Overcoming fear to unlock psychic abilities

[AnnaC]

I am just writing this to ask for advice from Erin or anyone who has had any experience with this: I have had a burning desire to fully unlock and use my psychic ability for a few months now, but am not able to muster up the courage to use it simply because I am too afraid to (though much less afraid than I have been in the past).

I have been psychic all my life but have not allowed my abilities to blossom. I had two particularly frightening experiences when I was younger. One involving an apparition, which frightened the pants off me because it was completely unexpected! And a dream experience involving a negative entity which left me feeling haunted for days, even weeks afterwards. I have been saying to myself, ‘Yes, I am ready now’. I don’t know quite what I’m expecting to happen when I affirm this. Nothing happens, except I become more and more frustrated because I at times feel that I am not ready to follow through with my affirmations! And the more frustrated I get, the more I dream and the more my dreams become more and more vivid and full of symbols (This is something of a digression, but last night I dreamt that I got on a bus in the city I live in in France and was somewhat surprised to find Erin Pavlina was the bus driver!! She was driving extremely slowly and was wearing a big, chunky, blue necklace. I think this has something to do with the fact that she told me during my reading that there was lots of indigo blue in my throat chakra !! )

The spirits also told me (during a reading with Erin) a couple of months ago that my fear is blocking my psychic abilities. The metaphor given by my guides was one of me attempting to mow a meadow of long grass with an old fashioned mower and not getting very far. The message from my guides was to allow the grass to grow wild and to stop trying to control my fear, as this is blocking what was supposed to happen. I told Erin I was mainly clairsentient and clairvoyant (but only in my mind’s eye) and Erin (or the spirits through Erin?) told me I would eventually see and hear things too. I have not seen an apparition since my childhood and have not encountered a negative entity since my teenage years (I am 23) and I really want to keep it that way. I am not comfortable with seeing spirits or even hearing them. I am however, comfortable with receiving messages from them via dreams, seeing and contacting deceased people I know through dreams, conversing with spirits and my higher self when meditating and using my intuition. I know that seeing spirits is not really that scary because weirdly, some time ago I started seeing them in dreams and they do not frighten me one bit!! But in the past I have been afraid of being startled.

This should not be a problem, if I did not feel that my future is somehow tied up in my psychic abilities and that I am not doing what I came here to do. I feel like I’m sort of biding my time until I can muster up the courage to say yes to this. I’m trying to manifest people to practice on. I have no experience of using my abilities to help other people and wonder whether I feel I am not ready because I would have no idea practically how to use them.

How do you deal with fear? Could it be a sign that I am not ready? (Hmm I am quite determined so do not really want to take much notice of that idea) Do you ignore it? I have read Erin’s articles about embracing fear, but somehow feel that if I embraced my fear or surrendered to it, then I would lose (lose what though?! I’m not even sure. It feels like some sort of battle between me and the negative entity I encountered in my dream some years ago who just wants me to get scared and give up). How is it possible to embrace fear when you’re too scared!!??

When I’m not moving extremely slowly, I just feel stuck.

If you got to the end of this, then thanks for taking the time to read it! And if anyone has any ideas or could share their experiences with anything similar, it would be much appreciated!

[Erin Pavlina]

I was afraid too. I was way too afraid to see spirits. I thought they would scare the living daylights out of me. I imagined Poltergeist every day and I wanted no part of that.

Actually, it was a combination of two things that helped me get over the fear. The tv show Ghost Whisperer was the first. In the show, Melinda Gordon is often surprised/scared when a spirit shows up. She screams, reacts, and then gets over it. The more she works with the spirit, the less scary it becomes. I thought to myself, "Am I willing to see spirits if it means that I will occasionally be suprised and scared by something I see if it means helping them?" The answer was yes.

The second thing that opened me back up and helped me get over the fear was the day my guides allowed me to feel, for a moment, the suffering of people on this planet. All suffering at one time. It overwhelmed me. And a voice said to me, "You can help end suffering with your gift. You can help people. Isn't that worth being occasionally suprised or even scared?"

And you know what... the thing I feared most has not happened. I have not been jumped upon by scary spirits. When your vibration is high enough that sort of thing doesn't happen. I had a spirit wake me up in the middle of the night wanting to tell me stuff about the person I was reading for later that day, but she was not scary at all. We had a brief conversation and I told her to give me all her messages in a dream so I could relay them to her son during the reading. Worked out fine.

So find your why. Why is it so important for you to use your gift to help others? When you feel that power, that purpose, you will unlock your gifts.

and to quote my wonderful guide, Keith... "Have a reaction, not a preaction."

[Michelle]

I just wanted to say that this post is very comforting to me. It is okay to be afraid!

Thank you!

[AnnaC]

Thanks for your advice Erin, much appreciated

[negate7o4]

Originally Posted by Erin Pavlina

The second thing that opened me back up and helped me get over the fear was the day my guides allowed me to feel, for a moment, the suffering of people on this planet. All suffering at one time. It overwhelmed me. And a voice said to me, "You can help end suffering with your gift. You can help people. Isn't that worth being occasionally suprised or even scared?"

why do you say this? do you have any idee of what true suffering is, 2 out of 3 billion people on this earth are going hungry tonight. How are you going to help them are you going to tell them die peacefully?

Life is not a fairy tale! while you are trying to help people into delusions you are begin fed
i will try and help those who are realy suffering. The world doesnt care anymore
the money spent on luxuries for the rich would have been more that enough to help lift the suffering of 2 out of 3 billion people on this earth

"your guides" let jou feel the suffering who are they to know suffering?

spirits as you call them obviously feeds of energy. negative + positive
and you are giving more than enough energy to feed theirs (delusions)

you get spirits that willtell you they are satan just to get reaction out of you
you get spirits that willtell you that you just felt suffering of the entire world
to get the same respone.

you and your guides know nothing of suffering sitting comfortably in your home making delusioned descions based on no absolute

when i was tortured by criminals that broke into our house it didnt "overwhelmed me" i passed out because all the pain and i screamed till i could only taste blood and feel only blood in my throught! but i ques to feel all the suffering in this world all the hunger would only overwhelm YOU, yeah right

go to sudan go to zimbabwe go to DRK go see what suffering is first before you say you felt suffering of the entire world!!

[Simmiah]

Originally Posted by negate7o4

why do you say this? do you have any idee of what true suffering is, 2 out of 3 billion people on this earth are going hungry tonight. How are you going to help them are you going to tell them die peacefully?

May you have some peace negate.

I have lived through tremendously difficult circumstances myself & I can say.. I can see where you are coming from.

May peace be granted you Good day.

[negate7o4]

Thx Simmiah. Good day 2 you 2

[Erin Pavlina]

Interesting how you assume I have not known suffering. Interesting that you assume I cannot know or feel the suffering of others. Interesting that you think we are all disconnected and so cannot possibly feel each other suffering.

You obviously care a lot about people. You obviously know what suffering is. And through your experiences you will bring comfort and hopefully change to those who suffer. I wish you luck on our journey. And "our" was not a typo.

[negate7o4]

I didnt asume that you dont know about suffering, sorry if it came accros that way. Just didnt like the comment That you said you felt the entire worlds suffering. Good luck to you to

[Erin Pavlina]

Originally Posted by negate7o4

you and your guides know nothing of suffering sitting comfortably in your home making delusioned descions based on no absolute


go to sudan go to zimbabwe go to DRK go see what suffering is first before you say you felt suffering of the entire world!!

These statements are probably where I thought you suggested I didn't know anything about suffering.

But irregardless, you don't alleviate suffering by being outraged. You don't alleviate suffering by attacking others for not doing enough or not doing it the right way.

You alleviate suffering when you change who you are on the inside so that a compassionate world can be reflected back on the outside.

When you are in a noisy movie theatre and someone is making a lot of noise, shushing them only makes you one of the noise makers. Instead, be quiet. Eventually, the person making the noise will hush on their own.

[Akashic_Librarian]

negate7o4 I know you had an experience but you must not let that drive you to thinking anything that offers hope to someone is a delusion. The world is not a dark, horrible place of dying people all th etime. That is the wrong way to see things. I imagine you must think I am being stupid, talking like I understand you, I do understand on a level you have shut off from your perception by your own hatred and resentment. Don't be angry with us. Yoru problem is within yourself, and in you alone.

[negate7o4]

its good to change who you are on the inside but how will that make suffering of people less severe. Action is required.
there will always be suffering. We live in a cruel world. If one person just helps another person and take action that will alleviate suffering

for a few people to reflect compassion is not enough! People dont care about others who suffer we all are overwhelmed by consumerism.


Every year more and more people die because of genocide, hunger, war and for what?
Humans are selfish.

[negate7o4]

Originally Posted by Akashic_Librarian

negate7o4 I know you had an experience but you must not let that drive you to thinking anything that offers hope to someone is a delusion. The world is not a dark, horrible place of dying people all th etime. That is the wrong way to see things. I imagine you must think I am being stupid, talking like I understand you, I do understand on a level you have shut off from your perception by your own hatred and resentment. Don't be angry with us. Yoru problem is within yourself, and in you alone.

i can understand that but things that can give people hope also destroyes alot. People who started muslim religion, christion religion also thought that they can give hope and love and compassion through there writings. And yes it did give hope but it also caused wars. ALot of people died for some to have hope

[Erin Pavlina]

Originally Posted by negate7o4

Action is required.
there will always be suffering.

No, if you intend that there will always be suffering, there will be.

Originally Posted by negate7o4

We live in a cruel world.

I don't.

Originally Posted by negate7o4

for a few people to reflect compassion is not enough!

In the world I live in, it is enough. If they are the right people.

Originally Posted by negate7o4

People dont care about others who suffer we all are overwhelmed by consumerism.

Not all of us.

Originally Posted by negate7o4

Humans are selfish.

Again, not in my world.

Don't despair, it does not help the world. You may want to read up on the Law of attraction. You are seeing in the world what you expect to see. Change your expectations and you will begin to see things differently.

Who knows, you may even occasionally see love, joy, peace, and compassion.

[negate7o4]

luckily the world doesnt just revolve around you! you may not live in a cruel place on this earth! and you may not be selfsih. But yet you only comaperd yourself and your world to my words.

I am far from despair! its hope that keeps us all going in a wrong and/or right direction. I am not gonna give false hope! give a starving child bread in his stomach and hope of life will light up! The hope of false promisses does nothing. The hope of life is all i need. To divide people to put them in groups and differant believes you are begging for conflict

I know of LOA and i studied the brain and i am not a machine i dont need to convince myself of what i want to become. I am going to take it step by step and when i reach my end result then i will revel in what i achieved

[Akashic_Librarian]

Only a fool believes that hope can only be given by others, I quote a speech from a book I read:

“Evil is not one large entity, but a collection of countless, small depravities brought up from the much by petty men. Living under the Order, you have traded the enrichment of vision for a Gray fog of mediocrity, - the fertile inspiration of striving and growth, for the mindless stagnation and slow decay - the brave new ground of the attempt, for the timid quagmire of apathy…You have traded freedom not even for a bowl of soup, but worse, for the spoken empty feeling of others who say that you deserve to have a full bowl of soup provided by someone else. Happiness, joy accomplishment, achievement…are not finite commodities, to be divided up. Is a child’s laughter to be divided up and allotted? No! Simply make more laughter!”
“Every persons life is theirs by right. An individual’s life can be and must belong only to himself, not to any society or community, or he is then but a slave. No one can deny another person their right to their life, nor seize by force what is produced by someone else, because that is stealing their means to sustain their life. It is treason against mankind to hold a knife to a man’s throat and dictate how he must live his life.”


Jsut read it, and apply.

[negate7o4]

Originally Posted by Akashic_Librarian

Only a fool believes that hope can only be given by others, I quote a speech from a book I read:

“Evil is not one large entity, but a collection of countless, small depravities brought up from the much by petty men. Living under the Order, you have traded the enrichment of vision for a Gray fog of mediocrity, - the fertile inspiration of striving and growth, for the mindless stagnation and slow decay - the brave new ground of the attempt, for the timid quagmire of apathy…You have traded freedom not even for a bowl of soup, but worse, for the spoken empty feeling of others who say that you deserve to have a full bowl of soup provided by someone else. Happiness, joy accomplishment, achievement…are not finite commodities, to be divided up. Is a child’s laughter to be divided up and allotted? No! Simply make more laughter!”
“Every persons life is theirs by right. An individual’s life can be and must belong only to himself, not to any society or community, or he is then but a slave. No one can deny another person their right to their life, nor seize by force what is produced by someone else, because that is stealing their means to sustain their life. It is treason against mankind to hold a knife to a man’s throat and dictate how he must live his life.”


Jsut read it, and apply.

Well said!! could you please give me the name of the book
and my friend you would be suprised how much hope one person can give to another.

[Akashic_Librarian]

Its called Faith of The Fallen by terry Goodkind and I didn't say hope couldn't be given, just it can't soley be given.

[negate7o4]

thank you.

[AnnaC]

I am sorry to hear you have had such dreadful experiences, negate7o4, I hope your future experiences will be more positive ones.

[Michelle]

the money spent on luxuries for the rich would have been more that enough to help lift the suffering of 2 out of 3 billion people on this earth

No matter how much money the wealthier countries dump on poorer ones, the poorer ones never seem to gain bearings and improve themselves with it.

They are simply not ready for it, and the only thing that will help them be ready for it is self-responsibility. When they are self-responsible they will not need money to be dumped on them, or when it is they will know how to handle it. We cannot fix the problems of others and hope to have a lasting solution. The solution must be born of an intrinsic change on the part of the poorer countries.

Those who feel victimized by wealthier countries know nothing of the suffering, struggle, and hard work it took those countries to get to that point. Those who feel entitled to the fruits of another's labour are moochers.

With your point of view you spread guilt and shame among those who enjoy life and the goodness it has to offer. I suffered a lot in my life. A LOT. And I most certainly will not feel guilty that I now am healthy, happy, and safe. My giving up joy, happiness, and money would not cause another to have more of it.

Trying to force guilt upon others will not spark change. In shaming people (to feel the shame you feel yourself), you kill their spirit and you take their power away.

[negate7o4]

I said nothing about guilt and shame i told you the facts that many people are suffering! but you felt guilt and shame. you missed the point poorer countries dont need money what are they going to do with it? are they gonna use it for fire? IT's food thats needed

luxuries for the rich? did you even interperet what was said
Conflict diamonds
Conflict Diamonds
countries are being exploited wars are being caused. people suffer but did you ask were the diamond you are wearing came from or how many blood was spilled its a problem that on going!!

Why dont you go make a study of the ecomnomic practises where african countries get exploited alot, coca farmers ex ex
but you made it clear you are no one to care since you are healthy and happy
i am healthy and happy and i do not need the feeling of guilt to help another person
thats not healthy and happy

And the people that are starving from poorer contries no nothing of wealthier countries nor do they feel victimised by them. Because its the the wealthy countries that sponsers the un food program and fema to give the people food and health care that they need! they see it as a blessing and hope of life. Im glad you are happy and safe 2 billion people are not.

[Michelle]

Why dont you go make a study of the ecomnomic practises where african countries get exploited alot, coca farmers ex ex

Yes, indeed. Africa is one big victim.

but you made it clear you are no one to care since you are healthy and happy

Caring for someone in need, who takes responsibility for themself is much different than caring for someone who blames you for their suffering and expects you to meet all their needs.

[negate7o4]

I did not blame anyone, not you not a country no one
and Yes, indeed ignorance runs wild.

You shouldnt feel responsible to help and you are taking every word i say out of context. The point is not to focus on those who cause suffering. its to make this world a better place not just for you or me but for everyone who lives on the earth

[Simmiah]

Originally Posted by Michelle

No matter how much money the wealthier countries dump on poorer ones, the poorer ones never seem to gain bearings and improve themselves with it.
<snip>

Those who feel victimized by wealthier countries know nothing of the suffering, struggle, and hard work it took those countries to get to that point. Those who feel entitled to the fruits of another's labour are moochers.

Michelle, not that you wanted this but I definitely agree with you. I have seen this phenomenon myself & very recently wrote a diary entry about this very phenomenon.

My turning point in my life was when I realized I created my own destiny. I realized I could change & be courageous & face whatever "obstacles" life would throw my way. After that I was never permanently depressed again nor was I unhappy in any real sense. I did suffer (hehehe...you should meet my family! hehehe) but I did become truly happy as a result of my own efforts.

Very recently I met a girl in one of my classes who is from a poorer place originally & she felt very entitled to other people's money & was generally very selfish. She also cried a lot at small hurts & people initially felt sorry for her... & well.. let's just say I realized if you gave her something she didn't understand the effort or intention behind it & she started to feel entitled to it which made her 'problem' worse. Eek.

So yes I can say.. giving can be an ugly thing if its not for the highest good. It is difficult as human beings with a limited perspective to know what the highest good is & we sometimes are able to see glimpses of it. & yes, much charitable aid has been funneled into Africa but unfortunately.. because many of the people there have no idea how to responsibly handle money they squander it or squabble & it becomes absolutely useless. I compare this to this girl I met who doesn't even know how to use her credit card. If you were to give her $100 (which she asked me for btw...) she doesn't feel like she has to pay it back nor does she understand that money has a value. So...once again, like Michelle, I've lived through some pretty darned traumatic stuff (my sister was beaten in front of me) yet I have learned that everything happens for a reason & that sometimes it is supposed to make us stronger more courageous & more willing to be the stewards for some peace in this world by creating inner peace within ourselves. May you have this peace one day but right now you are unintentionally hurting others with your words.. you may not see it but I can see it. Hurt people cannot give Love but people who are overflowing with Love emanate it & thus comfort those who do not know what it means to feel Love. Mother Teresa did this for those who suffered. I am not her but I wish you that level of comfort. Ask & it is yours..not from me but from yourself.

[angelairene]

Hi,
I know this is an old thread, but it caught my eye because I too am experiencing fear over my psychic gifts.
I have had a few scary experiences with spirits, but for the most part, I find them much better company than most people I know.
I was raised on unmerited hatred, I suppose because, even as a child, I was "special". That made my family want to turn away, not notice me.
And I suppose its a good thing. It made me constantly question "why". What is so different about me that causes them to react that way? All that heart ache and searching and isolation brought me closer to my "friends"/ my guides, those voices in my head.
I read this thread down til where negate stepped in and totally ruined it for me. He is who I am afraid of. and that is so laughable it makes me want to cry. Why should I be afraid of him? Why do i crumble when faced with someone who's opinion can never be swayed.
My family will never be satisfied with what I choose to do in life. I want to just get over it and please myself.
Spirits just want to communicate. They want your attention. That's something I never got from my family.
Just thought I would share my thoughts. It is good to hear about people like you. How are you doing now, by the way? Made any progress?
Angela Irene