Soul Mates vs. Soul Connections (Blog)

[Erin Pavlina]

Use this thread to discuss the following entry from Erin Pavlina's blog:

Soul Mates vs. Soul Connections

[Smurf]

Erin,

The Soul mate as many women dream about is an optimistic view of a character that just doesn't ride into your life on a shinning charger. Soul mates are molded like two lumps of clay. The more alike the clay, the easier the transformation is. The more dis-simularities in the texture of the clays the harder the mold becomes. But it's not at all impossible if you know where the strengths and weaknesses are in the mold.

I think the soul mate Idea discounts the work "and discipline" that needs to go into the molding and "setting" of the relationship.

I wish I had a dollar for every woman who "thought he was my soul mate".

[JoePike]

Great article Erin, and it all makes perfect sense. I've often thought that for every one person there are dozens and dozens of other people on this planet they'd be perfectly compatible with in a long term relationship. Finding them is the hard part.

But even more difficult is the process of moving from one compatible partner to another...you know, with the emotions and heartache and all we humans experience!

[Smurf]

Originally Posted by JoePike

But even more difficult is the process of moving from one compatible partner to another...you know, with the emotions and heartache and all we humans experience!

"We are not human beings having a spiritual experience, we are spiritual beings having a human experience." ~Teilhard de Chardin

[Johnny Skosnik]

Very compelling stuff Erin. It sounds like potential soul mates "find" a way to be around you, both in terms of distance and time spent. I feel an odd attraction to a lady I've only met a few times, each time briefly, always at conventions, an artist thousands of miles away. Is it possible there's some pre-incarnate arrangement or other connection between us? Would a reading help clarify this?

[Erin Pavlina]

It's very possible you have soul connections with people you've only interacted with once or twice. Several times in my life I've felt an instant attration (not physical romantic attraction but energetic attraction) to people. We interact, sometimes become friends and sometimes it's just a quick interaction to share information and move on.

If I did a reading for you and you could send me a photo of this person I could tell you all about her, and all about your connection to her, yes.

[alexb5784]

I started reading Arielle Ford's The Soulmate Secret earlier today, taking notes and implementing her advice. And then I visited Erin's blog and came across her post on soul mates versus soul connections.

Thanks Erin

[lilsprocket]

This article is exactly what I needed to read.
My three best friends are people that I connected to in a very short amount of time and whom I do not see regularly (we live in different countries) but our connection was so immediate and so strong that I know we are souls who recognized each other immediately.
They are of the opposite sex and my mother asked me, after hearing me go on about them, "are any of them spouse material?" I struggled to explain that no, we are just like souls, not necessarily with marriage as an end.
It's also synchronistic that Erin wrote that cells that recognize each other say: "what's the haps?" and that's the phrase we use to greet each other. Wild!

[Marty McFly]

"Soul" is a concept of ego. There is only one soul and everything else is interconnected in the eternal moment. So there's no separateness, only the left brain thinks there is. When you look into any person's eyes and connect with them in a very authentic and compassionate way, you identify with this soul connection. Everyone is the same underneath the layers. We are chemically determined but inspired from the same source.

[austere]

Thanks, Erin.

[Smurf]

We Love YOU Erin.

[SMA]

Wouldn't this world be more fun, interesting and rich if we were all free to connect with people when we felt connections, in whatever way each of those connections evolved?

People fear repurcussions to the family unit, and thus the fabric of society, but:
Would we really leave our kids unattended, or would we be even better parents from all the wealth of things we'd learn from each other, from our fellow human beings?
Would we not enjoy better critical thinking and decision-making capabilities as we learned from many other's choices and lifestyles rather than by internalizing judgements from a couple of key people (our parents and teachers) who may never have questioned their OWN judgements and motives?
Would we allow foreign and interesting influences into our lives, instead of living by rote?
Would we be more lit up, more excited and have more adventures?
Would we raise more tolerant kids and end judgements based on the exterior (looks)?

I'm not sure why, Erin, but your post brought out in me the desire to express how beautiful it would be for us all to connect on a soul level - how much richer everything would be. Just food for thought...

[mkidd]

I read the essay "What Einstein Knew" last summer by Elizabeth Hesser. You can find it in a few places, but it's in her book "Broken Open".

While your post seemed to be more on recognizing and explaining what their soul mate, I think so many of us are determined to make these marital soul connections last until death do you part, and as we know all too well, that isn't always best.

I loved the part in her essay when the psychic told her that yes, she was contracted to meet/marry this person but that their business was done and they both needed to move on to grow. It was a really fascinating essay.

And, Erin, you should read it just to see what the psychic had on her business card. Made me laugh. The "rules" were simple and sweet...

I liked the whole book, but I think you can read the essay on google books here.

[mkidd]

Looks like google books lets you read a few pages and then skips a couple? I believe I read the whole thing online at first. I'm not sure how google books works.

Frustrating. If it's like that for you too, I guess DM me if you're really interested and are not going to go get the book. I made a pdf of it and could email it to you.

[Weena]

I believe there are soul mates. It doesn't happen to "everyone" or sometimes you can skip a life or two without being with your soulmate. I know people (including me but others too) who have had other lives with their life partner and are just meant to be together because they 'work well' as a couple on earth. People who think there are no soul mates AT ALL in the world are maybe a weeeee-bit jealous (?).

Of course there are soul connections as well, many of them, whether it is a short relationship with a feeling of "knowing" the person, or with very close friends, or with family members. And there are probably way many more cases of souls connections than soul mates.

Just keep an open mind that "soul mates" also exist on earth.

[Gene]

Originally Posted by Weena

I believe there are soul mates. It doesn't happen to "everyone" or sometimes you can skip a life or two without being with your soulmate. I know people (including me but others too) who have had other lives with their life partner and are just meant to be together because they 'work well' as a couple on earth. People who think there are no soul mates AT ALL in the world are maybe a weeeee-bit jealous (?).

Of course there are soul connections as well, many of them, whether it is a short relationship with a feeling of "knowing" the person, or with very close friends, or with family members. And there are probably way many more cases of souls connections than soul mates.

Just keep an open mind that "soul mates" also exist on earth.

I believe there are soul mates and I also believe that not all soul mates are romantic partners. I have had close relationships that meet the criteria as I understand it where we became friends and the connection became apparent very quickly.

I also believe that soul mates do not always remain attached at the hip so to speak but that even though separated by time and distance the connection remains.

I also believe we are not limited to one soul mate in life.

[moonrambler]

Originally Posted by Gene

I believe there are soul mates and I also believe that not all soul mates are romantic partners. I have had close relationships that meet the criteria as I understand it where we became friends and the connection became apparent very quickly.

I also believe that soul mates do not always remain attached at the hip so to speak but that even though separated by time and distance the connection remains.

I also believe we are not limited to one soul mate in life.

This is my experience as well.

[Weena]

Originally Posted by Gene

I believe there are soul mates and I also believe that not all soul mates are romantic partners. I have had close relationships that meet the criteria as I understand it where we became friends and the connection became apparent very quickly.

I also believe that soul mates do not always remain attached at the hip so to speak but that even though separated by time and distance the connection remains.

I also believe we are not limited to one soul mate in life.

I fully agree with the above, though in the last sentence, do you believe in several soul mates per person? Or would it be soul connections? For example, i also have a friend that i felt very close to straight away, almost like we were two sisters meeting up again, we have the same interests (spirituality, crystal work, aura work etc), and we seem to often be able to communicate telepathically. Would that be a criteria for soul mate or soul connection? Maybe i should re-read the article carefully . I must be confused by the fact that i label soul mates as a couple, maybe it goes beyond that?

[Gene]

Originally Posted by Weena

I fully agree with the above, though in the last sentence, do you believe in several soul mates per person? Or would it be soul connections? For example, i also have a friend that i felt very close to straight away, almost like we were two sisters meeting up again, we have the same interests (spirituality, crystal work, aura work etc), and we seem to often be able to communicate telepathically. Would that be a criteria for soul mate or soul connection? Maybe i should re-read the article carefully . I must be confused by the fact that i label soul mates as a couple, maybe it goes beyond that?

I believe there can be many soul connections and I also believe that I am not limited to one soul mate. I believe soul connections are more numerous than soul mates for me and people in general. What's your opinion?

[Weena]

I believe it is a possibility that we have more than one soul mate. I had never thought about it before . In this life i feel like i have only one soul mate for romantic companionship, common projects, raising a family. I have many soul connections aside from my soul mate. Some friends and some family members just seem to have been around for way longer than this lifetime. I guess we keep meeting some people repeatedly, but as i read in a buddhist book "friends will become enemies and enemies will become friends", which means all is fleeting and we can't be sure of having the 'same' relationship again, but we can work our karma out. I think i'm going off topic with this though

[modernthing]

Yes my friend, but you pointed some very interesting facts ! and so has everyone else in this discussion so far.

I read a book on twin flames, soul mates and such, by Elizabeth Clare Prophet (peace to her soul, she passed away recently ), and the author explains that some souls (can't remember if it's the twin flame or the soul mate, but I think it's more or less the same) are only but one, the same soul divided in different parts, while there are soul connections where people get together to work out karma... I'd need to reread the book.

Thank you Erin for your interesting article.

[lifetimelearner]

just found this blog and I wanted to say
I really like it :
it explains the instant connection I feel with people I just meet

but what's the explanation for people we instantly dislike at the first meeting ?

[tintin]

Originally Posted by lifetimelearner

but what's the explanation for people we instantly dislike at the first meeting ?

THAT is definitely a soul connection.esp if they keep coming back and keep bugging you time and again.

[Mynder]

I am not sure whether it is necessarily a soul "connection" in such a case. It may simply be that you pick up on subtle behavior traits that you have come to associate with negative character attributes.

And while sorting people into drawers is something you shouldn't do and then forget about them, there are certain characteristics and patterns that reappear in different people, and that you then may recognize in someone you newly meet.

Although intuition, at least for me, plays a big part in getting to know and understanding people.