br />
<br />
Read full article here: <a href="http://www.anioc.com/2009/11/13/help-i-lose-my-hair/" target="_blank">Help, I Lose my Hair! | Anioc.com - Unlock Your Potentials</a><br />
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Do you have any experiences with Regaine/Rogaine treatment?</div>

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			<dc:creator>Hanselich</dc:creator>
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			<title>Penile Papules</title>
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			<pubDate>Fri, 20 Nov 2009 00:03:04 GMT</pubDate>
			<description>Does anyone have this?

id like to share experiences with trying to find a cure and how u have been affected etc. i have them really bad and it has made my life hell.

I have spent months tryign to find a soluton - THERE ISNT ONE. Drs arent interested in helping - I am at a loss - i hate it!</description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div>Does anyone have this?<br />
<br />
id like to share experiences with trying to find a cure and how u have been affected etc. i have them really bad and it has made my life hell.<br />
<br />
I have spent months tryign to find a soluton - THERE ISNT ONE. Drs arent interested in helping - I am at a loss - i hate it!</div>

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			<dc:creator>jayesser</dc:creator>
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			<title>I am gay, male..I look very feminine</title>
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			<pubDate>Thu, 19 Nov 2009 20:18:06 GMT</pubDate>
			<description><![CDATA[I feel bad about the way I look, I feel selfconscious that I look so much like a girl and I am a boy.  I am into guys, but I don't think anyone can ever like my looks, because I look like a girl and I'm a boy.  I am almost 19 by the way.  I realize that looks don't matter and all, but who would like a guy that looks just like a girl?  Does it make me look like a freak?]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div>I feel bad about the way I look, I feel selfconscious that I look so much like a girl and I am a boy.  I am into guys, but I don't think anyone can ever like my looks, because I look like a girl and I'm a boy.  I am almost 19 by the way.  I realize that looks don't matter and all, but who would like a guy that looks just like a girl?  Does it make me look like a freak?</div>

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			<title>If I have given myself 2 days rest since I last worked out and I am still sore, is...</title>
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			<pubDate>Thu, 19 Nov 2009 19:40:36 GMT</pubDate>
			<description>If I have already given myself 2 days rest since I last worked out and I am still sore, is it safe to workout again today?</description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div>If I have already given myself 2 days rest since I last worked out and I am still sore, is it safe to workout again today?</div>

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			<title>Is squalene in H1N1 vaccine in the U.S.?</title>
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			<pubDate>Thu, 19 Nov 2009 16:52:20 GMT</pubDate>
			<description><![CDATA[It appears that different sites say different things. I read the Mercola info, but elsewhere it said that even though squalene adjuvant is not approved to be in a vaccine by the FDA, 2 American companies are putting it in the vaccine. 

Also didn't Obama call a national state of emergency? It said that then the drug companies do not need to listen to the FDA. I guess the idea is that if the vaccine gives most people who take it cancer in 10 years, it does not matter since there is an emergency now.

Actually the site that said that 2 American companies were putting squalene adjuvant in the H1 N1 vaccine but did not say that it was for use in the U.S. or for outside the U.S. only.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div>It appears that different sites say different things. I read the Mercola info, but elsewhere it said that even though squalene adjuvant is not approved to be in a vaccine by the FDA, 2 American companies are putting it in the vaccine. <br />
<br />
Also didn't Obama call a national state of emergency? It said that then the drug companies do not need to listen to the FDA. I guess the idea is that if the vaccine gives most people who take it cancer in 10 years, it does not matter since there is an emergency now.<br />
<br />
Actually the site that said that 2 American companies were putting squalene adjuvant in the H1 N1 vaccine but did not say that it was for use in the U.S. or for outside the U.S. only.</div>

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			<title>Have Recent Revelations Changed Your Mind about Annual Mammograms?</title>
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			<pubDate>Thu, 19 Nov 2009 16:01:00 GMT</pubDate>
			<description><![CDATA[Now that the U.S. Preventive Services Task Force has concluded that regular mammograms aren't all they're cracked up to be, is anyone reassessing their viewpoint on getting yearly breast cancer screenings?

The recommendations, issued Monday, suggested among other things, that regular screenings have not reduced the mortality rate from cancer at all. What they didn't address is the possibility that regular mammograms may actually increase the rate of cancer, due to the increased exposure to ionizing radiation that the exams pose. I've written a detailed article assessing the alleged benefits and risks. You can read it here:

Do Regular Cancer Screenings Really Prevent Cancer? (http://www.antioxidants-for-health-and-longevity.com/cancer-screenings.html)

In case you missed the story somehow:
U.S. Preventative Services Task Force Member Timothy Wilt Answers Breast Cancer Screening Criticism - ABC News (http://www.abcnews.go.com/GMA/HealthyLiving/us-preventative-services-task-force-member-timothy-wilt/story?id=9124113)]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div>Now that the U.S. Preventive Services Task Force has concluded that regular mammograms aren't all they're cracked up to be, is anyone reassessing their viewpoint on getting yearly breast cancer screenings?<br />
<br />
The recommendations, issued Monday, suggested among other things, that regular screenings have not reduced the mortality rate from cancer at all. What they didn't address is the possibility that regular mammograms may actually increase the rate of cancer, due to the increased exposure to ionizing radiation that the exams pose. I've written a detailed article assessing the alleged benefits and risks. You can read it here:<br />
<br />
<a href="http://www.antioxidants-for-health-and-longevity.com/cancer-screenings.html" target="_blank">Do Regular Cancer Screenings Really Prevent Cancer?</a><br />
<br />
In case you missed the story somehow:<br />
<a href="http://www.abcnews.go.com/GMA/HealthyLiving/us-preventative-services-task-force-member-timothy-wilt/story?id=9124113" target="_blank">U.S. Preventative Services Task Force Member Timothy Wilt Answers Breast Cancer Screening Criticism - ABC News</a></div>

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			<dc:creator>stanmrak</dc:creator>
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			<title>32 Day Habit Creation: Run for 10 hours</title>
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			<pubDate>Thu, 19 Nov 2009 15:44:37 GMT</pubDate>
			<description><![CDATA[Starting yesterday, I want to run for a minimum of 10+ hours (600 minutes) before December 21st, which is when I'll be leaving on a long flight to Canada for some Holiday snowboarding. :D

If I calculated correctly, this gives me 32 days (starting yesterday). Yesterday I ran for 25 minutes, so I have 575 minutes to go.

I'm doing this to fix my on-again/off-again running habit and to build up some extra endurance before snowboarding.

Join me in my challenge! If you're a beginner, check out this guide: Cool Running :: The Couch-to-5K Running Plan (http://www.coolrunning.com/engine/2/2_3/181.shtml)]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div>Starting yesterday, I want to run for a minimum of 10+ hours (600 minutes) before December 21st, which is when I'll be leaving on a long flight to Canada for some Holiday snowboarding. :D<br />
<br />
If I calculated correctly, this gives me 32 days (starting yesterday). Yesterday I ran for 25 minutes, so I have 575 minutes to go.<br />
<br />
I'm doing this to fix my on-again/off-again running habit and to build up some extra endurance before snowboarding.<br />
<br />
Join me in my challenge! If you're a beginner, check out this guide: <a href="http://www.coolrunning.com/engine/2/2_3/181.shtml" target="_blank">Cool Running :: The Couch-to-5K Running Plan</a></div>

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			<dc:creator>Daffy Duck</dc:creator>
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			<title>If I can do a one arm pushup, what percentage of my bodyweight would that be equal...</title>
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			<pubDate>Thu, 19 Nov 2009 00:07:03 GMT</pubDate>
			<description>If I can do a one arm pushup, what percentage of my bodyweight would that be equal to pressing?  Would it be 140% of my bodyweight?  The reason I have come up with this percentage is because a two arm pushup is equal to pressing 70% of your bodyweight.  Thanks.</description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div>If I can do a one arm pushup, what percentage of my bodyweight would that be equal to pressing?  Would it be 140% of my bodyweight?  The reason I have come up with this percentage is because a two arm pushup is equal to pressing 70% of your bodyweight.  Thanks.</div>

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			<dc:creator>andrew112</dc:creator>
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			<title>arm-cooling device... what is it called?</title>
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			<pubDate>Wed, 18 Nov 2009 16:58:07 GMT</pubDate>
			<description><![CDATA[what do u call this in English?  [1627038] ÀÚ¿Ü¼±Â÷´Ü ÄðÅä½Ã /¸Ç»ìº¸´Ù½Ã¿ø~,ÆÇÃË¹°,»çÀºÇ°,½ãÅ©... (http://naggama.co.kr/main/item/panchokView.php?no=1627038)]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div>what do u call this in English?  <a href="http://naggama.co.kr/main/item/panchokView.php?no=1627038" target="_blank">[1627038] ÀÚ¿Ü¼±Â÷´Ü ÄðÅä½Ã /¸Ç»ìº¸´Ù½Ã¿ø~,ÆÇÃË¹°,»çÀºÇ°,½ãÅ©...</a></div>

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			<dc:creator>Lupe</dc:creator>
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			<title>What Made You Smile Today?</title>
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			<pubDate>Wed, 18 Nov 2009 14:43:15 GMT</pubDate>
			<description><![CDATA[I teach English in China and often ask my students what made them smile today. They often have problems thinking up something and often say: "YOU!" 

So, I'll go first. I saw a little girl of around 3 years old wheeling around her 2 year old friend on the back of a small toy. They were having sooo much fun, laughing and screaming - all the while in the middle of the busy alley where they were people were shuffling by. 

They gave me a BIG smile. :D I love the pure energy of kids having fun. 

So you, my friend. Yes you. :) What made you smile today?]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div>I teach English in China and often ask my students what made them smile today. They often have problems thinking up something and often say: &quot;YOU!&quot; <br />
<br />
So, I'll go first. I saw a little girl of around 3 years old wheeling around her 2 year old friend on the back of a small toy. They were having sooo much fun, laughing and screaming - all the while in the middle of the busy alley where they were people were shuffling by. <br />
<br />
They gave me a BIG smile. :D I love the pure energy of kids having fun. <br />
<br />
So you, my friend. Yes you. :) What made you smile today?</div>

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			<dc:creator>ouyang</dc:creator>
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			<title>Working Out Pec Muscles</title>
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			<pubDate>Wed, 18 Nov 2009 14:38:32 GMT</pubDate>
			<description><![CDATA[Hey everyone,

I've been working on my physical strength and conditioning for a while now It's been going well but I have noticed something worrying.  I was wondering if anyone had any thoughts about it.

Whenever I try and work out my chest and general pushing muscles, the only group that ever seem to feel fatigued is my triceps.  For example I was working hard yesterday on a bench press and my triceps feel exhausted but my pecs feel like they never had a workout.  Is this normal?  Might I be cheating on the exercise somewhere and this is meaning my arms are doing all the work?  Are there any exercises which isolate the chest?

I'm not interested in the pros and cons of working out etc, or why I feel the need to bulk up my chest.  I'm an athlete.  I need to be strong. Any thoughts?]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div>Hey everyone,<br />
<br />
I've been working on my physical strength and conditioning for a while now It's been going well but I have noticed something worrying.  I was wondering if anyone had any thoughts about it.<br />
<br />
Whenever I try and work out my chest and general pushing muscles, the only group that ever seem to feel fatigued is my triceps.  For example I was working hard yesterday on a bench press and my triceps feel exhausted but my pecs feel like they never had a workout.  Is this normal?  Might I be cheating on the exercise somewhere and this is meaning my arms are doing all the work?  Are there any exercises which isolate the chest?<br />
<br />
I'm not interested in the pros and cons of working out etc, or why I feel the need to bulk up my chest.  I'm an athlete.  I need to be strong. Any thoughts?</div>

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			<dc:creator>chrisrushton</dc:creator>
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			<title>free online videos of aikido?</title>
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			<pubDate>Wed, 18 Nov 2009 00:01:31 GMT</pubDate>
			<description><![CDATA[is there a way to learn aikido free online videos? Because I think it's a good martial arts, since you don't ever use it to hurt someone.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div>is there a way to learn aikido free online videos? Because I think it's a good martial arts, since you don't ever use it to hurt someone.</div>

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			<dc:creator>Lupe</dc:creator>
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			<title>Subway - healthy?</title>
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			<pubDate>Tue, 17 Nov 2009 13:02:13 GMT</pubDate>
			<description><![CDATA[I got this thought a while back when my guy told me he had his meal at subway for the night. He happened to add, "I had it at Subway, thats sorta healthy".
TBH, I've never really liked Subway's food, but that's a different thing. I was wondering, is it really healthy as they portray it to be? I agree its "fresh veggies" etc, but doesn't the food still contain cheese, mayonese, breads which might prove to be not so healthy after all? Just curious since am not too much into health :) Though I'd ask you guys here.
Thanks.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div>I got this thought a while back when my guy told me he had his meal at subway for the night. He happened to add, &quot;I had it at Subway, thats sorta healthy&quot;.<br />
TBH, I've never really liked Subway's food, but that's a different thing. I was wondering, is it really healthy as they portray it to be? I agree its &quot;fresh veggies&quot; etc, but doesn't the food still contain cheese, mayonese, breads which might prove to be not so healthy after all? Just curious since am not too much into health :) Though I'd ask you guys here.<br />
Thanks.</div>

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			<dc:creator>Brown Eyed Mystic</dc:creator>
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			<title>Curing depression with discipline?</title>
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			<pubDate>Tue, 17 Nov 2009 12:08:33 GMT</pubDate>
			<description>Hey,

If anyone here is suffering from depression, or has a friend/family memeber who is, or just knows something about it, then maybe you could give me your opinion on the following idea (everyone else is welcome too).

I have a close friend who was diagnosed with manic depression 6 years ago. In addition to that he is a recovering alcoholic (he quit drinking 3 years ago but until this day there are about 2-3 incidents per year when he starts drinking and ends up doing so until someone stops him(usually 3 days)). His wife and kids left him some years ago because he was in an ultra self-destructive circle, drinking and smoking pot daily (there were some other issues too, like, he was cheathing on her constantly, lol). His wife divorced him and today he`s gotten to a point where he basically doesn`t have anybody except me and 2 other friends. We are basically his family now, we take care of him and he takes care of us, in his own way.
He is a very cool, intersting, affectionate etc person and I really really respect and like him... but he is totally uncapable of taking care of himself. At the moment he depends on us, 100%.
From elementary things like shopping and cleaning his home to more complicated things like, staying alive and sober. The last drinking episode took place a week ago, he is cutting down his meds and in addition to that suffered from insomania - he didn`t sleep in 8 days and ended up drinking. He got really really carried away, he tried to kill himself. We stopped him.My whole week was ruined because of that, I almost dropped out of uni because of that.

I know a lot of you will say that you can`t help someone if they don`t want to be helped, but I think he does want to get better...and he has said on many occasions that he knows he`s a burden and wants to get better.
And some of you will say that if he`s disturbing my life so much then I have to change that, e.g. focus on my life only but if I did that (not only me, but my friends too, we`re all feeling the same way pretty much) I`m afraid he`d die. And I don`t want that to happen.
So - I NEED HIM TO GET BETTER. He needs to get better for him, but for us also. I plan to move to another country soon with my bf (who is one of the 2 other friend) and the third friend already lives in another town. He needs to be able to live by himself by that time.

Our goal for now is to make him :
1. clean his home regularly (it`s such a mess, I`d get depression if I had to live there)
2. go for a walk with us 4 days a week at least (at 10 am twice a week and at 1pm on another 2 days)(he`s usual sleepingpattern involves going to bed at 7am and waking at 6pm - he needs to move into a normal time zone in order to function in the society)(plus, the last time he left his home was 2 months ago, HE NEEDS TO GO OUT, regularly)
3. we gave him 2 rats as a bday present, since he loves animals and we thought that they`d be a source of joy.... now, he cleans their cage like twice  A YEAR. it stinks, I`m really scared for the rats health, this NEEDS to change.
4. make him do qi-kong every day (he`s a spacialist at it, he has given several martial art classes in the past and admits that it helps to fight depression)

If he (and we) manages to make those things a routine then it`s time to move on, time to take him to movies, art shows, etc. Time to make him go shopping by himself and eventually join some club and start working again. We need to change his habits (sitting home 24/7 and watching movies all day) and re-introduce him with society.
I believe that having responsibilities and actually carring them out can have a positive effect on one`s mental state. 

I wrote all those things on paper and added that he has to do those things NO MATER WHAT, it doesn`t matter how bad or low he is feeling. If he doesn`t do those things then he will get punished. We will take away his computer, cigarettes or something else. Violent huh? But I feel that after the last drinking episode we have every right to force him do these things. And no, he doesn`t have free will, we will not let him die. 

Sorry, I got carried away. My initial question was that do you think that making him do those things, forcing him out of his comfort zone,will help him to get out of depression? 
I probably should add that we are all suspecting that to a large extent his bad habbits are just HABITS and not caused by depression (by now anyways). He actually is in a good phase right now (let`s leave the drinking and insomania episode out) and we`re thiking that it`s time to shake him the **** up!

Thanks,

your sincerely, a very frustrated Miia.</description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div>Hey,<br />
<br />
If anyone here is suffering from depression, or has a friend/family memeber who is, or just knows something about it, then maybe you could give me your opinion on the following idea (everyone else is welcome too).<br />
<br />
I have a close friend who was diagnosed with manic depression 6 years ago. In addition to that he is a recovering alcoholic (he quit drinking 3 years ago but until this day there are about 2-3 incidents per year when he starts drinking and ends up doing so until someone stops him(usually 3 days)). His wife and kids left him some years ago because he was in an ultra self-destructive circle, drinking and smoking pot daily (there were some other issues too, like, he was cheathing on her constantly, lol). His wife divorced him and today he`s gotten to a point where he basically doesn`t have anybody except me and 2 other friends. We are basically his family now, we take care of him and he takes care of us, in his own way.<br />
He is a very cool, intersting, affectionate etc person and I really really respect and like him... but he is totally uncapable of taking care of himself. At the moment he depends on us, 100%.<br />
From elementary things like shopping and cleaning his home to more complicated things like, staying alive and sober. The last drinking episode took place a week ago, he is cutting down his meds and in addition to that suffered from insomania - he didn`t sleep in 8 days and ended up drinking. He got really really carried away, he tried to kill himself. We stopped him.My whole week was ruined because of that, I almost dropped out of uni because of that.<br />
<br />
I know a lot of you will say that you can`t help someone if they don`t want to be helped, but I think he does want to get better...and he has said on many occasions that he knows he`s a burden and wants to get better.<br />
And some of you will say that if he`s disturbing my life so much then I have to change that, e.g. focus on my life only but if I did that (not only me, but my friends too, we`re all feeling the same way pretty much) I`m afraid he`d die. And I don`t want that to happen.<br />
So - I NEED HIM TO GET BETTER. He needs to get better for him, but for us also. I plan to move to another country soon with my bf (who is one of the 2 other friend) and the third friend already lives in another town. He needs to be able to live by himself by that time.<br />
<br />
Our goal for now is to make him :<br />
1. clean his home regularly (it`s such a mess, I`d get depression if I had to live there)<br />
2. go for a walk with us 4 days a week at least (at 10 am twice a week and at 1pm on another 2 days)(he`s usual sleepingpattern involves going to bed at 7am and waking at 6pm - he needs to move into a normal time zone in order to function in the society)(plus, the last time he left his home was 2 months ago, HE NEEDS TO GO OUT, regularly)<br />
3. we gave him 2 rats as a bday present, since he loves animals and we thought that they`d be a source of joy.... now, he cleans their cage like twice  A YEAR. it stinks, I`m really scared for the rats health, this NEEDS to change.<br />
4. make him do qi-kong every day (he`s a spacialist at it, he has given several martial art classes in the past and admits that it helps to fight depression)<br />
<br />
If he (and we) manages to make those things a routine then it`s time to move on, time to take him to movies, art shows, etc. Time to make him go shopping by himself and eventually join some club and start working again. We need to change his habits (sitting home 24/7 and watching movies all day) and re-introduce him with society.<br />
I believe that having responsibilities and actually carring them out can have a positive effect on one`s mental state. <br />
<br />
I wrote all those things on paper and added that he has to do those things NO MATER WHAT, it doesn`t matter how bad or low he is feeling. If he doesn`t do those things then he will get punished. We will take away his computer, cigarettes or something else. Violent huh? But I feel that after the last drinking episode we have every right to force him do these things. And no, he doesn`t have free will, we will not let him die. <br />
<br />
Sorry, I got carried away. My initial question was that do you think that making him do those things, forcing him out of his comfort zone,will help him to get out of depression? <br />
I probably should add that we are all suspecting that to a large extent his bad habbits are just HABITS and not caused by depression (by now anyways). He actually is in a good phase right now (let`s leave the drinking and insomania episode out) and we`re thiking that it`s time to shake him the **** up!<br />
<br />
Thanks,<br />
<br />
your sincerely, a very frustrated Miia.</div>

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