Help Turning off an Unwanted Connection

[Simmiah]

Hi everyone!

I haven't been here in years. Literally. Been super busy with life but now I've run into something I need help with from people who are versed with psychic & paranormal phenomena.

But I'm back asking for help. I've posted on an empathy forum but didn't get much help that worked..

basically long story short I met a guy about a year ago almost... June 2010 via a climbing gym in SoCal. Within 3 weeks I felt uncomfortable because he followed me around everytime I was at the gym. I spoke to him 3 separate times about leaving me alone, being more distant with me, & told him I was not interested romantically. He violated more boundaries & I cut contact in August. However my symptoms got much worse the day after I finally cut contact. I'm honestly not sure what to do & hope someone out there in the WWW can help me with this! My sis & mom who are both sensitive don't understand it & so far no one's been able to help me.

Prior to this I sensed stuff (I'm from what I know definitely emotionally empathic & maybe physically empathic.. not sure what else but there might be more) & well it's difficult to say the least.

I've attempted getting the cord to him cut (didn't work at all)
& a spiritual clearing which helped other things but not this.
Shielding
Carrying black tourmaline
Baths lots of baths
Telling him energetically to go away
Asking him physically to please move on (did tell him what I felt & I was uncomfortable)
Telling myself this is not my energy -- trying to psychologically remove any problems such as feeling responsible for him etc... done a lot of this
Trying to visualize stuff like shutting my chakra doors but to no avail
tried praying/meditating
asking higher beings to block /shut off my empathy

Symptoms:

Tingling in my back left shoulder right before episodes start
Pressure in my throat/neck
Pressure around my heart sometimes like a constriction
Pain in my chest like heartbreak
Anger sometimes burning in my chest
Burning in my back left shoulder
Constriction around my all three of my upper chakras
a haze around my head like clouding my crown
Lack of peace of mind in general
Cannot feel myself when it's very very bad

The constriction is really problematic. I sometimes find it distracts me from work/school because it's hard to focus when I'm feeling like I'm being choked.

This guy is very creepy but I listened to other people who I shouldn't have...I went against my gut & let him speak to me after my first warning to him about his behavior. He also bought me items after I told him I wasn't more than friends. I finally cut things off because I got very clear vibes he was basically hanging around hoping some other guy would hurt me so he'd get what he wanted. It was really weird.

I have felt intense feelings from others in the past like temporary bursts of anger or feelings right before they'd call me but nothing like this. It literally lasts only during the day (when he's awake) from when he wakes up (varies 6:30 am etc...) on /off through the day till like midnight. Weekends are odd times but it's like I feel him when he thinks about me. It's really creeping me out.

I've stopped going to the gym because I'm really concerned. Some of the thoughts I was hearing related to the tingling/choking/burning feelings were stuff calling me names & threatening me. When I started dating my boyfriend in December I honestly felt worse stuff.

I've read stuff claiming it's psychic vampirism I'm experiencing. I also have heard from other empaths who have experienced the same thing but were lucky either they broke the connection or the guy moved on.

It's 5-6 days a week, 8-10-12 hours a day total of weird feelings like I'm not myself.

The spiritual clearing person seemed baffled not all my symptoms went away. I'm honestly confused too but I think it's because I'm empathic & I ran into a stalker type of guy.

So anyone, any kind of advice? Similar stories? Anything else I can do? I would love to go back to normal. It's been 9 months now of this nonstop! ( I also posted this in the psychic/paranormal section but I'm hoping Erin might be able to help me with her expertise. It's baffled other people it seems & no one seems to be able to counsel or help me)

[FoxxyRed]

I wish I could help you, but I have trouble just blocking basic emotions from other people. I hope that someone else here can help you, and I will pray that it will be resolved.

[KaleidoskopicVision]

Go see a medical doctor. Always, always, always ask whether there is something physically wrong with you before assuming this is an energetic problem.

[KaleidoskopicVision]

If it is not a physical condition mimicking symptoms of being a victim of psychic vampirism then the best thing you can do is practice non-attachment. Stop trying to 'cut cords' or 'cleanse' yourself and just let it be, understand that the connection is what it is and let go of any desire to forcibly remove it by accepting it as you would a nagging fly that was just too fast to be swatted. Eventually the fly will get bored and go away.

If you were an adept astral traveler you could also 'menace' your stalker by invading their dreamspace (any protectors or guides they have will not cast you out as he has forfeited their protection by assaulting you, unless he has any guardians that are bound to his will and are not just protectors aligned with the higher self).

Third option (my favorite) is to just send him loving kindness, have compassion for his obsession and use this experience to cultivate a more understanding being.

[Simmiah]

Originally Posted by KaleidoskopicVision

Go see a medical doctor. Always, always, always ask whether there is something physically wrong with you before assuming this is an energetic problem.

I'm perfectly healthy otherwise just had a fine physical & I did investigate physical causes but found stuff that should be worse since I do very rough exercise but the endorphins actually help me feel better. So no I wish....

I already am doing what you suggested .. I think the answer lies somewhere in me shutting off the sensitivity until further notice. I am finding a disturbing # of posts similar to mine in the psychic section ... I didn't used to think it could be this way but now I do. I'm working now on detaching more though it doesn't help all the way & searching for a solution to turn that part of my brain off unless another sensitive can help me with a really good method of protection ... :-/

[px1]

The best ways of turning off empathy and removing cords of attachment that I know of are taught in Rose Rosetree's books Become the Most Important Person in the Room and Cut Cords of Attachment.

[KaleidoskopicVision]

Originally Posted by Simmiah

I'm perfectly healthy otherwise just had a fine physical & I did investigate physical causes but found stuff that should be worse since I do very rough exercise but the endorphins actually help me feel better. So no I wish....

I already am doing what you suggested .. I think the answer lies somewhere in me shutting off the sensitivity until further notice. I am finding a disturbing # of posts similar to mine in the psychic section ... I didn't used to think it could be this way but now I do. I'm working now on detaching more though it doesn't help all the way & searching for a solution to turn that part of my brain off unless another sensitive can help me with a really good method of protection ... :-/

Well, you don't want to shut off the sensitivity. It's a part of you and a very very useful sense. You wouldn't willingly blind yourself would you? I think perhaps spending some time alone in nature, grounding yourself, would be incredibly beneficial. Pine trees in particular are wonderful to sit under to ground and balance your energy, also to facilitate healing. The bigger and stronger looking the tree the better. As for a technique to focus on your own energy when being bombarded by all these other energy signals, still yourself for a moment and try to find your heartbeat. Try to focus on it while breathing calmly. While doing this release waves of love from your heart, bathing any and all beings in need without you needing to direct where those waves end up. You should find yourself centered very quickly.

[Simmiah]

Originally Posted by KaleidoskopicVision

Well, you don't want to shut off the sensitivity. It's a part of you and a very very useful sense. You wouldn't willingly blind yourself would you? I think perhaps spending some time alone in nature, grounding yourself, would be incredibly beneficial. Pine trees in particular are wonderful to sit under to ground and balance your energy, also to facilitate healing. The bigger and stronger looking the tree the better. As for a technique to focus on your own energy when being bombarded by all these other energy signals, still yourself for a moment and try to find your heartbeat. Try to focus on it while breathing calmly. While doing this release waves of love from your heart, bathing any and all beings in need without you needing to direct where those waves end up. You should find yourself centered very quickly.

Well, I want to shut it off right now because I think it's causing more problems in addition to the problem I have. I finally did confirm I am psychic & I guess that can cause issues where things are drawn to me & I didn't even know how to shield properly which explains why I was picking up everyone's stuff left/right & it was maddening.

I'm not so sure right now it's just my empathy. I waver back & forth researching my problem because in the 30 years of life I've been this way I haven't had a significant problem with being overwhelmed by someone or something until this past year. I find that not correlating with being merely empathic being overwhelmed...

I am now leaning towards I am being psychically attacked & all the symptoms fit with other sites listing of symptoms of psychic attack from entities or people. I even have one site I found which listed the tingling in the back (mine is always the left shoulder though I have found when I am shielding sometimes the left only it moves to the right) & it causes a burning sensation that turns into something that seems to burrow right into my heart.

& another thing seems to burrow into my back & into my neck. I am trying to remove them regularly but I think I am definitely under attack of some kind & perhaps the lady I had spiritual clear me & my space did not take into account I might be under attack from something more persistent that won't just leave me alone.. :-/

I still think it's linked to this guy too. Because the worst of it began the day after i stopped speaking to him in real life. that's when my energy levels plummeted & I suddenly had burning in my chest & all this crazy stuff began. Prior to this I started feeling tingling in my shoulder but it didn't cause any problem other than feeling like a tickle back then... I don't know if I was just unfortunate enough to be psychic/unshielded completely & ran into some kind of psyvamp who doesn't know he's doing this & tapping into my energy field. Maybe he gets some kind of positive feeling from thinking of me (when he taps in) & that's why he keeps doing it.

I don't know..really.. I'm kind of frustrated because it's been 9 months & no real answers of what's causing my problem other than finding two other people who had nearly the same problem. One even had the same tingling sensation but she told me she was left alone by the guy & pushes back when she senses the tingling again. I really think it's some kind of psychic attachment to me that causes the fatigue, the feeling fuzzy headed & lately it's been even trying to come in through my crown which causes tingle..

that used to only occur when I'd open up my crown to talk to my higher self & other high frequency guides for advice on my life & what my next steps were to be. I'd feel the tingling I think activating that kind of higher energy & tapping into something bigger. But now it's happening right alongside the tingling in the back & burning which leads me to think I am being invaded.

Thankfully someone here showed me how to close up & make my energy field more like others... like bring my energy field in, dim it & shield properly. It's working & helping me push out this stuff but I am hopeful someone can remove whatever it is that is harrassing me soon. :-/ Sorry long reply but I am thinking now the stuff attacked me because I am psychic & unshielded ... which leads me back to believing we need to learn how to properly shield & protect ourselves no matter what. Especially those who are psychic. But also, secondly, I'm under attack from something I don't understand :-/