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many people are unhappy with being gay (and NOT because of society)
I'd like to see you back up that parenthetical. It is not an easy case to make.

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Personally I don't condemn people who have those lifestyles but i think when they are embraced by societies at large those societies decline.
FYI, this is still technically a condemnation; you're merely asking society to condemn them on your behalf.
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Condemnation is a word that has lost its definition due to the fact that no one want's to think they're condemning someone. I don't know if I would say he's condemning them, but it would be nice if he had backed up at least one of his points. Those are some awfully broad generalizations.

I do understand how some homosexuals could be unhappy with their orientation. They can't have children with their partner (unless they marry the opposite gender, as some do, and probably will regret). However, the entire post seemed a bit too...what's the word? "Religiously-charged," I guess.

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For example in the Epsicopal church - which is being destroyed by the issue - many gay people who became religious and stopped being gay wanted their voices heard - and those voices were ignored by the heads of the church which are pushing for gay marriages and annointing gay bishops (this has enraged for example, African clergy, who live much closer to AIDs and poverty than liberal wealthy US congregations)
Since I had to look up what was meant by the African Episcopal Dilemma, the most useful article I came across is from the New York Times At Axis of Episcopal Split, an Anti-Gay Nigerian (registration may be required.)

The closest chunk of information from the article I could find as it related to Dor's post was this:

"Even among Anglican conservatives, Archbishop Akinola is not universally beloved. In November 2005, he published a letter purporting to be from the leaders, known as primates, of provinces in the global south. It called Europe a “spiritual desert” and criticized the Church of England. Three of the bishops who supposedly signed it later denied adding their names. Some bishops in southern Africa have also challenged his fixation with homosexuality, when AIDS and poverty are a crisis for the continent."

There is a huge dissonance between the AIDS crisis as a result of lack of sexual health awareness / education and enraged African clergymen who are against homosexuality and splitting away from the US Episcopal church.
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Condemnation is a word that has lost its definition due to the fact that no one want's to think they're condemning someone. I don't know if I would say he's condemning them, but it would be nice if he had backed up at least one of his points. Those are some awfully broad generalizations.

I do understand how some homosexuals could be unhappy with their orientation. They can't have children with their partner (unless they marry the opposite gender, as some do, and probably will regret). However, the entire post seemed a bit too...what's the word? "Religiously-charged," I guess.

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the david - I am not sure what you mean - there are a lot of arguements against homosexuality, but some of the most succesful 'conversions' come from religius experience/conversion so its pretty hard to separate the two ...
Here is a wiki on the Dr. Spitzer

He was controversial in 1973 for arguing that homosexuality is not a clinical disorder, although the mainstream psychiatric community was eventually swayed to this point of view.

In 2001, Spitzer delivered a controversial paper at the 2001 annual APA meeting arguing that "highly motivated" individuals could "successfully" change their sexual orientation from homosexual to heterosexual. The APA immediately issued an official disavowal of the paper, noting that it had not been peer reviewed and bluntly stating that "There is no published scientific evidence supporting the efficacy of reparative therapy as a treatment to change one's sexual orientation."[1]
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regarding backing up....it's a bit much to go into here but decadence and libertinsim do not go hand in hand with classical liberalism - in fact usually the opposite is true - decadent societies are usually ones that are falling apart (late Moorish Spain, Late Rome, Entruscans, Weimer Germany, Moghul India to use a few examples) and they are usually conqureed by a more 'upright' people (Stoic republican rome, Christian Spain under Isabella, Protestant Britian/Northern Europe vs. Precounter reformation southern europe).
(some people theorize nations/peoples fall when the family unit- the building block of society - falls apart (late rome for example tried to require all patricians have three children) often homosexuality is a hallmark of that break down. - granted so is 'free love' childless marriages, ect.

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There is a huge dissonance between the AIDS crisis as a result of lack of sexual health awareness / education and enraged African clergymen who are against homosexuality and splitting away from the US Episcopal church.
You're not going to get anything remotely fair from the New York times (it is the Episcopal church that is out of communion with the rest of the Anglican world.), so at least see that they have to say for themselves:
Home - American Anglican Council Live Website

I don't to turn this into a discussion about the anglican church - but only that pro gay groups have a lot of influence in certain areas- media- universities- and they STIFLE DISCUSSION of alternatives - and a lot of it looks frankly like recruitment...that is my main point.

In africa, my point is that promiscuous behavior leads directly to poverty and death - here we have a cushion of wealth against it but the effects might just take longer to manifest....but they are trying to organize extremely chaotic societies - and promoting 'libertineism' or 'just do what you feel like' is literally a death knell for them. Lack of sexual awareness is putting lightly - there are rumors for example you can cure aids by having sex with a virgin - so men rape babies - I am not making this up.

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pro gay groups have a lot of influence in certain areas- media- universities- and they STIFLE DISCUSSION of alternatives - and a lot of it looks frankly like recruitment...that is my main point.
I do agree that the strongest activists tend to discourage discussion.

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In africa, my point is that promiscuous behavior leads directly to poverty and death - here we have a cushion of wealth against it but the effects might just take longer to manifest....but they are trying to organize extremely chaotic societies - and promoting 'libertineism' or 'just do what you feel like' is literally a death knell for them. Lack of sexual awareness is putting lightly - there are rumors for example you can cure aids by having sex with a virgin - so men rape babies - I am not making this up.
I could've sworn that said 'sex with a vegan' (which would not only cure AIDS, but cancer, heart disease, obesity, ADHD, and every other disease )

I think you're talking about something entirely different than the rest of us. The discussion is about the moral/spiritual implications of homosexuality, not of certain fringe cultures which may or may not involve homosexuality.
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I don't to turn this into a discussion about the anglican church - but only that pro gay groups have a lot of influence in certain areas- media- universities- and they STIFLE DISCUSSION of alternatives - and a lot of it looks frankly like recruitment...that is my main point.
I think viewing the attempt to support the right to act sexually in accord with your nature as "recruitment" is a very bad thing to do. In my experience most people are heterosexual (duh!), some are homosexual and an even smaller minority is bisexual or has some other kind of sexuality. For almost all people their sexuality is not going to change their entire lives, so attempting to "recruit" anyone into any kind of sexuality does not make sense.

I also quite regularly visit a forum that is about the discussion of homosexuality and/or religion. I have to note that quite a lot of the examples that were once considered as "cured" from homosexuality turned out not to be as cured as they thought/hoped. If someone decides not to live by his/her sexual orientation, (s)he gets my blessing, but much too often this is more related to conservativeness on the part of their respective church then that it really is a decision of the person him/herself.

I myself am a christian and gay, in case you want to know.
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Most of the 'sexual recruiters' are actually heterosexual.
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Personally I don't condemn people who have those lifestyles but i think when they are embraced by societies at large those societies decline. However, my main point is that pro-gay lobby groups try to make people who feel bad about being gay feel good- and don't offer them the option or try to suppress the option that changing their lifestyle might help them and be better for them, by even stifling discussion or exploration of the matter.
Wow, that's a very strong statement to make. You've basically just said two things: that gay people are bad for society, and that they can become straight if they choose to. I don't understand how homosexuality could possibly cause a decline in society so I'm not going to even comment on that. However, what I can say with a great deal of certainty is that you can't change your sexual orientation.

I'm male, and consider myself to be at least somewhat bisexual. Generally I would prefer women over men, and there's no way I could become more homosexual or heterosexual than I already am. Once the orientation is set, it's hardwired in the brain and can't be changed. People who say they've "converted" are simply lying to themselves and everyone around them. We have seen the sad consequences of this in the Catholic Church scandal.
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Wow, that's a very strong statement to make. You've basically just said two things: that gay people are bad for society, and that they can become straight if they choose to. I don't understand how homosexuality could possibly cause a decline in society so I'm not going to even comment on that. However, what I can say with a great deal of certainty is that you can't change your sexual orientation.

I'm male, and consider myself to be at least somewhat bisexual. Generally I would prefer women over men, and there's no way I could become more homosexual or heterosexual than I already am. Once the orientation is set, it's hardwired in the brain and can't be changed. People who say they've "converted" are simply lying to themselves and everyone around them. We have seen the sad consequences of this in the Catholic Church scandal.
that is not what spitzer thought (see a couple of posts up) or these psychologists....

In 2001, Spitzer delivered a controversial paper at the 2001 annual APA meeting arguing that "highly motivated" individuals could "successfully" change their sexual orientation from homosexual to heterosexual. The APA immediately issued an official disavowal of the paper, noting that it had not been peer reviewed and bluntly stating that "There is no published scientific evidence supporting the efficacy of reparative therapy as a treatment to change one's sexual orientation."[1]
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And I doubt many people on this self improvement forum who believe in I-m and visualization think that you couldn't change if you wanted to. I could be wrong, so i will just say that's may take on it.

regarding gay people being bad for society, I clarified it a couple of posts up:

regarding backing up....it's a bit much to go into here but decadence and libertinsim do not go hand in hand with classical liberalism - in fact usually the opposite is true - decadent societies are usually ones that are falling apart (late Moorish Spain, Late Rome, Entruscans, Weimer Germany, Moghul India to use a few examples) and they are usually conqureed by a more 'upright' people (Stoic republican rome, Christian Spain under Isabella, Protestant Britian/Northern Europe vs. Precounter reformation southern europe).
(some people theorize nations/peoples fall when the family unit- the building block of society - falls apart (late rome for example tried to require all patricians have three children) often homosexuality is a hallmark of that break down. - granted so is 'free love' childless couples, ect

symptom, not cause, in other words...
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Since sexual orientation is more of a spectrum than simply being completely hetero or gay, one could be 80% gay, but still choose to have a family and only be with women physically. It just depends on how "highly motivated" the person is. One's lifestyle isn't all about sex.

I am attracted to men and enjoy their company, but lately haven't pursued physical relationships with them because I value my health (condoms don't seem to have much of a place in the gay culture I experienced), and can still enjoy being with women to a degree, though I rarely have the same instant attraction for them that I do for men.

Last night I actually dated a young woman that had never done anything with a man, just other women. It was nice to share at least one positive experience with her, so she can be more secure in knowing there are some men out there who are worth being with.
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(some people theorize nations/peoples fall when the family unit- the building block of society - falls apart (late rome for example tried to require all patricians have three children) often homosexuality is a hallmark of that break down. - granted so is 'free love' childless couples, ect

symptom, not cause, in other words...
I think it may very well be the other way around. Acceptance of homosexuality needs a certain cultural advancement because humans are by nature xenophobic and that often includes homophobia. Societies also need a certain cultural advancement to break down, otherwise there is not very much that can break down. In my opinion in the world of today (which includes the presence of nuclear weapons and a rather large environmental problem) we simply cannot afford anymore that kind of xenophobia. In a world where homosexuals are discriminated against, they surely are not the only minority that is being discriminated against. Therefore, advancing the acceptance of homosexuality is an important task that gay people have and it fits very well into the bigger scheme of saving the world. Nowadays we either live together in one world or we will have no world at all.

Regarding the "family unit": families are great if they work. However, a rather large minority of the families are simply nothing less then very bad for the children they raise. Steve would probably talk about "children with parents that have a lower level of awareness" (or something like that) in that case. This is a most terrible thing.

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I personally do not believe very much in the "sexual continuum". But this may well be related to my own sexual situation. I simply feel zero sexual attraction towards women. If there is such a continuum, I think that most people are located somewhere near to either endpoint and a much smaller minority lives somewhere in between.
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I personally do not believe very much in the "sexual continuum". But this may well be related to my own sexual situation. I simply feel zero sexual attraction towards women. If there is such a continuum, I think that most people are located somewhere near to either endpoint and a much smaller minority lives somewhere in between.
Well, I think bisexuality is more prominent in women. Men seem to be more one-side-or-the-other. But really, you can only judge by what people tell you.

I'm still waiting for Dor to back up the supposed connection between homosexuality and declining societies.
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Well, I think bisexuality is more prominent in women. Men seem to be more one-side-or-the-other.
That's what I tend to find as well.
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Well, I think bisexuality is more prominent in women. Men seem to be more one-side-or-the-other. But really, you can only judge by what people tell you.

I'm still waiting for Dor to back up the supposed connection between homosexuality and declining societies.
I posted this twice already, but here we go:

regarding backing up....it's a bit much to go into here but decadence and libertinsim do not go hand in hand with classical liberalism - in fact usually the opposite is true - decadent societies are usually ones that are falling apart (late Moorish Spain, Late Rome, Entruscans, Weimer Germany, Moghul India to use a few examples) and they are usually conqureed by a more 'upright' people (Stoic republican rome, Christian Spain under Isabella, Protestant Britian/Northern Europe vs. Precounter reformation southern europe).
(some people theorize nations/peoples fall when the family unit- the building block of society - falls apart (late rome for example tried to require all patricians have three children) often homosexuality is a hallmark of that break down. - granted so is 'free love' childless couples, ect

symptom, not cause, in other words...
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In africa, my point is that promiscuous behavior leads directly to poverty and death - here we have a cushion of wealth against it but the effects might just take longer to manifest....but they are trying to organize extremely chaotic societies - and promoting 'libertineism' or 'just do what you feel like' is literally a death knell for them. Lack of sexual awareness is putting lightly - there are rumors for example you can cure aids by having sex with a virgin - so men rape babies - I am not making this up.
What does this have to do with homosexuality? Are you equating homosexuality to promiscuity? To be homosexual does not mean that you love sex and want it all the time. It simply means you are attracted to the same sex.

The issue you speak of in Africa seems to me to be a problem of lack of EDUCATION, and ONE of the effects of the lack of EDUCATION in Africa are unsafe promiscuity and the raping of children.
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(some people theorize nations/peoples fall when the family unit- the building block of society - falls apart (late rome for example tried to require all patricians have three children) often homosexuality is a hallmark of that break down. - granted so is 'free love' childless couples, ect

symptom, not cause, in other words...
Like you said, this is a THEORY. But, may i also add that being homosexual does not equate to lack of a family unit. Just because a homosexual couple cannot make their own children does not mean they cannot have a family. If a homosexual couple adopts, or has a donor...is their unit not considered a family?

If you answer yes to this question, then I will ask you this....are heterosexual couples that can't conceive not considered family units? Are heterosexual couples that adopt not considered family units?

To accuse homosexuals of being the cause of social decline because they don't conceive in the way you would like is unfair. I agree that strong family units are a staple in a strong society. But, I don't think the lack of "families" in America is because of homosexuals. I think there is a deeper problem that we all have to figure out...and blaming it on other people is not going to solve that.
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To accuse homosexuals of being the cause of social decline because they don't conceive in the way you would like is unfair. I agree that strong family units are a staple in a strong society. But, I don't think the lack of "families" in America is because of homosexuals. I think there is a deeper problem that we all have to figure out...and blaming it on other people is not going to solve that.
vanilla, i specifically said: symptom, not cause, in other words.

however, i will say that gay activist groups - are somewhat to blame...on the other hand, I've met more than a few gays who are putt off by their behavior .

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What does this have to do with homosexuality? Are you equating homosexuality to promiscuity? To be homosexual does not mean that you love sex and want it all the time.
vanilla it was in reference to the anglican commonion and rift between the leadership of the episcopal church and the rest of the anglican church...but as i said...I don't to turn this into a discussion about the anglican church -

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I think it may very well be the other way around. Acceptance of homosexuality needs a certain cultural advancement because humans are by nature xenophobic and that often includes homophobia. Societies also need a certain cultural advancement to break down, otherwise there is not very much that can break down. In my opinion in the world of today (which includes the presence of nuclear weapons and a rather large environmental problem) we simply cannot afford anymore that kind of xenophobia. In a world where homosexuals are discriminated against, they surely are not the only minority that is being discriminated against. Therefore, advancing the acceptance of homosexuality is an important task that gay people have and it fits very well into the bigger scheme of saving the world. Nowadays we either live together in one world or we will have no world at all..
Chris, there are moral, religious, philisophical and spiritual arguments against homosexuality simply equating any sort of opposition to the practice as xenophobia is unfair. You may not agree with them, but they aren't just 'hate driven' ....in order to 'advance acceptance' some of groups have been resorting to some pretty intolerant tactics themselves ....and yes, so does the 'other side' .
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