Our Separation (Blog)

[Erin Pavlina]

I really don't want to start my own forums right now, but if the time comes for that, I will probably need some help yeah.

[Vanessa]

Took a little while to filter out my personal experiences of divorce and family transition and now that I have I am so excited for you!

Like the new chapter, a new book of life. Whatever you want for your life and happiness, you are that much closer to bringing into your reality. Recognizing this gives me great joy for you, your children and Steve. Couldn't happen to anyone better love, sunshine and blessings Erin.

[Mato Kinze]

Erin,
You've been on my Heart since I read about your separation. I keep wanting to feel sad for you, or to offer condolences, or even congratulations like so many others have, but none of that really makes sense.

The "sad" feelings, I think, are my own projections of how I would feel if I were going through a separation. They have no place in your world. For a while, I thought maybe you really WERE sad or upset and were just putting on a "conscious" face for the Blog(gers), but I'm pretty sure now that's not the case. I'm farily well convinced that you are indeed happy with this decision and that you remain open and free of Heart. I'm glad of that. Bewildered, to be sure, but very glad.

I appreciate this community of people you've created a space for here and am glad that things will continue despite the changes in your life.

Many, many blessings to you and your family.

[Sweet Limez]

It was funny how i found your blog. It was through Steve's site but then I never really went back to his() I just couldnt get enough of your website! And to be honest i didn't understand his obsession with money thing. It didnt make sense to me. Also, the polyamory thing I was thinking about trying with my bf too, but then i realized it was because we were really unhappy. I feel this is such a growing experience for both of us!(broke up with bf of 6 yrs last month). and am surprisingly happy with this decision! Its just like you said.....its hard to read yourself. Sending lots of love your way!

[backpocket]

I wish you all the best!

[Lynn 007]

Hi Erin,
Thanks to both you and Steve for sharing your experience and growth with us.

Before the holiday season is upon us if you and some of your pals want a weekend away, why not come for a weekend visit? I'd be happy to arrange a "girls nite out" with some of my friends.

Stay great!!!

[Pratishtha]

Hi Erin!
I wish you well and I respect you more for your courage and desire to move ahead in life. I am sure that this distance from Steve will help you discover your inner personal strength even more than ever before. It is sometimes imperative in life to separate ourselves from the people we love to put ourselves on the path of acquiring more self love and self acceptance. I am sure that you will emerge stronger from this experience with a lot more ability to contribute and you will be able to access more of your inner strength. I am talking from personal experience. It is more important in life to become love rather than have someone who loves you. I can see from your post that you are choosing to "Be" more of what you are and it is a very higher choice that you are making, something that is going to liberate you from lot of mindsets as you will be faced with so many questions and challenging situations in the days to come. When you deal with these inner conflicts, you get liberated from your old perceptions and develop insight into life, which makes you rely more on your inner personal power. I am sure that if we grow in life then the people who are connected to also benefit from our growth and I am sure that your kids will also benefit from your growth.

I wish you the very best in life. My prayers go for you and your family.
Love you and God bless you.

Pratishtha
Creating by choice

[levelek]

I don't normally comment here, but I wanted to let you know there is one more person in the masses out there who are thinking of you and wishing you well. You did a reading for me once and I am thankful for it. I hope that much happiness awaits you!

[alexb5784]

Originally Posted by Marth

Hey Erin Ill say small prayer for you, you are awesome

I'm sending you lots of love too

[Love2Love]

Hi Erin,

It's amazing how many relationship seperations are going on in the world. Imagine all the empowerment energy that's around us! I wonder where the spiritual undercurrents are leading us..? A more focused nation? A nation focused on self-love moreso that self-deceit to love another? The list goes on.. but my words to you, "Nature can give you all the support you have found in your mate, and even more." They mother you. When you feel you need to be held, let a tree hug you, it can be amazing if you connect to their loving, ever-caring spirits.. Especially one you feel a connection with. Listen to their advice too, they are quite wise.

I love the storybook analogy by the way. It helped me more directly let go of my old story as well, not forget the story all together, although at times I will get so absorped in this new one. But have gratitude for enjoying that story, and gratitude for this new, clear, journey to self-discovery and reflecting me in all I do.

I love learning to love me, and I love you too.
..Think of how many people in parting-relationships you can help now since you too are experiencing that.
But also remember, you can't save everybody unless you save yourself first.

Sending you Love, Peace, and Many a'Blessings! <3

[Mynder]

Dear Erin,

Every end is a beginning
Will we live to see it all
Will we learn to love each other
Will we shine or will we fall

that is part of the refrain of an unfinished song I have floating around on my hard drive. The answer is in us, and I know you have long ago found your own truth about this. I also know that it will carry you towards ever new adventures and challenges, at your own personal pace.

I guess a fitting quote here is:

The important thing is this:
To be ready at any moment
to sacrifice what you are
for what you could become.
- Charles Dubois

I admire your courage and hope to apply even a small fraction of it to my own life!

[simplyberry]

I cannot judge; I don't know you personally; whatever happens will be the way things should go. Life is a journey and right now you are where you are. ONe thing I've learned after existence for 60 years is never say never and you will loose a partner through death, desertion or divorce; so at some point we all will learn how to deal with this thing we've labeled as "loss". Another thinf I know for sure is that no one can make you happy; happiness is a state you take wherever you go and joy can last admist the suffering...we do the best we can with what we know and what you think you feel and know now could change in an instant; so I've learned not to take my thoughts too seriously because they are forever changing; I'm not who I thought I was 10 years ago but in some ways I am. I was lead to give you this message...