Lack of control in lucid dreams

[Lucida]

Hello everyone.

I started trying to lucid dream back in april 2009. My method was simply to create a journal of dreams I was having so I could have greater dream awareness, I also try and ask myself "is this a dream?" whenever I remember about it.

I had my first lucid dream in may 2009, so I was quite pleased with myself and had them occasionally after that. Unfortunately I'm just coming out of a stage of having no lucid dreams (or perhaps lucid dreams I can't recall) probably down to not keeping as good a journal as I did when I started. Most of the time I only get down a few words in an illegible squiggle.

So recently I've tried writing with a bit more care in the mornings, and I've recently had a few borderline lucid dreams or perhaps dreams where I thought I was lucid dreaming.

Anyway, the reason I'm posting is because I always had trouble taking concious control of a dream, doing things like changing the location, creating objects, flying etc.

As a recent example, 20th of november 2010, I can recall having a lucid dream where I was trying to bring down a wall but the best I could do was bend it a little but then it snaped back into place.

I am suspecting that doing such feats is more about negotiating with the dream rather than simply an act of will.

It seems like most people find controling the dream pretty easy once they get lucid but not for me.

Anyone else have this problem or have any advice on how to overcome it?

[MiBeloved]

I feel there is no case of any person who can say that they were able to control every one of their lucid dream events.

That cannot be true.

Some are controlled and some are not just as in this life, some things go our way and some things just stubbornly and effectively resist our desire.

Unless the dreamer in the lucid dreams created all the stuffs which appear in the dream or has some type of hypnotic control over what is in the dream, there is no way, the person can have 100% control.

[Lucida]

Thanks for your reply.

Interesting. I've also tried calling for my higher self to appear in a dream but that didn't seem to work either.

My dreams have been a bit foggy lately so maybe I'll just try and improve dream recall and journaling for the moment. Maybe other skills will come in time.

[MiBeloved]

Dream recall and journaling does pay off but it might take a few years before you can really get a handle on it. Remember that when you wake up on this side try not to do that suddenly, otherwise the memory will be erased. Wake up gently without stirring the mind too much, and then you will recall more of the dream experiences.

Regarding your higher self, you have to have some definite idea of what it is and where it is located in reference to your normal or lower self. Read up on that and then in meditation see if you can figure out the relationship between the higher and lower and bring the lower one under control of the higher.

[Lucida]

Thanks for the reply. I will continue to work on it.