healing others without getting sick

[Ninja]

After some posting in the topic about your latest podcast, I've reconsidered surpressing my gift. Long story short: I can see and, to some degree, manipulate auras. I can also make people feel better if they are ill, especially musclepain and nausea. Problem is, the minute I heal someone, I get sick myself! And I don't just 'absorb' the pain of the person I'm trying to help: I get it back tenfold. In fact, I'm very sensitive to other people's pain and it has caused me a lot of grief, especially when I was little. I can't even count the times my mother had to keep me home from school because I felt sick, even though I looked perfectly normal. I was just soaking in other people's negative energy like a sponge. When I got older, I learned to shield myself by projecting a cage of golden light around me, but sometimes I still get affected.

Erin, is there any way I can heal others without getting sick myself?

[JSB]

I'm not familiar with the healing techniques you are using, but there are qigong techniques that use qi projection to help others, and doing qigong exercises to strengthen one's own qi is a necessary prerequisite to helping others effectively with these techniques.

I know that you are using your own healing methods, but you may want to look into qigong or another energy practice that helps you build up your own body's energy. It is worth noting that the Taoists would work on developing bodily energy and health before specifically focusing on cultivating the energy of the mind and spirit.

Look at the emphasis on physical health and energy cultivation amongst yoga practicioners as well.

[Erin Pavlina]

When i first started doing readings, after 6 in a row I would feel like I had the flu! My guides helped me with this considerably. I'm sure I wrote about this in my blog at some point but for your benefit the gist is that you cannot take on their pain, you must let the healing energy move through you but not take pieces of you with it. not sure what modality you're using but you don't want to heal others by giving too much of yourself. Instead, let the healing energy of Source move through you but not take any of your energy with it.

For me, I had to go to a white room to do my work and then when I'm done working I leave the room behind. Very helpful for me.

[Ninja]

Originally Posted by Erin Pavlina

When i first started doing readings, after 6 in a row I would feel like I had the flu! My guides helped me with this considerably. I'm sure I wrote about this in my blog at some point but for your benefit the gist is that you cannot take on their pain, you must let the healing energy move through you but not take pieces of you with it. not sure what modality you're using but you don't want to heal others by giving too much of yourself. Instead, let the healing energy of Source move through you but not take any of your energy with it.

For me, I had to go to a white room to do my work and then when I'm done working I leave the room behind. Very helpful for me.

To be honest, I'm not sure how I'm doing it. I feel when someone is hurting and get an almost instinctive urge to put my hand on that spot. Then I start to feel incredibly drained while the other person blinks and wonders why they aren't feeling pain anymore. There are times I'm not even aware I'm doing it until I'm almost done. One minute I'm having an conversation and the next my hand is on their body. It's rare, but when it happens it's very awkward

I'll dig through your blogposts some more. But there are so many of them

By the way, can abilities like these run in the family? My late grandfather held me as a baby and warned my parents that there was something wrong with my brain. When I was 5 or so, they discovered a bundle of knotted bloodvessles in the part of my brain that controls coördination. It's not dangerous, but it does affect my balance and hand-eye coördination. My grandfather already knew from the minute I was born that something in my head was not right.

[amixa]

Originally Posted by Ninja

By the way, can abilities like these run in the family? My late grandfather held me as a baby and warned my parents that there was something wrong with my brain. When I was 5 or so, they discovered a bundle of knotted bloodvessles in the part of my brain that controls coördination. It's not dangerous, but it does affect my balance and hand-eye coördination. My grandfather already knew from the minute I was born that something in my head was not right.

I get the impression they can -- as certain personality traits can pass on so does certain sensitivities.
My great grandmother apparently had the ability to see and hear and experience things and so although weak at the moment I may be that person who seems to be open to that sensitivity. I'm slowly trying to learn it back without being afraid.

[njn]

Ninja -- You might want to check out a book by Eric Pearl, "The Reconnection." He's a chiropracter by trade, then unnexpectedly started healing with his hands. In his book, he recounts how, like you, he would take on the medical issue of the patient he helped get better (healed some guy's eye, then his own eye swelled to three times its size and oozed puss for several days), and how he overcame it. He (and a couple of people he has trained) also holds seminars on how to harness and direct this healing "energy." I'm going to try and attend one this next October.

[Mato Kinze]

Ninja,
Healing is very personal and how one goes about it is just as personal and individual. With a natural gift such as yours, you may have some challenges in learning how to control your abilities.

For me, it's not natural. I have to work very hard to get myself in a place to be effective at healing. When I first started, I asked my Guides what I needed to do.

Sometimes my Guides just tell me, using plain and simple words. Sometimes they "show" me by using images. This time, they chose an image. What they showed me was what's called a "Soda-straw Stalactite".

If you've ever done any caving or even been in a commercially developed cavern, then you've probably seen them. They are the "proto stalactites". They're hollow tubes that rainwater drips through. Over years and years, the tube gradually builds up minerals on the inside - sort of like the opposite of a tree that grows in rings from the inside out.

Eventually, the soda straw fills itself up and the water begins to flow around the outside - changing the growth from inner to outer. Now the stalactite grows just like a tree does.

What this meant to me was that at the level I was at, I needed to allow the energy of Spirit to move through me in the same way water moves through a soda-straw stalactite.

It may be that for you, you need to go "back to basics" in a way and understand first where your gift comes from, how it operates, and then focus on allowing the energy you direct to flow through you instead of into you.

Failing that, you could also learn to heal yourself in the same way you heal others. In the end, it's the same thing, it's just that the second way takes longer and entails you taking on the negative energy you just removed from a person into yourself before you transmute it and send out.

I hope this helps you. We need more healers in this world and I'd hate to lose one that seems so naturally talented.

[veranadine]

When you are empathic, you have been delibeartely sent into this realm with a sensitivity to energy and the spirit force of all life.

This unfortunately also includes illness and negative energies (such as pain and anger.)

In the very beginning, when I first became aware of this, I tried to ignore it. Eventually, as I embraced my gifts and after I found my guides, I learned how to use these gifts better without being harmed by them.

I would suggest meditating everyday in an effort to contact your inner guidance. They will help you immensely to not harm yourself with your own gifts.

Until then, always do a protection and grounding visualization before doing energy work on others.

1. I use the visualization of roots growing from my feet and deep into the Earth, as well as branches growing from my head and shoulders up in the heavens.

2. I then breath my aura into an egg shape, all around, above and below me. Filling that egg with white light allows energy to be either reflected or transmuted, hence nullifying its effects upon you.

I hope that this helps.

Blessings,

[amixa]

Ninja,
I just found out about the practice of Reiki. I had someone tell me an amazing story of what they can do from personal experience. They are healers, and I can imagine they know how not to get sick so you should look into seeing what that's about.
Reiki - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

I can't wait for my appointment in 2 weeks

[BluBlossom]

Hi,

Just a question. Do you ask these people for their permission before you heal them?

It's no-ones job to fix another being, that's an assumption and it will backfire. By sending them healing without permission you're judging them and that projected energy will come back at you. What I mean by judgment is that you're saying that their energy is yucky or that they are sick, naturally they have their own defense mechanisms in place (re: judgment and projections) and that baggage comes back to you (often stronger). What you send out, you get back. Does that make sense?

A way around this is to ask the person for their consent, or you can ask their Higher-self + Send healing via Source/Consciousness. This way the healing is not coming from the ego-perspective and is coming from a place that is in alignment with the other persons Highest-Good. Don't assume that you know what is best for the other person. You don't - you can only know what is best for you.

Also, with the absorption and taking on others baggage (re empathy). This can happen when you're insecure and need others to validate you. You're seeking stuff outside of yourself to fulfill you, so you draw in the like. This can be something unconscious (e.g. a conditioning from childhood) and not something in your conscious awareness.

Taking on baggage can be caused by attaching and placing your focus on the projections of others. This focus draws it in and you now own it. You can't exactly send it back because you'll get a bounce back from the other person. It is no longer their stuff because you've owned it.

To lessen the negative-effects of 'Empathy' learn to 'mind your own business', don't feel into people because you can - get permission on some level first!, and learn to detach and surrender the incoming emotions without owning them. This stuff happens because you let it in and it does not matter whether you feel or think you have the other persons best interests at heart.

I guess the 'lesson' here would be to curb your desire to help others and only do so when it is truly appropriate + you have their permission. Don't automatically rush to help people because you feel they need help or because it is apart of your perceived nature - learn to use discernment and know your responsibility. See where your boundaries lay (release them) and see if you can call back your own projected energy + turn your attention inward.

I say release boundaries because by putting them up you affirm the need to be protected against something, instead of trusting that you're safe. This in-turn causes resistance and draws in what you don't like. It's better to use discernment and remain detached to whatever is happening and allow things to just Flow.

On projected energy + turning inward. Projected energy or seeing things you don't like in other people is the perfect mirror of things you don't like within yourself + fears you have. It's a good idea to learn from it and see what's truly causing the discord. Don't send your judgments back at others or project yourself, instead shift your focus inwards.

IMO, Everyone can be Empathic because everyone is connected to everything else. Some people learn to become more fine-tuned with practice and yes some are born well-equipped. It's the same with all skills.

Hope that Helps (scrap it if it doesn't) + Good luck!

[Mato Kinze]

Great pionts BluBlossom. Very, very relevant.

[freedom]

Ok when you do this - try consciously passing the 'sick' energy through the heart center whilst visualizing pure crystal white energy.
what you are attempting to do is an ancient technique that was reputedly used by the people from Lemuria.
They took the sickness into their own bodies with the left hand - transformed the energy within the heart center and then passed the newly tuned energy back to the person being healed, that way not using their own energy, but sending the persons energy back to them, thus benefiting both parties.

[Ninja]

Originally Posted by BluBlossom

Hi,

Just a question. Do you ask these people for their permission before you heal them?

It's no-ones job to fix another being, that's an assumption and it will backfire. By sending them healing without permission you're judging them and that projected energy will come back at you. What I mean by judgment is that you're saying that their energy is yucky or that they are sick, naturally they have their own defense mechanisms in place (re: judgment and projections) and that baggage comes back to you (often stronger). What you send out, you get back. Does that make sense?

A way around this is to ask the person for their consent, or you can ask their Higher-self + Send healing via Source/Consciousness. This way the healing is not coming from the ego-perspective and is coming from a place that is in alignment with the other persons Highest-Good. Don't assume that you know what is best for the other person. You don't - you can only know what is best for you.

Also, with the absorption and taking on others baggage (re empathy). This can happen when you're insecure and need others to validate you. You're seeking stuff outside of yourself to fulfill you, so you draw in the like. This can be something unconscious (e.g. a conditioning from childhood) and not something in your conscious awareness.

Taking on baggage can be caused by attaching and placing your focus on the projections of others. This focus draws it in and you now own it. You can't exactly send it back because you'll get a bounce back from the other person. It is no longer their stuff because you've owned it.

To lessen the negative-effects of 'Empathy' learn to 'mind your own business', don't feel into people because you can - get permission on some level first!, and learn to detach and surrender the incoming emotions without owning them. This stuff happens because you let it in and it does not matter whether you feel or think you have the other persons best interests at heart.

I guess the 'lesson' here would be to curb your desire to help others and only do so when it is truly appropriate + you have their permission. Don't automatically rush to help people because you feel they need help or because it is apart of your perceived nature - learn to use discernment and know your responsibility. See where your boundaries lay (release them) and see if you can call back your own projected energy + turn your attention inward.

I say release boundaries because by putting them up you affirm the need to be protected against something, instead of trusting that you're safe. This in-turn causes resistance and draws in what you don't like. It's better to use discernment and remain detached to whatever is happening and allow things to just Flow.

On projected energy + turning inward. Projected energy or seeing things you don't like in other people is the perfect mirror of things you don't like within yourself + fears you have. It's a good idea to learn from it and see what's truly causing the discord. Don't send your judgments back at others or project yourself, instead shift your focus inwards.

IMO, Everyone can be Empathic because everyone is connected to everything else. Some people learn to become more fine-tuned with practice and yes some are born well-equipped. It's the same with all skills.

Hope that Helps (scrap it if it doesn't) + Good luck!

I *try* asking for consent, but sometimes it just "happens", especially with children. I'm having a conversation and suddenly they get excited that their tummy-ache is gone while i feel sick as a dog and realize that my hand is on their shoulder. D-OH!!!

I'll try some of the techniques here and see what works best for me. There has got to be a way to get this thing under control!