How to Energetically Let Go of an Ex (Blog)

[Erin Pavlina]

Use this thread to discuss the following entry from Erin Pavlina's blog:

How to Energetically Let Go of an Ex

[mmartin2009]

Nice timing!
But what if you're not ready to send the other person peace, love, and compassion? Is it best to wait until you are no longer angry or feeling betrayed etc?

[Erin Pavlina]

You can still remove the cord and let them go. Give the love to yourself instead of the ex, but don't send negative energy to the ex in the process. i.e. "I hope you burn in hell" cuz that's just not cool.

[Lakshyayidhi Lakshmihi]

Beautiful, thank you so much. This is great stuff to share with domestic violence support groups, as well, I think...

[aclearsign]

Erin,

That was really lovely imagery. So lovely, in fact, that I felt inspired to sign up here just to tell you how much I appreciated it!

Many years ago when I was getting a divorce three things kept me going:

(1) Reminding myself of The One Thing that wasn't going to change, no matter what, that made second guessing out of the question.

(2) Listening to an Aerosmith song that ends with "Let It Go" repeated about a million times

(3) Watching Les Brown, a motivational speaker, on a PBS videotape. He said that you can walk around with a refrigerator on your back or you can decide to drop it and see how you feel then (a willingness to accept change).

I also did about a million steps on the Stairmaster which had the side effect of me losing quite a bit of weight in addition to getting out a ton of angst and aggravation.

I do believe chocolate may also have had a part in my recovery

Julie

[Angelique]

This sounds like a great way to let go of an Ex-Me, too.

Thanks, Erin.

[amyor]

I got my 'cord of attachment' cut by Anna Conlon (trained by Rose Rosetree), to my first boyfriend, I was over him at the time, completely but it was interesting the psychological perspective I got from it.
For examples: some of the cord items I got were:
From him: "I feel dead inside"-not very healthy to have in my aura!!
"Don't pay attention to me"
"suspicious of other people's intentions"
"intimidated by girls"

My own cord items weren't great either:
"I'll be more timid if it makes you feel comfortable"
"i'm here to help" (while that sounds nice in theory, I'm over the rescuer-victim model of relationships now!)
"going outside of my body to solve problems" (bit of a spiritual addiction I had at this point)

I also cut the cord of attachment to my present boyfriend, and since we get on famously there was only one major issue in the cord
" an equal amount of dissatisfaction from the two of you"
Which sums up our relationship history! Learning to speak up and say what I want and what I disagree with was a big learning curve for me. One that became a whole lot easier after this particular cord was cut. I feel a lot more secure in our relationship as well now.