Can you wish someone to death?

[Gbob]

My parents argue all the time, and we're talking full blown heated (and sometimes even violent) arguments all over nothing. As I live at home, I often become alienated by both of them, feeling trapped amidst their shouting and swearing and it just makes me really uncomfortable. Now, my mum hates my dad and the pair of them are stubbornly unwilling to get a divorce for some reason. My mum always says things like 'I can't deal with you anymore, I want a divorce!' and then my sister and I are like 'well why don't you?' but she always dodges the question. She ritually wishes my dad would die: she prays God to end his life as soon as possible and says things like 'the day I see him at his funeral will be the happiest day of my life' and she says this with so much passion. Often she will curse him to die repetitively and will do so throughout the day. When I see her like this I can't help but feel angry at her because in my eyes she is the cause of the arguments in the first place. I get angry at her because she angers herself and doesn't do anything about it. And it makes me so incredibly uneasy as I can always hear her evil cursing behind closed doors. I feel like the pair of them go around in a never ending vicious cycle. I mean it's all too easy to say 'oh they're just learning their lessons just like you are with yours, don't let yourself get affected' but it's impossible to not get affected by it.

My question is, what does all this cursing actually create? If said with enough power and intent, could she literally curse my dad to death? What effect does it have on herself? I feel so helpless in this situation as she stubbornly dismisses getting a divorce, seeing a shrink or even talking calmly and rationally to my dad. At times all this has really affected me too: when I see her face so twisted with cursing, I can't help but wish that she was the one to 'leave' so that the problem would go away. But afterwards I just end up feeling guilty for having those thoughts. So what does one do?

[desertrat]

There are ways of killing some one through black magic, you need to know what you are doing . Your parents need some type of help . Counseling , seperation , devorce , what ever it takes . Constant fighting is not good for any one . Tell them for the well being of there kids they need to find a solution . Let the forum know what happens. desert rat

[Erin Pavlina]

Exude as much love, gratitude, and compassion as you can. Stay at a higher vibration.

[Gbob]

Originally Posted by desertrat

There are ways of killing some one through black magic, you need to know what you are doing . Your parents need some type of help . Counseling , seperation , devorce , what ever it takes . Constant fighting is not good for any one . Tell them for the well being of there kids they need to find a solution . Let the forum know what happens. desert rat

Trust me, I've done everything I can. My mum is as stubborn as a bull and always think she's right: she's also got serious OCD in which I told her countlessly to seek help for but then she turns it round and goes 'you always think I'm the worst mother in the world don't you!' and completely denies the whole thing. My parents' English isn't very good so they wouldn't want to go to a counselor - besides they think it's a load of rubbish. Separation and divorce I've tried talking them into (believe me) but nothing ever happens. Yep, and I've also tried the 'you know all this fighting really hurts us, your kids right?' but my mum then goes 'well how do you think I feel!?'. The arguments have been going on ever since we could remember, the damage has already been done. When I was little I used to get very scared from the door slamming, heavy shouting, objects being thrown around and sometimes the crying going on. It's gotten to the point where if I even kindly suggest anything constructive to my mum she thinks I'm going against her and siding with my dad. I used to pray for the whole family's well being and pray God to help us get through everything but nothing's ever really happened. Deep down I still believe that God is here for us though

It's a pity, I like them both when they're on their own. I'm desperately thinking of moving out of the house; in fact I was so close to moving out of the house for university - but a few days ago I found out that through my stupid error my accommodation offer had been cancelled - now I will have to commute 2 hours everyday from home to get to uni. My god, I was *this* close to getting away from the house! haha

[Gbob]

Originally Posted by Erin Pavlina

Exude as much love, gratitude, and compassion as you can. Stay at a higher vibration.

I always try to do that but I just can't. The arguments are just the tip of the iceberg. When my dad goes off to work, my mum incessantly moans and curses my dad in front of me. She follows me around to express her fury - which eventually ends with me swearing at her (to my disgrace). But she still carries on. She's like a demon that won't go away. I know it probably doesn't sound like much, like there are much worse cases around - but it really really gets to you. Many times they would argue at like 2am in the morning on a school week and all I wanted to do is get to sleep - how do I remain in a higher vibration in times like that?

An example of what's been going on at the moment: my mum has been compulsively swearing and cursing at my dad now for 2 full days for not mowing the grass. She's even wished him to die all because of that! I really don't know anymore...

[desertrat]

It does not look like your mum or dad want any advice , if you want some , here is some of mine. You might try meditation , yoga , breath work ect. , to see what repressed stuff is keeping you in this situation . I dont know your age , if you can you could get a part time job , save up some money , when you are of legal age get out on your own . My guess is your mum and dad have karma from past lives ,but dont understand how to deal with it. desert rat

[MidasGirl]

Well, if you're 18, you're now an "adult" that can move out. I mean this in the most compassionate way, but staying there and giving yourself the excuse that you've been denied dorm-room accommodation is just your ego's refusal to disentangle itself from the drama that you've grown used to.

Of course your mom would rather your dad died so she doesn't have to do the courageous thing of leaving him. That way she can blame God for her 'happy misfortune'. And yes, I'll bet her words will probably soon kill him, but really because he's most likely vibrating at the level where he's vulnerable to her venomous energy.

[desertrat]

I think the best thing for Gbob to do is get away form mum and dad , from what he/she has said they just dont want any kind of help . Take your sister with you if she is of legal age . Tell them talk to you when they have delt with there problems . desert rat

[Gbob]

Originally Posted by MidasGirl

Well, if you're 18, you're now an "adult" that can move out. I mean this in the most compassionate way, but staying there and giving yourself the excuse that you've been denied dorm-room accommodation is just your ego's refusal to disentangle itself from the drama that you've grown used to.

Of course your mom would rather your dad died so she doesn't have to do the courageous thing of leaving him. That way she can blame God for her 'happy misfortune'. And yes, I'll bet her words will probably soon kill him, but really because he's most likely vibrating at the level where he's vulnerable to her venomous energy.

Don't worry guys, I think it's working out! A few nights ago when I had that panic attack I sat up and I started praying to God, my angels, spirit guides literally anyone I could think of and just 2 days ago I found out that they decided to give me back my ORIGINAL accommodation back! I was over the moon. They said that getting any accommodation was slim so they advised me to find a flat. And I had no luck in finding any flatmates or any flats that were of reasonable price. But I ended up getting my original one back, lucky eh? Now I will be moving to London...um...in 2 days time! Thanks guys.

[desertrat]

I am glade you are getting away , its too bad about mum and dad . Let mum and dad know you dont want there problems. desert rat