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The golden rule does not say "Do unto others as others do unto you". It may look like I'm just switching it around but the sentence isn't commutative
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| I've also often thought about what the world would be like if everyone followed the Golden Rule. If you think about it, most (if not all) of our many laws all boil down to trying to ensure that people behave fairly, considerately, respectfully and lovingly towards each other. If everyone was nice to each other, we wouldn't need laws and lawyers to enforce them We're in the process of buying a house, and just had to wade through pages and pages of legalese related to the title deeds for the new house and what was allowed and not allowed. At the end of it, I said to our solicitor, "so, essentially what I've just spent hours reading all boils down to be a good neighbour"
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| I think the Golden Rule is generally a good one. But sometimes, not everyone thinks the way I think and would like to be treated the way I would like to be treated. People are different and have different preferences. Let's take this another step further shall we? What about in regards to evil? There are those out there that will actively harm us, or our children, or our loved ones. If we do not destroy them they will continue to do harm until we or our loved ones are dead. So if we are to apply the Golden Rule, would that mean that if we kill Hitler, we in think we should be killed? What about what happened in Rawanda (genocide, killing, raping, of innocent people, women, elderly, children, etc) ? If we do not simply destroy the people going on the rampage killing, how do we stop them? I doubt treating them with civility and applying the Golden Rule would work. I guess that view is based on the assumption that evil exists, and the only way to stop it is to destroy it. Some may not believe that assumption and I do respect it. I think it's wonderful to imagine a world in which people treat each other with kindness and dignity. A world where no bombs, wars, borders, fear, exist. But the problem is, this is not our world now. How do we apply the Golden Rule in this existing world, with out it causing the downfall of our selves and those we love? |
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| Nice article. I do think the world would probably be better if everyone lived by the Golden Rule. A variation on the Golden Rule I've heard is "treat others as they would like to be treated", because sometimes people don't want to be treated the same way you do. I think that might be a slight improvement on the Golden Rule, because, for instance, someone who has convinced themselves they're happy about being coerced to pay taxes could use the Golden Rule to justify coercing others. It's not a perfect improvement, though, because a person could make very unfair, unreasonable demands about how they would like to be treated, so the "treat others as they would like to be treated" rule can't always be applied. SriniG wrote: Quote:
The IRS can tell you to pay your taxes or they're going to fine you and/or throw you in jail, but the same actions would be criminal extortion if you tried doing that back to the IRS, or to anyone else. I think the IRS's version of the Golden Rule must be: "If we do unto you, it's legal, but if you do unto us, it's criminal". I definitely like the Golden Rule a lot more than "do as we say, not as we do". |
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It's also quite possible for innocent people to end up in jail, so if every prisoner is treated well, then, no innocent person will ever get mistreated. I guess the way this fits in with the Golden Rule is, if I ever had the misfortune of ending up in jail, I would want to be treated very well, and be very comfortable, especially if I was innocent. Also, even guilty criminals can have innocent family members, etc., who love them and don't want to see them suffer, so, I think it's good to be merciful at least for the sake of the innocent. |
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| I considered the rule of "Do unto others as they would like done unto them" but in so doing you may violate your own honor and ethics and moral code. After considerable thought I decided that the original golden rule is better. As for what to do with evil people... First of all, if we raised our children with love in their hearts instead of a "take whatever you can get" mentality then people wouldn't commit these acts of murder, rape, etc and then we wouldn't even have to ask the question of what to do with those who commit atrocious crimes because none would be committed. The solution to evil is simply love. Love everyone, treat everyone with kindness, love and respect and expect to be treated the same way. How do we begin? With ourselves. A kind word to a stranger. An act of love passed forward to another. I know it sounds simple but if everyone did it we'd be all set.
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| Thanks for the great post Erin. Well put. The Golden Rule is a beautiful thing to me -- it is so simple and true. Even most new age tenants are centered around it. Like attracts like, think win / win, live with gratitude, etc. They all go back to the golden rule. Quote:
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(not directed to Erin) And as for the places of containment, would this be rewarding bad behavior? Ever work with those less fortunate? It takes thick skin and a tremendous sense of commitment to help those who refuse to be helped. And if they refuse to be helped, should we take care of them forever? If so, why would anyone work, ever? Quote:
All I'm saying is, it's not easy to live by this Golden Rule. And we are often tempted off of it when we see others not following this rule and still getting ahead. And sometimes, the Golden Rule doesn't really apply when it comes to true evil, sometimes, you just have to destroy it. Though it still makes me sad to have to think in terms of that. I'm just saying, keeping the faith is very challenging. |
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I admit, I don't know how realistic or possible it is for everyone to be provided for free the minimum of what they need to survive - but, I like the idea, and hope someday society is like that, since I think it's much better than people being left to starve to death, be homeless, or die of easily (but expensively) treated health problems, just because for one reason or another they aren't capable of making enough money to live a good life. Last edited by Apollia : 06-26-2008 at 05:17 PM. |
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And the issue with this is, no one seems to agree on what "minimum of what they need to survive" entails. And also, what about the rest of the world who consciously choose not to do this? Do we force them at the point of a gun (gov control, taxation, imprisonment)? If so, does that not make us what we did not want to become? Anyway, this is quickly becoming what I am not wanting to discuss - which is implementation on the physical world. So I digress. But on a philosophical level, back to the possibility of this utopia: Is a wonderful happy utopia really what we want? Without strife, struggles, we would never be pushed to improve or progress. Would it be better that we progress on our own, without failure? We are all different and motivated differently. People who are the best successes in life have become that way because they hit rock bottom, because they failed miserably and rose above it. And went on to do tremendous good in the world. I'm not justifying murder, or war, or any of that. I'm just not too sure that this utopia is possible, or even the outcome we should desire. You know what the road to hell is paved with, right? There is a leg of truth in that. To further illustrate my point: ever seen the Yin Yang symbol? Yin and yang - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia dark and light - good and evil, in balance. Also, in the movie the Matrix, the line where Morpheus is saying something like, the first crop (of harvested people) the matrix was a utopia, and they lost all sorts of crops. Then the matrix became what it is (which is the world today) and it worked. No more massive crop losses. Do you believe that? That if everyone is in this utopia the point of life, our physical experience, would be over? Also, in Star Wars (can you tell I'm a geek?), they always want to bring Balance to the Force. They never want to have everyone happy in some sort of utopia. There's always this emphasis on balance. I believe the Golden Rule is just a guideline to help the light - since the current physical world seems tipped towards the dark. To bring balance. If we contain evil, instead of destroy it, would we get more new evil created? What if the act of destroying the evil is really bringing the balance - since new evil will be created in its place and that's just the way of the universe? If we somehow manage to create a utopia, would that not do away with this balance and destroy us all in the end? I dunno, just some musings. I'd love to know everyone else's opinion. I'm not here to agitate, I love these discussions! |
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| I actually find it ridiculously easy to follow the golden rule no matter what anyone else in the world is doing. If someone wants to destroy me badly enough, he will, and I will die and that's okay, but I will never sacrifice my own morals by waging war upon someone that *might* kill me someday. If we can get every generation that follows us to act the golden rule then in 5 generations we will know peace. I realize there are people today who will never follow the golden rule. Lives may be lost because of this. The body continues to live even when cells are lost or even entire organs. But to think that we should continue on the way we have been and not move to a more loving society right now is to say, "Well my body already has a disease, I'll just keep piling junk food down into it since I would enjoy that and the body is going to die anyway." At some point, which is my polite way of saying NOW, we have to stop justifying immoral acts becuase "he started it" or "he's doing it too!" It really is so simple. Be kind, be loving, be good and the world becomes a kind, loving, good place to be. Dan, I frickin love that religion poster thingie. Know where I can get that in a print?
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| My view is that we can evolve and progress without external pushing too. The desire to improve and invent new things would come from within, not from outside necessities. |
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I was talking about someone actively attacking you, or some one else and you are around. Something like this: http://www.mercurynews.com/ci_9606469?nclick_check=1 In summary, a dad was beating his 2 yr old son to death, people were standing by, no one could stop him. They called 911, they tried to stop him, but were pushed back. A cop finally showed up, shot the man dead to stop him from beating his son. The poor kid was dead before the cops showed up. The Golden Rule is a great general guideline I think. But I don't think it applies in all situations all the time. And like I said before, what if other people don't react like me. For example. Let's say my husband cheats on me one time, never does it again, and my best friend finds out. If she applies the Golden Rule, she tells me about it because, if the same thing happens to her, she would want to someone to tell her. But if it were me, I would not want to know and just be happy being married and never finding out. So, does she tell me or not? Since we both are individuals and have different preferences. This is what I mean. Sorry if I have offended. I just wanted to really discuss on whether the Golden Rule applies to every situation or not. A good general rule to have, yes. I just don't think it applies to everything. Last edited by ns123 : 06-26-2008 at 06:20 PM. |
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| I'm not offended. And actually I didn't think you were talking about the Iraq war, I just brought that in for my own reasons If I saw a man beating up his child I would do everything in my power to stop him. I wouldn't just call the police. I would try to find a way to physically stop him. Regarding your best friend and the cheating situation... 1. If everyone were following the golden rule your husband probably wouldn't be cheating unless both he and the woman he's cheating with are totally okay with someone cheating on them. 2. Yeah, your friend has to tell you to honor her own morals. Or maybe she tells your husband to tell you or she will. It's not her fault you wouldn't want to know. She's honoring her own morals by telling you the truth. Hey, at least someone is being honest with you. 3. If you wouldn't want to know your husband is cheating on you then perhaps you are tacitly giving him permission to cheat eh?
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