|01-31-2008, 02:07 PM||#2 (permalink)|
Join Date: Dec 2006
Location: Perth, Australia
Awwww, I loved that story Erin.
It really does show that all humans really want is connection with each other and with themselves. It's easy to imagine the literal physical disconnection when you bring it into reality.
Perhaps we could use a mental picture of moving away from someone we like and use that to tell ourselves positive things about the person, rather than negative. If we can picture ourselves physical moving away and feel the discomfort, we'd be quicker to get back to love.
Thanks so much for the post, I definately saw something for myself.
|01-31-2008, 06:14 PM||#5 (permalink)|
Join Date: Jan 2007
Wow. This probably would have worked a lot better than beating them for not loving each other. Too bad mine are all grown up now.
What a great solution Erin. I can definitely use it in "other than child raising" applications.
|01-31-2008, 07:09 PM||#7 (permalink)|
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: The Darkness / The Never
haha George Bush and Kim Jong Il shuffling closer together, before finally hugging each other and skipping off to world peace, somehow I can't see it happen lol.
But seriously though, I like this idea, and when in the future I have kids, I will certainly employ this. But if you ask me, denial of fun, I.E/ making them watch something boring on TV, or making them read an advanced Physics applications manual is far more effective. J/King...or am I?
|01-31-2008, 10:28 PM||#8 (permalink)|
Join Date: Jul 2007
Location: Vancouver BC, Canada
I recently read about a similar technique in the book "Connecting With Self and Others". It describes the physical 'dance' of a relationship which represents coming closer together or further apart. It described a game couples can play to physically illustrate how each of them feels about their relationship. There's no talking, but each starts by standing on a square facing each other with two squares in between them. They take turns moving. In a turn they can step forward or back or to the side, or they can turn their body to the side, or do nothing.
I think your game is a wonderful way to teach your kids that being mad at each other only hurts themselves and that if they can reconcile with each other then they will be able to continue playing with each other and having fun. It's great that they can even do it on their own.
|02-01-2008, 04:16 AM||#11 (permalink)|
Join Date: Oct 2007
I'm here all week...
Seriously, though. The thing I liked best about Erin's story is that "going to your room" wasn't positioned as a punishment. It seems like sometimes the kids (or couples, or nations) might really need a break from each other. And in Erin's scenario, that's OK too. I don't usually look at relationships that way -- and I suspect neither do many other people. Thanks Erin!
|02-01-2008, 04:24 AM||#12 (permalink)|
Join Date: Oct 2006
Location: Las Vegas, NV
Yeah I don't like sending the kids to their rooms as punishment. What we do though is sometimes suggest they take a break from each other, and that often involves each of them playing in their room (that's where their toys are) until they feel like playing together again. But we don't impose a time on that.
|02-01-2008, 05:37 PM||#13 (permalink)|
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: NY, NY
my god that's brilliant!
I'm not even a parent -- just did a whoooole lot of baby sitting jobs when I was younger. And I just had to say how incredibly brilliant an idea that is! I'm especially impressed that you've taught them to work it out for themselves at such a young age! Imagine the incredible advantages these kids will have in future relationships, rather than fumbling and spending 5-10 years learning how to deal with stuff like that once they become adult enough to start coming up with techniques on their own!
Congratulations Erin! Just think of ALL the headaches you've just saved yourself!
I don't know that it'd work for adult issues though -- it seem like so often when my SO and I butt heads, that we need to go 3-5 rounds (though not all 10), to figure out what *happened* -- and often enough, it's a culture gap and differing assumptions as we were raised differently. (in different religions, different cultures, different parts of the country.) Still, it's tempting. Too bad I don't think I could sell my SO on it.
|02-03-2008, 09:34 PM||#15 (permalink)|
Join Date: Aug 2007
That is a wonderful exercise. It certainly would be great if we could apply it to our world leaders. I have always seen "time outs" as just one more form of punishment, that doesn't accomplish much. When my son was in kindergarten the teacher said to him, "Are you going to finish coloring that picture or do you want a time out?" He said, "I'll do the time out." He's been an independent thinker since he first hit air.
|02-19-2011, 05:44 PM||#16 (permalink)|
Join Date: Feb 2011
Think of an exercise that will work with employees/coworkers who maybe despise each other and cannot work together and you will have something really marketable. (I can picture coworkers taking steps back until someone is out the door).
|02-19-2011, 05:53 PM||#17 (permalink)|
Join Date: Oct 2008
Location: Mexico City
This is one of the most empowering and positive blog posts I've read in a long time!!! LOVING IT!!
Going to book mark it for sure!!
(not saying that your other blog posts are not empowering or positive, just saying that I haven't read them....)
|02-19-2011, 08:49 PM||#19 (permalink)|
Join Date: Aug 2010
Location: where don't I live?
Yeah, this was seriously awesome. Amazing idea. I love that you give them the options of taking a break or getting back to love. Both choices are equally valid and it wouldn't make sense to force them to make up right away if they didn't want that. Great way to inspire them to make their own choices, too!
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