Are dreams about deceased loved ones real? (Blog)

[Erin Pavlina]

Use this thread to discuss the following entry from Erin Pavlina's blog:

Are dreams about deceased loved ones real?

[Ree]

I found this very interesting and it confirmed for me what I already believed to have happened to me after my father died. I can still remember feeling that I just "knew" it was the real deal. Thanks so much!

[Bitsy]

There is often a feeling of a cold wind around them, and the dream will probably have a crisp and clear feel to it. You will easily remember the entire experience, unlike in a dream where details are hazy. When you wake up it will feel like you simply opened your eyes, you won’t feel groggy and sleepy, in fact you could feel very energized. There are usually no other dream characters, just you and the dearly departed.

I experienced something exactly like that with someone who was alive...I was in Canada and he was in Finland and I was having a "real" dream, a normal dream that was suddenly interrupted and I suddenly found myself with this man, just the two of us in a certain place and the sound changed--like from being underwater in the normal dream, to coming out of the water, the sound got clear and I could feel the air and even smell his breath, which never happened to me in dreams before, and hasn't happened since. I could describe it more, but in a nutshell, it was just sort of a visit and no one spoke, I think feelings were exchanged in our glances only. He was working on something work-related. When I woke up from that, I swore I had been physically with him and I was ecstatic. But he is alive...was it something unusual, or just a unique dream?

[Kaja]

Bitsy, i had dreams about someone alive as well, which was hugely different from "ordinary dreams" it felt as if his higher self had come into my dream to speak to me.

[Kaja]

Hi Erin, in which form do you think our higher self or spirit guides communicate with us in dreams?

I recently broke up with a boy friend, and was very angry at him, though i knew this wasnt the best way to handle the situation.
Then one night i had really intense dreams. They were not very clear, but the message that came through was strong: It is extremely important that i let go of the anger and that i forgive and find peace. I woke up feeling calm and at peace and since then take the anger thats left with a pinch of salt.

Would that have been my guides or my HS? Or does the fact that i cannot remember a face to face communication or similar and i just got a "general message" indicate that it was just a dream - important but no higher communication?

[oberlee]

I had a recent experience like this, only my grandfather isn't deceased, though he's on his way out.

I had a dream and it was very sad. It was me and my good friend and cousin Sarah, and we were in a room with our grandfather, and we were all crying. Not bawling, but just very, very sad. There was nothing strange about the dream, and it was very vivid, leading me to believe that this was communication from him, and I thought maybe he was dying.

The next day, my mother tells me that they're moving him to a nursing home, which they've been trying to do for a while, but he was dead set against it. My grandmother just can't take care of him by herself, as she's in her 80's and he's 98.

I wrote him a letter soon after. It almost sort of makes me wish for him to go, just so he can find peace. His mind is ALL there; just not his body, and it frustrates him. I actually can't imagine him lasting long once he's out of his home.

What can I do with this? Is it possible for him to contact me even though he's still alive? It was all so sad; like we were all saying goodbye.

[Erin Pavlina]

Oberlee, I had a similar experience with my grandmother while she was alive but on her way out. I kept having dreams that my deceased grandfather (same one I wrote about in this blog entry) and I were going to her at night to let her know that it was time to leave her body, not to be afraid, and that it was okay to leave. She kept resisting this advice in the dream. I had this same type of dream 3 times. Finally one night I dreamed that my grandmother finally got over her fear of leaving her body and told me she was going to die. I told everyone in my family the next morning that I dreamed grandma was going to die and everyone assured me she was in good health mentally and physically, but 3 days later she died very suddenly. I actually had the audacity to be shocked. But what was happening there is that me and grandpa were communicating with her soul at night, while she was alive. So I wouldn't be surprised if your grandfather passed relatively soon once he goes to the home. People often cling to their earthly bodies while their souls are actually preparing to leave. You can pick up on that in dreams.

Kaja: Feels like it was a dream sent to you from your higher self to help you get over the feelings you were having. It's possible his higher self was involved. I couldn't say for sure.

Bitsy: Two people could have a spontaneous visitation like you describe, but it is highly unusual and just not that common.

[Andrew Brunelle]

Erin, I enjoyed your post, especially how they don't just come by to "chew the fat," that is is difficult to get there. I could see a deceased loved one saying something like, "I had to take three subways and a bus to get here. So you'd better listen now or I'm going back."

I still haven't had an experience like this, but those closest to me have not died yet. The ones who I really spent a lot of time with are still living. I guess it can be something to look forward to.

[XeutonMojukai]

I find that I am constantly capable of these sorts of contacts, whether asleep or awake...

I can hear of a stranger's relative's death from the stranger, and the relative will contact me and tell me what information to pass on.

This blog is very true though. The real moments are memorable, and the imaginary ones are forgotten.

One of the most useful skills I've learned is how to recognize when I'll remember something for a long time. It's a powerful skill, and I intend to eventually apply intentions to it so I can make myself remember things.

The most important thing I have to say is that the dead often truly wish to let their friends and relatives know what's going on, but cannot for some reason, and so they look for indirect ways.

Dreams, Mediums, and other possibilities exist, but as a medium, I find that I am surrounded by messages, the more I focus.

~ David

[Old Soul]

You will easily remember the entire experience, unlike in a dream where details are hazy. When you wake up it will feel like you simply opened your eyes, you won’t feel groggy and sleepy, in fact you could feel very energized.

totally agree!! and it effects your profoundly........... or maybe it is just with bipolor disorder that it effected me profoundly...

[Pfarlough]

Originally Posted by Erin Pavlina

Oberlee, I had a similar experience with my grandmother while she was alive but on her way out. I kept having dreams that my deceased grandfather (same one I wrote about in this blog entry) and I were going to her at night to let her know that it was time to leave her body, not to be afraid, and that it was okay to leave. She kept resisting this advice in the dream. I had this same type of dream 3 times. Finally one night I dreamed that my grandmother finally got over her fear of leaving her body and told me she was going to die. I told everyone in my family the next morning that I dreamed grandma was going to die and everyone assured me she was in good health mentally and physically, but 3 days later she died very suddenly. I actually had the audacity to be shocked. But what was happening there is that me and grandpa were communicating with her soul at night, while she was alive. So I wouldn't be surprised if your grandfather passed relatively soon once he goes to the home. People often cling to their earthly bodies while their souls are actually preparing to leave. You can pick up on that in dreams.

Kaja: Feels like it was a dream sent to you from your higher self to help you get over the feelings you were having. It's possible his higher self was involved. I couldn't say for sure.

Bitsy: Two people could have a spontaneous visitation like you describe, but it is highly unusual and just not that common.

This is so funny because my husband wqas murdered in Nov. of 2003. Since then I have had several dreams about him. One that stood out the most came maybe 2 months after he passed, and i was so depressed (actually hospitalized for depression) and in the dream we were moving out of our home and he just started lifting upward to the sky while i was holding on to his feet, and he told me that I had to let him go.

Now i still could not figure out if this was a simple dream or was it really him. I wish i knew for sure.