Can You Use Law of Attraction to Attract a Specific Person Into Your Life? (Blog)

[Erin Pavlina]

Use this thread to discuss the following entry from Erin Pavlina's blog:

Can You Use Law of Attraction to Attract a Specific Person Into Your Life?

[IeVinsh]

Thank you a lot, Erin for this post. It was exactly what I needed to hear right now! Answers always seems to just find me when I need them, that's why I always lough that question is the most important... answer then will come just like that.

[carenkh]

Thanks, Erin!

I was having frequent thoughts of a former lover recently - very intense relationship, lots of growth throughout. Instead of thinking this meant "we're supposed to be together!", I focused on which qualities about that person I wanted in a partner. Are they things I want in my own self? What is it I think of, when I think of them? Can I have those things in my life in other ways? It's usually not about the *person*, in other words.

[wolfgang]

It occurs to me that when someone tries to intend a certain person to behave a certain way (fall in love with you in this example), there is usually a high amount of attachment to the outcome being this certain person (probably because you love them and wish them to love you back). Besides that there's focus on the "what" instead of "why" - there may also this longing for or "must have or I'll die" kind of thing with love that is a anti-vibe to bringing love around.

What about an opposite situation of being with someone but not sure about staying (which I am, so this isn't hypothetical). Is there that the law of attraction can help a "should I stay or should I go" feeling?

[Erin Pavlina]

When you're in an ambiguous relationship there may ambiguity about what you want. When you're not clear with the universe you get fuzzy results. Fuzzy intention equals fuzzy outcomes. Get clear on what you want, then analyze the relationship to see if you're getting what you want. If not, you may need to move on. Or you may be able to work with the other person to change if they are willing. But clarity of intention is key.

[Chinese Dragon]

Thanks Erin! I've seen a lot of people try to use LoA to do things win the lottery and the only successful case of that I've heard was when a group of psychics entered. You should enter the lotto, Erin. I hadn't really thought of not being fixated on a particular person or thing and letting the universe handle the details instead, thanks!

But what if the other person's intentions are to attract me into their life? I know a girl at school whom I'd really like to be in a relationship with and she's interested in getting to know me. I've been using LoA to try to strengthen our friendship but I probably won't see any results until a couple months because I only see her at school. Do you think LoA actually works under circumstances like this when the another person already has intentions congruent with mine?

[Erin Pavlina]

I think in a case like that you are both a vibrational match for the types of people each person wants to attract. We'll have to see what comes of it though.

[Lallymac]

Darn, that shatters my dreams of Johnny Depp

I've just turned 50 and beginning to think about the possibility of meeting someone new. In the past I haven't had to look. The right person has appeared at the right time. For the last 5-6 yrs I've thoroughly enjoyed the freedom of being unattached (apart from children), doing my own thing and filling the spaces with great friends. Some of my single friends have lists of criteria for potential applicants but I don't have a 'type' preference or the need for anything. Ex partners and friends come in a mixed bunch of ages, backgrounds and sizes. The common denominators with friends is creativity, humour and the ability to step outside the square.
How do you 'look' for that? I don't even know how to begin. Any suggestions?
Lallymac

[mlbr23]

I agree that trying to manifest someone specific or trying to manifest money only through a specific manner (lottery) is akin to attempting to limit the law of attraction and our domain is only the What while the How is the domain of the Law.

But what if we wish to attract / manifest a certain type of person or a certain type of business, while leaving other details flexible and out in the open for the Law to work its power?

Does placing conditions on your intended manifestation limit the Law in any way?

I mean, the LoA is supposed to work on what you really, really want, right? What if a specific type of person or a specific type of business or way of making money is what you really, really want?

[Erin Pavlina]

It's very possible to attract something specific. That happens, sure. The deal is that instead of saying, "I want Joe to be attracted to me" you say, "I want to be in a loving relationship with someone who finds me attractive." You can check to see if "Joe" is interested though.

[XeutonMojukai]

Yep.

Like Astrology:

General questions get general answers;

Specific questions get specific answers;

Sometimes you'd still do better with the general answer than the specific one.

~ David

[MissP]

I have only starting learning about the LoA and finding it hard to be positive all the time well mainly at work when one of my bosses is forever getting me down, but I know I can get passed this, I am starting to believe and have had small things happen, my car bill was not as high as I expected (I was expecting it high before I started to learn the LoA) and a little bit of money is coming my way.

With men I have been trying to attract a certain person, to just send me a text and be with me, but I did have a a weird feeling in my stomach everytime I asked and thought about this, so in my eyes its the universe telling me it can't control his mind! thank you so much for the blog, has helped me out alot and the slight thought of not believing in the LoA has gone and that weird feeling in my stomach has almost dissapeared, and after I send the slighty scary message of "will we ever be more than what we are" and whatever the reply, yes or no. I know that feeling will be erased as its also nerves!

thank you again! and appologies for going into one!!

I am loving my new way of thinking and feeling!!

[natalygco]

Hi...
I just read about how difficult it is to attract an specific person and...it makes sense, besides, I've experienced it myself. Nonetheless...all this time I kept on trying to attract him because what I have read about the Law of Attraction told me that it's power had no limits. I had read that I could have whatever I wanted and that, when talking about relationships, it didn't matter whete I was at this moment because I could change any situations by "right" thinking.
What bothers me is that with your ideas that, once again I agree they have sense, about how it is difficult to attract an specific person and that all that I can do is concentrate in the good feeling I want and then they will come to me... then the omnipotent power of the law is reduced to just being optimistic and receiving whatever life gives you knowing that it is the best for you. Then I'm not the creator of my existence but just someone who happily accepts what is given. Power is completely reduced to accepting and smiling...and I just don't want that.
So...can you help me? How can these 2 ideas about the law agree?
If I think about someone or something for a long period of time; wont that be attracted to me?
I'll wait for your answer...Thankyou.

[Erin Pavlina]

Great question. The answer is related to whether you take a love, faith, trust, based path in life, or a control/fear based path. But let me write a blog entry about this since it's something I've been wanting to write about for a while. Stay tuned to my blog.

[wolfgang]

Originally Posted by natalygco

Hi...
I just read about how difficult it is to attract an specific person and...it makes sense, besides, I've experienced it myself. Nonetheless...all this time I kept on trying to attract him because what I have read about the Law of Attraction told me that it's power had no limits. I had read that I could have whatever I wanted and that, when talking about relationships, it didn't matter whete I was at this moment because I could change any situations by "right" thinking.

Is the LoA about being able to control what you attract? That, if there are no limits, then anything we can imagine is possible? And all this from our little ego self wanting certain things or a certain person? Control of the other person? Is the LoA so powerful to control other people?

What bothers me is that with your ideas that, once again I agree they have sense, about how it is difficult to attract an specific person and that all that I can do is concentrate in the good feeling I want and then they will come to me... then the omnipotent power of the law is reduced to just being optimistic and receiving whatever life gives you knowing that it is the best for you. Then I'm not the creator of my existence but just someone who happily accepts what is given. Power is completely reduced to accepting and smiling...and I just don't want that.

This is more than about attracting a certain person. It's a question about how to see the LoA and "use" it without just having to accept whatever comes your way. How to change what comes your way, right? But then is acceptance one of the basis for seeing the LoA in operation?

So...can you help me? How can these 2 ideas about the law agree?
If I think about someone or something for a long period of time; wont that be attracted to me?
I'll wait for your answer...Thankyou.

What are the 2 ideas about the LoA that you are trying to fit together?

[natalygco]

Thankyou for your answer...please write to me when you've written the blog.

Having the same doubt in mind I started reading other related blogs and I found about the Law of Detachment...I had no idea about it!!! I think it really explains why some of the things I've been trying to attract haven't shown up..., maybe by feeling that I NEED them I attracted fear, and that will just create opposite situations from what I want.
But then another thing I don't understand showed up...it seems there is much more I have to learn about LoA.
Anyway...I have to feel detached, I have to know what I want but being completely sure that I'm going to get it and that I don't NEED it, I just want it because it would make me happy...in that way there is no fear. Nonetheless...in order to make the whole process more accurate I have to visualize, and think about what I want to attract...am I right? If I'm thinking about that all the time, and visualizing while including feelings in the image I'm creating...am I not attached to the image? How can I be sure that I'm not showing attachment but just a desire??
Thankyou for your help...

[wolfgang]

Originally Posted by Erin Pavlina

Great question. The answer is related to whether you take a love, faith, trust, based path in life, or a control/fear based path. But let me write a blog entry about this since it's something I've been wanting to write about for a while. Stay tuned to my blog.

Erin,
Are you still cooking a blog entry about this?

I would wonder your take on taking this question to the level of do we follow Life or do we tell Life what we want? The debate of letting life guide us "having faith and accepting" versus figuring out what we want and telling life to make it so "put your oder in to the universe". Maybe this is not the same as love versus fear paths (?)

[Erin Pavlina]

All good questions. I am still simmering on this one. it's hard to find time to write blog entries while also doing readings all day. I wish there were two of me

[Angela]

Originally Posted by wolfgang

"put your oder in to the universe".

I know what you mean, wolfgang, but this is my very favorite typo ever.

[AngryIndian]

Erin, I think more than attraction what is important is whether you can "keep" the person or not. Relationships start from attraction, but successful are the ones where there is a high degree of compatibility, the right degree of compromise from both partners, where you can be yourself and not try to be someone else just to keep someone in a relationship with you.

That said and done, it is possible to attract other people to you. We human beings consider ourselves to be extremely complicated, truth is we are after all simple animals.

The best tactic I've seen works with attracting someone of the opposite sex:

1. Hit a gym or the running track regularly
2. Get a great body - or as close to a great body that you can genetically. By a great body, I mean a healthy body. Swami Vivekanand said that a healthy body is essential for a healthy mind. (If you don't know who SV is Google him)
3. If you have been carrying excess bagage from a past relationship - drop it.
4. Feel good about yourself
5. When you meet someone new, don't wait to ask them out.
6. Most importantly, keep an open mind. Remember - Everything Works, Nothing works forever.


My name is not relevant and I am the Angry Indian

[wolfgang]

Originally Posted by Angela

I know what you mean, wolfgang, but this is my very favorite typo ever.

lol (for real, my office mates probably think I'm nuts now for laughing for no apparent reason)

I'm going to crack up over that for a while. thanks!