http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/ Personal Development for Smart People Discussion Forums en Fri, 20 Nov 2009 21:38:10 GMT vBulletin 60 http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/images/misc/rss.jpg http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/ http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/general-introductions/39662-anna-conlan.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 20:57:15 GMT I would like to wish our good friend, Anna Conlan, the very best in the bold move she's making in her life -- beginning a whole new adventure in a new land! I'm really excited for her, and wanted to invite you to wish her well in this move.

They have the Internet where she's going, don't worry. :D ]]> Angela http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/general-introductions/39662-anna-conlan.html http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/personal-effectiveness/39659-feeling-inadequate-help-please.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 20:12:30 GMT I'm gonna try to keep this short and sweet. As the title says, I'm having extreme feelings of inadequacy both in the workplace and in social situations. I understand that these feelings stem from my history of depression and issues with insecurity, and I've been working on improving this area of my life for some time but have seemed to hit a wall. I feel like there's an aura of inferiority surrounding me, that others look down on me, and I'm nervous when I speak to anyone about anything. I have always been the nice guy, the one who avoids conflict and tries to please everyone. To keep it as simple as possible, I would describe it as feeling that I'm not good enough for anyone and thus have to maintain a subordinate approach and attitude to those I encounter.

I've been able to regain some control over these feelings, but decided to turn to the forums to get input and advice from all of you. Anyone out there in a similar situation? How did you get over it? Anything would help and be much appreciated.

Thanks! ]]> Personal Effectiveness celestialife http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/personal-effectiveness/39659-feeling-inadequate-help-please.html http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/technology-technical-skills/39658-ocr-images-into-excel.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 20:11:54 GMT I was wondering if anyone has done this on a large scale. I'm learning the programs some, but I'm starting to wonder if the learning curve, of both me and the program aren't saving me much time and work. ]]> straysweeper http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/technology-technical-skills/39658-ocr-images-into-excel.html http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/psychic-paranormal/39657-soul-pathfinder.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 19:32:50 GMT Hey all! This is a brief post to rave about David Chung and his website. He is a member of this forum and I linked to his site after reading a few of his posts. David is a claircognizant and a psychic medium who utilizes Archangel Oracle Card readings to help others realize and connect with the path in their lives.

Right now he is offering free readings, and I jumped at the opportunity to take one. Without going into too much detail, I feel that his reading was spot on and it has helped provide that spark of motivation that I needed to pursue the goals I have for myself. I am at a pivotal point in my life and about to make a decision that will alter my course. David connected with spirit and relayed their message to me: I should step with conviction into the unknown that lies ahead and put my doubts and fears to rest. I was truly amazed with that and the entirety of his reading and felt compelled to spread the news.

So, if you are looking for some sort of guidance in your life, stop by David's website and take advantage of his free readings - I would have absolutely paid good money to listen to what he had to tell me! ]]> celestialife http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/psychic-paranormal/39657-soul-pathfinder.html http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/social-relationships/39656-worst-cheating-story.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 18:59:45 GMT Hello all,

This is the first time I have posted anything here. I have been a fan of Steve Pavlina and what he says for awhile now. I just now have had the courage to register for the forums and post. I have read alot of stuff here. I reall appreciate the wisdom and intelligence this community has to offer. This is the reason I am posting my ordeal over the past year. Try and have patience. I will try and get almost everything out in one post. I only have 30 minutes here on lunch.

I have been married for 11 years now. I have 2 children 6 and 10 years of age. I have been loyal and responsible during my marriage. I have never drank or smoked or put my family in any compromising position(s). I am not holier than thou....so dont assume that. Everyone has flaws. I know this. Here it goes.

I found out my wife was chaeting on me in December of 2008. I found out by having her Blackberry in my hand while I was trying to check the time. The Blackberryturned on and it went straight to a IM message on Yahoo. It said "How are you?". I showed her and asked her what it was all about. She tried grabbing the phone from me and told me she didnt know. She said to give her the phone frantically. In this process the phone shut down again and that info was gone. She then proceded on telling me that it was probably from the old user because she sent her original phone out to be fixed from water damage and they sent her this one. I didnt buy it. I caught her.

To make this story alittle shorter. It turns out that she has been chatting with numerous guys for over 8 months. I should have known something was wrong when she needed to sleep with the phone by her side at all times. But I was trusting of her. If I dont trust her, I felt i was doing a disservice...and so I had to trust her. She told me that she met them through Craig's List. She put out an ad about how she just wants sex and that she loves a guy in uniform...especially COPS...etc. To make another long story short she met up with about 7 of these guys...she claims....and had sex with them..wentto the lake and gave a blowjob to someone she never met.....she carried on a sexual relationship with a cop for 6 months......she even brought 3 to our house. She eventually gave me her password for the Yahoo account....and over a period of 5 months....I had a total of over 30 guys that would write and IM her when I logged on to the account. I still pretended to be her. The majority of them was saying they wanna hook up again......when are we going to f*ck.......when can I come over......etc. Then I found out that her ex from 12 years ago was also in the picture. She went and had sex with him...again. This is the 3rd time she has cheated on me with him over the 13 years we have been together. Once while we were engaged...once after about 3 years of marriage....and now. She also slept with one of my supposed friends 3 years ago. She just admitted this now that I asked her for all the truths about cheating when I found out in December of 2008. What I forgot to mention was that prior to me finding all this out...our 10 year wedding anniversary was in August 2008. I felt something wasnt right with our marriage...so I sat her down and asked her if she was still happy with our marriage and wanted to still move forward. She told me yes.....and I bought her a 10 year anniversary ring worth $4,000. She always wanted this....so I got it for her. We renewed our wedding vows in a church that day....and everything seemed fine. We dont have much money and are always in debt because she likes to overspend. That is partially my fault for allowing it....but I was scared to lose her if I didnt allow it. I know, my fault again. But I had a secret from her....I play online poker and won $20,000....and never told her.....we were drowning in her debt......and after I found out what she did ....I had a decision to make....leave her and start a new life with $20,000 or pay off everything and move forward. I decided to give her another chance and payed everything off.....which left us at a $0 balance and fresh start. I was and still am having a hard time dealing with all this.....but now shes telling me shes at a point where she needs to "find herself"......and doesnt know if she wants to be with me....WTF?!.....what more can I do to uphold my oath to God and or keep the family together for the kids sake of being raised with 2 parents. She is a beautiful woman......and I love her......but I seem to be going crazy now.....If I let her go....I know she will turn into a slut....be abused...taken advantage of...etc......and then the kids will be raised with the majority of their time with her....and she is never leading a good example of how to properly parent. I am fearful the kids will grow up with that and there lives will be ruined to a certain extent. Then ill feel the burden of failing them.......There is much more to the story......just ask questions...im running out of time to write.......please feel free to comment and maybe guide me......The probalem is I cant support myself if she leaves...i would have to pay child support.....I make $40,000....but my job is looking like it will be outsourced...what to do?! ]]> JRMR802 http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/social-relationships/39656-worst-cheating-story.html http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/spirituality-consciousness-awareness/39655-tony-parsons-there-s-no-such-thing-enlightenment.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 18:29:37 GMT What do you think of Tony Parsons message? He's a spiritual teacher of the advaita/nondual persuasion.

His message might be summed up like this: There is no such thing as enlightenment because there is no one to become enlightened!

Here's an interview with him from last year. It's great. He projects a calm and joyful presence even through the video.
Non Duality

and his website: Tony Parsons-The Open Secret ]]> schola http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/spirituality-consciousness-awareness/39655-tony-parsons-there-s-no-such-thing-enlightenment.html http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/world-affairs/39653-fed-transparency-act-leaves-house-committee.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 16:54:50 GMT Glenn Greenwald - Salon.com
Good news about politics in the US don't happen often but I think this is one. ]]> World Affairs Brutha http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/world-affairs/39653-fed-transparency-act-leaves-house-committee.html http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/social-relationships/39652-no-argument-relationship.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 16:42:30 GMT Originally article posted here: The No Argument Relationship? (http://productivityking.com/the-no-argument-relationship/) Arguments are almost seemingly inevitable in a relationship, so how is it possible to have a no argument relationship? First off, let’s define an argument. In my opinion, there is a dramatic difference between an argument and a disagreement. A disagreement is an issue at hand that the two sides don’t see eye to eye on. An argument is when it escalates and personal attacks arise. For example, if there is an issue about who should wash the dishes tonight, that’s a disagreement. When one starts to point fingers and blame the other for never washing the dishes, that’s an argument. What we can try to do is not avoid all arguments, but rather prevent them as best as we can. If we follow the three tools below for a healthy relationships, we can provide the majority of bickering. The rest aren’t arguments anymore, they are just mere disagreements that have escalated to another level. So, without further ado, here’s what I recommend for the healthiest relationships you can muster. Complete Communication – complete and utter communication about any little thing that bothers you. Yes, this means ANYTHING. If you get a slight hint of jealousy when a girl talks to your boyfriend, TALK to him about it. What this does is eliminate any issues and harsh feelings at their most primitive level, thus preventing them from ever escalating and becoming bigger problems. It doesn’t matter how small the problem is. If you look at any argument, 90% of the time the issue was really something “small” to begin with! Don’t let negative emotions get the best of you, destroy them when you can! Set Up Your 3 Rules – my girlfriend and I have come to realize that whenever any personal attacks come up in our relationship, it is purely because we seek attention and love from the other person. The attacks are just our emotion’s way of forcing it out by feeling pain. So, whenever we feel like we do seek attention and appreciation, we focus on the three rules: 1) You are their first priority 2) They would never do anything to intentionally hurt you 3) Relationship is about giving. The “science” behind this is rather interesting, but basically here are the explanations for why we chose these three rules. The first one ensures us that we are indeed loved and that there is no worry or concern. The second explains to us that whatever wrong the other has done, it was probably to protect or benefit themselves, but not to directly hurt us. The third rule asks us why we are having these thoughts in the first place, especially if giving is the first concern! Make it a habit to remember these three rules whenever negative emotions come up! Do The Work – for those who don’t already know, the Work is a cognitive-behavioral therapy tool that is used to reverse negative thoughts. It runs you through a series of questions that enables you to get back to reality and realize that those thoughts have no basis or substance. The four questions are: 1) Is it true? 2) If no, can you absolutely know it’s true? 3) How do you react when you believe this? 4) Who would you be without this thought? For more information, visit www.thework.com In the end, realize that you CHOOSE to be in a relationship. You never have to have those fights; you never have to be in pain! A relationship’s focus should be on sharing as much as you can with the other person, and should be a source of constant happiness and joy. When it is not, then it should be examined and analyzed to prevent future problems. Originally article posted here: The No Argument Relationship?

Arguments are almost seemingly inevitable in a relationship, so how is it possible to have a no argument relationship? First off, let’s define an argument. In my opinion, there is a dramatic difference between an argument and a disagreement. A disagreement is an issue at hand that the two sides don’t see eye to eye on. An argument is when it escalates and personal attacks arise. For example, if there is an issue about who should wash the dishes tonight, that’s a disagreement. When one starts to point fingers and blame the other for never washing the dishes, that’s an argument.

What we can try to do is not avoid all arguments, but rather prevent them as best as we can. If we follow the three tools below for a healthy relationships, we can provide the majority of bickering. The rest aren’t arguments anymore, they are just mere disagreements that have escalated to another level. So, without further ado, here’s what I recommend for the healthiest relationships you can muster.

Complete Communication – complete and utter communication about any little thing that bothers you. Yes, this means ANYTHING. If you get a slight hint of jealousy when a girl talks to your boyfriend, TALK to him about it. What this does is eliminate any issues and harsh feelings at their most primitive level, thus preventing them from ever escalating and becoming bigger problems. It doesn’t matter how small the problem is. If you look at any argument, 90% of the time the issue was really something “small” to begin with! Don’t let negative emotions get the best of you, destroy them when you can!

Set Up Your 3 Rules – my girlfriend and I have come to realize that whenever any personal attacks come up in our relationship, it is purely because we seek attention and love from the other person. The attacks are just our emotion’s way of forcing it out by feeling pain. So, whenever we feel like we do seek attention and appreciation, we focus on the three rules: 1) You are their first priority 2) They would never do anything to intentionally hurt you 3) Relationship is about giving.

The “science” behind this is rather interesting, but basically here are the explanations for why we chose these three rules. The first one ensures us that we are indeed loved and that there is no worry or concern. The second explains to us that whatever wrong the other has done, it was probably to protect or benefit themselves, but not to directly hurt us. The third rule asks us why we are having these thoughts in the first place, especially if giving is the first concern! Make it a habit to remember these three rules whenever negative emotions come up!

Do The Work – for those who don’t already know, the Work is a cognitive-behavioral therapy tool that is used to reverse negative thoughts. It runs you through a series of questions that enables you to get back to reality and realize that those thoughts have no basis or substance. The four questions are:

1) Is it true?
2) If no, can you absolutely know it’s true?
3) How do you react when you believe this?
4) Who would you be without this thought?

For more information, visit www.thework.com

In the end, realize that you CHOOSE to be in a relationship. You never have to have those fights; you never have to be in pain! A relationship’s focus should be on sharing as much as you can with the other person, and should be a source of constant happiness and joy. When it is not, then it should be examined and analyzed to prevent future problems. ]]> craftyjake http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/social-relationships/39652-no-argument-relationship.html http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/spirituality-consciousness-awareness/39650-act-creation.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 16:20:00 GMT We solidify the wave from the awareness into the particle of consciousness. The void consumes reality. As our new state of “higher spiritual awareness” evolves, a better, clearer understanding will consume the realized self and all of its flaws. The essence (Being) will assemble creation and move toward potential. This potential state of purity brings us to the path that leads toward everything we are about to become. If we choose to achieve our potential as a piece of the puzzle, then all things within that attentive space will move in and connect to create the whole. The Being warps space, creating an “indention into consciousness” where all things within that indention begin to fall into the direction of the newly warped space. When complete, our will is done, and the essence to adapt the ability transcends the effort into matter. This is the point where all the effort and preparation displays on the physical plane. On a personal level, this is the equivalent of experiencing changes of attitude and gaining new traits of our chosen, true, and pure state. Our true self (the self that strives for its highest potential in a state of purity) will continue to expand its awareness. It will change, accomplish, and serve its purpose in the universal order with consciousness. Matter will physically manifest and will transcend. It will not only transcend the spiritual to the physical, but it will also create the chemical balance of science. It will recognize the ionic exchange, creating a balance of etheric and matter that corresponds to evolution. This is an explanation of how our thoughts can make a change and come through physically. To understand these points, we must remember several things. The essence creates the physical playground, which is then the grounding effect. The “energy-being” goes forth to search all potentials. It creates infinite possibilities by using mental time continuums (beliefs that must be experienced) that go back to the essence (Being) and recreates these beliefs into new realities. Because of the energy build-up, we will transcend the chemical balance of science and our development of consciousness. In this aspect, we may correspond to our true course of evolution: Space occupied, space experienced, potential realized, potential extrapolated, and reality recreated. We solidify the wave from the awareness into the particle of consciousness. The void consumes reality. As our new state of “higher spiritual awareness” evolves, a better, clearer understanding will consume the realized self and all of its flaws. The essence (Being) will assemble creation and move toward potential. This potential state of purity brings us to the path that leads toward everything we are about to become. If we choose to achieve our potential as a piece of the puzzle, then all things within that attentive space will move in and connect to create the whole. The Being warps space, creating an “indention into consciousness” where all things within that indention begin to fall into the direction of the newly warped space. When complete, our will is done, and the essence to adapt the ability transcends the effort into matter. This is the point where all the effort and preparation displays on the physical plane. On a personal level, this is the equivalent of experiencing changes of attitude and gaining new traits of our chosen, true, and pure state.

Our true self (the self that strives for its highest potential in a state of purity) will continue to expand its awareness. It will change, accomplish, and serve its purpose in the universal order with consciousness. Matter will physically manifest and will transcend. It will not only transcend the spiritual to the physical, but it will also create the chemical balance of science. It will recognize the ionic exchange, creating a balance of etheric and matter that corresponds to evolution. This is an explanation of how our thoughts can make a change and come through physically. To understand these points, we must remember several things. The essence creates the physical playground, which is then the grounding effect. The “energy-being” goes forth to search all potentials. It creates infinite possibilities by using mental time continuums (beliefs that must be experienced) that go back to the essence (Being) and recreates these beliefs into new realities. Because of the energy build-up, we will transcend the chemical balance of science and our development of consciousness. In this aspect, we may correspond to our true course of evolution: Space occupied, space experienced, potential realized, potential extrapolated, and reality recreated. ]]> Creotology http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/spirituality-consciousness-awareness/39650-act-creation.html http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/health-fitness/39649-strange-feeling-my-head.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 15:02:48 GMT For the past two days, I have a had a strange feeling that seems to stem from my head and go out of my eyes and ears. The only way I can really describe the feeling is like when you have the first sensation of an opiate high. For the past two days, I have a had a strange feeling that seems to stem from my head and go out of my eyes and ears. The only way I can really describe the feeling is like when you have the first sensation of an opiate high. ]]> Sanchenuss http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/health-fitness/39649-strange-feeling-my-head.html http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/emotional-mastery/39648-sympathy-kind-patronising.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 14:17:57 GMT Do you guys think that sympathy is a kind emotion? or is it just assuming that the other person is weak and pathetic, and not seeing their full potential. Do you guys think that sympathy is a kind emotion? or is it just assuming that the other person is weak and pathetic, and not seeing their full potential. ]]> Emotional Mastery brendannz http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/emotional-mastery/39648-sympathy-kind-patronising.html http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/business-financial/39647-feedback-my-wordpress-site-financial-panner.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 14:17:28 GMT All,

I am new to this forum, but have been reading Steve's post for some time in addition to poking around these forums as well

Earlier this year I started sending an email newsletter out to family and friends in order to better inform them on what is really happening, from my point of view, in the financial arena. About a month ago, I transitioned these emails to on online site as I felt it could help others.

Currently the content is packaged for this type of audience and provides weekly commentary, key articles, key videos, and highlights from an awesome financial newsletter that I read weekly. The site is updated every week between Wednesday and Friday.

The website is: The Financial Panner
The latest newsletter post is: Fundamentals Don’t Change Overnight « The Financial Panner

I would greatly appreciate feedback from this forum as there are many experts here.

Jig
____________________________________________
Prospecting for opportunity in a river of information....
*** The Financial Panner ***
The Financial Panner ]]> jigragu http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/business-financial/39647-feedback-my-wordpress-site-financial-panner.html http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/health-fitness/39646-help-i-lose-my-hair-but-wait-what-my-options.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 14:03:47 GMT Baldness is easily postponed. Uncover the reasons for your potential lack of cover and find out how to beat it. We all lose hair. Although you might feel like Captain Kirk when you’re 18, you could already be turning into Picard. According to the Belgravia Centre, Europe’s largest hair clinic, we lose 50-100 strands a day. Hairs last 3-6 years, then follicles grow new hair in place of the dead – until you reach your late teens, that is. Balding usually kicks off in your mid-twenties, when testosterone levels are at their highest.

Read full article here: Help, I Lose my Hair! | Anioc.com - Unlock Your Potentials

Do you have any experiences with Regaine/Rogaine treatment? ]]> Hanselich http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/health-fitness/39646-help-i-lose-my-hair-but-wait-what-my-options.html http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/world-affairs/39645-bum-s-rush.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 12:53:22 GMT regardless of political affiliation and personal opinion on either of the persons: it has appeared that people have stopped talking about the latest thing that mr limbaugh has said and EVERYONE is abuzz about SARAH and what she has to say! could she be toppling rush from his throne as the voice of the far right, just plain folks? just an observation...welcome any comments or opinions on this political phenom...even scathing ones directed at me!:D regardless of political affiliation and personal opinion on either of the persons:

it has appeared that people have stopped talking about the latest thing that mr limbaugh has said and EVERYONE is abuzz about SARAH and what she has to say!

could she be toppling rush from his throne as the voice of the far right, just plain folks?

just an observation...welcome any comments or opinions on this political phenom...even scathing ones directed at me!:D ]]> World Affairs aggie http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/world-affairs/39645-bum-s-rush.html http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/spirituality-consciousness-awareness/39644-spiritual-beliefs-work.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 12:35:45 GMT Hello everyone. I have a question regarding my current line of work as a music teacher, and my spiritual beliefs and interests. I currently teach at one of the best music schools in Europe, which I really enjoy - It’s such a great institution and I get to work with people that I like and feel good about. I’m very grateful for such an opportunity. :) Right now, my main interests in life are not music, but other aspects of personal development, especially spiritual and psychic development and the LOA. I devote a lot of time and energy to these areas and have been seriously considering doing such work professionally. I don’t as of yet have a personal, face-to-face, output for discussing or practicing concepts of a spiritual or psychic nature though, and at work, I have wanted to speak about such topics. But I have sensed that some of those I work with may not be receptive or supportive to spiritual and psychic matters, so I have kept my mouth shut. I have been a little scared of how others I work with would react if I told them I was into psychic stuff and afraid of how it would affect my reputation (ego), which up until this point in my life, has been almost entirely based on music. It’s ironic that given that a portion of my inner work has been on being less egocentic (many people tell me I’m very modest in light of my accomplishments as it is) and more humble, that one of my main concerns is about my ego... Has anyone here been through a similar dilemma regarding work and spiritual beliefs, and If so, how have you dealt with it? Hello everyone. I have a question regarding my current line of work as a music teacher, and my spiritual beliefs and interests.

I currently teach at one of the best music schools in Europe, which I really enjoy - It’s such a great institution and I get to work with people that I like and feel good about. I’m very grateful for such an opportunity. :)

Right now, my main interests in life are not music, but other aspects of personal development, especially spiritual and psychic development and the LOA. I devote a lot of time and energy to these areas and have been seriously considering doing such work professionally.

I don’t as of yet have a personal, face-to-face, output for discussing or practicing concepts of a spiritual or psychic nature though, and at work, I have wanted to speak about such topics. But I have sensed that some of those I work with may not be receptive or supportive to spiritual and psychic matters, so I have kept my mouth shut. I have been a little scared of how others I work with would react if I told them I was into psychic stuff and afraid of how it would affect my reputation (ego), which up until this point in my life, has been almost entirely based on music.

It’s ironic that given that a portion of my inner work has been on being less egocentic (many people tell me I’m very modest in light of my accomplishments as it is) and more humble, that one of my main concerns is about my ego...

Has anyone here been through a similar dilemma regarding work and spiritual beliefs, and If so, how have you dealt with it? ]]> I am Spirit http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/spirituality-consciousness-awareness/39644-spiritual-beliefs-work.html