Choosing Our Emotions (Blog)

[wolfgang]

How is this tunning into the higher self different than ignoring the emotion such that it gets suppressed and blows up later?

I have a major life habit of not telling people what bothers me (to be accepted) but then eventually people close to me see me going on a rage rant that is not proportional. This habit seems to present me as a calm individual, and most people who don't know me very well think I'm really mild in demeanor.

[wolfgang]

Originally Posted by emf

If I release fear altogether so that I can focus on my personal and spiritual development, will that automatically align me with a universe that keeps me safe?

I would think it's that way since the only fear you really can let go of is fear that is not real. You will still fear things that can cause you real harm, like jumping in a fire, so you will still have signals of fear that keep you safe but won't have those unnessiscary fears, like, "She won't like me" or some other non leathal fear.

[elucidate]

This was a really great thread for me to read at the moment, thanks Erin.

I think it's more realistic when you said that it is easier to choose our emotions when we are in a higher state of consciousness, as opposed to getting caught up in the reaction of the moment, and that's a tricky one to know when it's happening.

I can have periods where I am totally in my higher state and be flowing, where it is easier to choose how i feel and other times when I just forget that I have this choice in the first place, and fall back into reacting.

Thanks for the reminder.

I realize this is a very old thread, but it was interesting to dig up past threads today, especially ones that are pertinent to my reality at the moment.

I got mad last night at a friend who reacted defensively to me speaking up for myself about the way he was pressuring me to perform in bed.
His reaction was to tell me I was 'uptight' instead of listening to what I was trying to say, which I have been reflecting on today, and I may not have used the correct tone, but he also is quite sensitive and perceived an attack when I was trying to give him some feedback about the fact that putting pressure on me to orgasm was having the opposite effect to what he was wanting for me.

I didn't yell, but I did speak quite firmly to him and chose to stay angry so he knew that I meant business. I didn't really feel heard by him in the end, but it was interesting that I was able to control my temper and express that I was angry and hurt at the way he blamed me for it, instead of looking at his own part to play.

Eventually I was able to switch back into feeling happier and let him cuddle me, which felt better, but it was important to let him know.