do you ever wish you were prettier for your parents? ..and your self too?

[lightthecandle]

growing up, I constantly felt a need to look pretty.( i never looked or felt pretty ...at least for my parents/families standpoint) i guess it stemmed from the fact that my parents constantly judged others on looks, whether one was fairer or not, had good hair, yadayadayada. the thing is my mom sometimes says that when her kids were younger, they were prettier or looked better. me and my 5 bros and sisters were all cute babies, however, my older sis and my older bro and my younger sis are still really attractive people. However, i'm not and my little brother isn't. i guess because we're the more darker ones in the fam, and don't have clear skin. i guess what i'm asking is how do you get over trying to look good for your parents?

[Lychee]

I think it would be a good idea to realize that "beauty is in the eye of the beholder." If your parents think you aren't so pretty, I'm sure you'll find someone who finds you attractive, and vice versa. Aside from that, natural physical appearance is nothing that we have control over. Your parents didn't pick out the genes from which your body was formed. That's just the way you were made. Does it matter that you might have darker skin, or skin which isn't so clear? The only thing that we really have control over is our selves.

[openeyes]

I usually think of parents seeing their kids as handsome/beautiful even when no one else does. If a parent is hung up on the looks of their kids (not simply how they dress but their body) then it could be due to their own body issues rather than anything in particular about the children.