But Where's the Love? (Blog)

[Erin Pavlina]

Use this thread to discuss the following entry from Erin Pavlina's blog:

But Where's the Love?

[carenkh]

Very interesting... Andrew Michaels and I both posted in the psychic forum that we felt more... open and connected with people we were dating; that we could pick up things about them, but not necessarily others.

So now my goal is to fall in love with the world, so I can connect more easily with everyone!

[Dan.Linehan]

That's funny.. my boyfriend is psychic and he says just the opposite: he can pick up on life paths for strangers easily but not on his own or mine.

[Erin Pavlina]

I think what's actually happening is one of two things, Dan...

1. He is picking up on things for the people close to him but, being non-objective, he might question or doubt it, which causes it to come through fuzzy.

or

2. He is being obfuscated from seeing something about himself. As in, not allowed to peek behind the curtain because there's a lesson in there somewhere.

I dislike reading for family and friends, but I can do it. The reason I dislike it is because it's really hard to validate the info coming through because I'm not objective. When I read for a total stranger and tell them something they were journaling about the night before then both of us know it couldn't have come from me. it's awesome!

Lately I've even told Steve not to ask me for a reading because of the lack of objectivity. But I still read for him and he's able to read for me when I'm not listening.

[Marth]

This is a really awesome blog, I have a problem though. Everytime I feel anything out-of-body or supernatural I feel I'm not ready & kind of fearfully close the door to it. I feel open to prey kind of thing. I like giving love but I'm having trouble finding ways to give it!

[yossarian]

Originally Posted by Marth

This is a really awesome blog, I have a problem though. Everytime I feel anything out-of-body or supernatural I feel I'm not ready & kind of fearfully close the door to it. I feel open to prey kind of thing. I like giving love but I'm having trouble finding ways to give it!

I'm working with this myself. One thing I've been able to slowly realize is that love is not something you give, it's something you are. Love is not an action, it is a feeling. So you don't "give love" or "find a way to give love" at all, you just FEEL the love and allow yourself to feel it deeply, and allow yourself to feel it at all times.

It's that feeling itself that counts. The feeling itself is the important part.

[firefly]

Erin, how would you suggest increasing love (or doing a better job of tapping into the love that's already there)?

I can see focusing on the "doing" side of the coin with a "fake it till you make it" approach (going out of your way to show kindness to others whether you feel it or not) or focusing on the "being" side and trying to increase your feeling of love through meditation, prayer, etc.

How did you go about it?

Thanks for the great article!

[Erin Pavlina]

I feel a great connection and compassion and oneness with every other human being on the planet, even those I don't know personally. I mean think about other people right now... right now someone is being asked for their hand in marriage (awww). Right now someone is being murdered (boooo!). Right now someone has tripped and someone else has seen them. Will they help them up?

All I have to do to feel connected is think about all these people going through their lives right now and begin to imagine what they are going through. That causes love, empathy, compassion to well up inside me. Sometimes I can feel sad or outraged or even angry, but it still shows I am connecting to the collective. I can smile knowing that right now someone else, or I should say some other part of me, is looking into the eyes of their newborn baby. Right now I can cry knowing that someone has just found their teen son dead of an overdose. If I allow myself, I can feel great joy or great pain because of my connection to our collective humanity.

Practice tapping into it. See what you feel. You don't have to know the person personally. it's enough to know there is another soul, another part of "God", going through something powerful and strong. You can tap into that feeling.

And then when you see someone, anyone else, you can tap into their feelings too and have an "awwww" moment or a "crap!" moment. But it's those moments that connect you to others.

[firefly]

Thanks for the insight Erin. That feels like a much simpler, more natural solution than what I had been considering.

[StarieEyed]

I feel myself being so hatefull lately and I hate it. I KNOW naturally when I was younger I had so much empathy, so much that I WOULD cry for other ppl and sometimes still feel that way but for some reason, I think being hurt or betrayed in the past I think negitivly about most ppl now. Like I want to donate money for Christmas to a family in need, you know one of those programs, but then when I think of who the family may be, I think they are probably better off than I am (a single mom living with my parents) so why should I donate to them, or they probably do have enough money but spent it on other stuff. The only place I can get myself to donate to is my church and St. Jude Children's Research Hospital. I tell my self that no matter what sick children always deserve better and my money. (the little that I have) but WHY WHY WHY can't I feel the same about the poor children at Christmas???? Its like I got stuck stereo typing somewhere years ago and I don't know how to stop. The nastyness of everyone I think about is popping out at me lately, even people I dont know and it want it to end so badly. I think I got some of it from my parents too and I dont want to pass it to my daughter.

Please someone help. I still know I am a good person and do help strangers even, so IN PERON, Ok I just had some sort of "ah hah" moment. IN PERSON I see the good but in my MIND when I think of ppl I see only bad.

Any insight on this anyone? Please.