Bad feelings in Borders

[rickrock]

Today I went to Boarders, I really liked the place and went straight to the isle with paranormal and psychic to see if a book would call me. I never bought a psychic book, so I was eager to see what they had. The store had a huge selection! Anyways, the point: I was sitting in that isle, which if you've been there is sort of wide and like a cubical shape, in the corner out of the way reading a book about spirits to find out more about the spirits that I can communicate with.

A woman came to that isle and looked at the books on spirituality. They were more of religion for housewives (that was the actual title of one of the ones she picked up) but she occasionally came to the psychic side and picked up a few. I normally block off my empathy when in public because I find that the emotions that some people have can be overwhelming. So I always have my shield up. This woman still connected with me somehow. It was a bad feeling, and I could actually feel my vibrations plummet. I could feel darkness and depression. She was good at hiding it but it sure was there.

I sat there debating on whether or not to talk to her and tell her everything will be fine, dont worry, and to try to control them better and do something before they take her on a bad road that I was familiar with. I've never went up to someone like that before. When I finally got the courage she walked toward a few people. I didn't want to do that in front of people, she might get embarrassed or start a scene with me. I decided to wait but then I had to leave. I didn't read her purposely. I took the advice you gave me earlier, but I cant help wondering if it would have been better to talk to her.

Do you ever talk to strangers that you pick up on? If thats only what she was broadcasting I dont know what feelings she could be hiding. Any advice??

[Lantana]

Well, I don't think that I would approach someone out of the blue in a way that lets them know that I can "feel" them. I too can feel the emotions and vibes or people around me and certain places. I've left places before that negatively affected me, knowing that I was absorbing the sad or negative vibe there and was unable to block it out. I think that offering unsolicited advice or consolation can backfire on you. Think of it from the other person's perspective for a moment. There you are shopping, doing your own thing and someone walks up to you and tells you that they can feel them and that everything is going to be okay, etc.. Even though it comes from a good place of wanting to help someone, they may not be in a receptive place to hear that from a total stranger. Or you could spook them and add to whatever fear or negativity is already there for them. I think that it could be okay to do it if the situation obviously avails itself to that kind of encounter. Such as, you happen to strike up a conversation with them and it becomes obvious that they would welcome that message of comfort. It would be a situation that just feels right, with no obstacles - such as other people walking up, or them walking away, etc. But essentially, you have no idea what their spiritual beliefs are and you could be threatening to them or their personal beliefs about such things. You can still send them loving and supportive thoughts and connect that way - that also helps them, because they WILL receive it on some level.

Best to keep working on keeping your psychic boundaries in place when you're out in public. Not always easy or convenient, I know. When I just can't do that, I leave the situation and soon feel better again. ...just my opinion.

[rickrock]

Originally Posted by Lantana

Well, I don't think that I would approach someone out of the blue in a way that lets them know that I can "feel" them. I too can feel the emotions and vibes or people around me and certain places. I've left places before that negatively affected me, knowing that I was absorbing the sad or negative vibe there and was unable to block it out. I think that offering unsolicited advice or consolation can backfire on you. Think of it from the other person's perspective for a moment. There you are shopping, doing your own thing and someone walks up to you and tells you that they can feel them and that everything is going to be okay, etc.. Even though it comes from a good place of wanting to help someone, they may not be in a receptive place to hear that from a total stranger. Or you could spook them and add to whatever fear or negativity is already there for them. I think that it could be okay to do it if the situation obviously avails itself to that kind of encounter. Such as, you happen to strike up a conversation with them and it becomes obvious that they would welcome that message of comfort. It would be a situation that just feels right, with no obstacles - such as other people walking up, or them walking away, etc. But essentially, you have no idea what their spiritual beliefs are and you could be threatening to them or their personal beliefs about such things. You can still send them loving and supportive thoughts and connect that way - that also helps them, because they WILL receive it on some level.

Best to keep working on keeping your psychic boundaries in place when you're out in public. Not always easy or convenient, I know. When I just can't do that, I leave the situation and soon feel better again. ...just my opinion.

Well thank you for your opinion

I am actually quite strong and now dont get a connection unless I do it myself. I've learned to set up my boundaries because of the depression it can cause me. But she broke right through! It was that bad but I still dont think it should have been strong enough to break through. You are right. If I had a different spirituality where I didn't believe in this, I wouldn't appreciate someone telling me they invaded my boundaries (although I didnt ) and could tell all my problems.

[rei]

Originally Posted by rickrock

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Do you ever talk to strangers that you pick up on? If thats only what she was broadcasting I dont know what feelings she could be hiding. Any advice??

Urm, careful on this. In my experience most people will not tend to feel particularly SAFE, if a stranger comes up and shares about something they are working hard to avoid expressing to people.

I would suggest being more... generalized or broad than this. So if you end up picking up on depression and pain, it's not necessary to go and respond to that specific thing. But if you wanted to, you could start up a convo on general small talky stuff. It accomplishes the same goal - that person now feels more visible, more noticed, and they may get that generic charge from socializing that carries them forward.

I mean, if you end up feeling like you're receiving a specific message FOR a person, I think that's different, and it helps to go through with it even if they won't respond well initially. But usually this stuff is less receiving a specific message FOR someone and more receiving from them, a snapshot.

I think there's ways to address the snapshot without responding to it directly, as that's off-putting for many people. You know they can trust you but they don't know that, and folks can be weird about this stuff. They suppress or deny or push away things for good reason.

She got through somehow, could be through cording. If you noticed her and found her interesting that might have technically been enough to create a cord (noticing enough to notice what book she picked up might have been some level of "I find that person interesting"). Empathic info can travel through energetic cording. Next time you might try shielding and then if you find someone interesting, briefly, but don't want to receive from them, you might do a brief decording/cord-cutting. Or just follow up your brief feeling of interest with a reminder of being more interested in what's going on for you in that moment. As sometimes this stuff is about sending consciousness outward, leaving self in a way. So it can be remedied by returning to self or returning to a focus on self.

[Sunsingh]

use bach's flower essences 'walnut' for this problem of other people's energies influencing you too much.