How not to care

[ken nubo]

How NOT to care for Dark Workers

You cannot please everyone okay? Say no, ignore them or totally cut them off your life completely. Don't be afraid to say no to your parents or don't talk to them at all.

Plus I'm kinda leery of men and women in their 20s, 30s or even 40s who still seek approval from their parents or peers. To me, parental and peer approval is almost non-existence.

I simply don't give a ****. Don't care.

I don't care because I don't value people's opinions, even from those in authority, so called experts or the old guy down the street. Opinion is like poop; everyone is proud to let a deuce drop.

And not caring is very valuable in every day situation. Examples:

- What type of major should you have in college
- Is the job right for you?
- Is the person you're dating right for you?
- How should you dress or what should you believe in?

All those confusion and indecision goes away when you simply stop caring about other people's opinion. It becomes all too clear because you'll be doing whatever you feel is right for you. Simple as that.

Oh, by the way, be extra leery of negative criticism from those in authority, like teachers. They're known to be stunningly full of ****. Once my grade 11 English teacher criticized my work but I round-house kick him to the face before he could finish.

[Peleke4]

good post! curious but what advice would you have to become less self-conscious and not care what other people think?

[oharrell]

Originally Posted by Peleke4

good post! curious but what advice would you have to become less self-conscious and not care what other people think?

I second that

[Senin]

Uh Ken, do you have a few issues?

[AidanMatthews216]

Originally Posted by ken nubo

How NOT to care for Dark Workers

You don't sound like much of a lightworker yourself.

[Doku]

Wouldn't this be more appropriate for the "how to spot a loser" thread? Did you need to start a new one?

[Freelancer]

Originally Posted by Senin

Uh Ken, do you have a few issues?

I'd say the general population has a couple of issue's, ken seems perfectly 'normal' to me lol.

You don't sound like much of a lightworker yourself.

Duh, figuring out that ken is a darkworker is well ehm obvious...

Here's the interesting thing, do you know if your a light or darkworker?

After all ken ain't so important in your life as yourself, does this make you a darkworker? Or just a really selfish lightworker lol...

[Dive Bomb]

I like the satrical nature of this post, especially the round house kick to the face.

"Opinion is like poop; everyone is proud to let a deuce drop."

That was worthy of a thread alone haha

[John Hill]

Interesting post, I wrote an article a while ago that relates to the issues you have raised here, Some Parents Might Disagree With This.

John

[Rippy]

If you're happy with yourself the way you are, then it's fine. But if you don't value other's opinions, then why create this thread? Are you glorifying yourself simply because you don't accept even the simplest of critiques-- because to your inner self they represent someone's judgment, authority, or scorn? Or because you feel you're personally able to help yourself without any outside assistance? Or is it that you've attained the highly ignorant view that everyone else is 'lower' than you and that their opinions simply aren't relevant, because you're ultimately better than them?

Because, no matter how you display it, I can't find anything valuable in living such a life.. Well, that's an exaggeration, but whatever. I suppose there would be two ways in living such a life: The Ignorant, and the Insanely Amazingly Intelligent Who Is Actually Truly Smarter Than Everyone Else.

I find it much better, personally, to value every criticism I'm given and take at least a small bit of positive information from it. When you open your ears, you'd be amazed at what there is to learn.

..Then again, "ignorance is bliss".

And, just because one teacher or one parent isn't the smartest in the world doesn't mean that they hold no amount of valuable information. Hell, I wouldn't know how to type if it wasn't for one of those teachers I've never paid any respect to...

Anyway. Just wanting to know why you personally don't care.

Thanks for your time, please forgive the strange ramble,

<3 Stef

[Freelancer]

Originally Posted by Rippy

If you're happy with yourself the way you are, then it's fine. But if you don't value other's opinions, then why create this thread? Are you glorifying yourself simply because you don't accept even the simplest of critiques-- because to your inner self they represent someone's judgment, authority, or scorn? Or because you feel you're personally able to help yourself without any outside assistance? Or is it that you've attained the highly ignorant view that everyone else is 'lower' than you and that their opinions simply aren't relevant, because you're ultimately better than them?

Because, no matter how you display it, I can't find anything valuable in living such a life.. Well, that's an exaggeration, but whatever. I suppose there would be two ways in living such a life: The Ignorant, and the Insanely Amazingly Intelligent Who Is Actually Truly Smarter Than Everyone Else.

I find it much better, personally, to value every criticism I'm given and take at least a small bit of positive information from it. When you open your ears, you'd be amazed at what there is to learn.

..Then again, "ignorance is bliss".

And, just because one teacher or one parent isn't the smartest in the world doesn't mean that they hold no amount of valuable information. Hell, I wouldn't know how to type if it wasn't for one of those teachers I've never paid any respect to...

Anyway. Just wanting to know why you personally don't care.

Thanks for your time, please forgive the strange ramble,

<3 Stef

Valuable information =/= opinion...

Everybody has a opinion about everything and if you follow everyone's opinion your going to end up well anywhere.

Ken stop me if I'm wrong here but I'd say he listens to opinions IF they provide relevant information (you care about that) but he doesn't let himself get defined by it (follow the advice or feel pressure to do so).

Oh and by the way, just because you can't imagine it doesn't make it impossible. Your right in that way;
'Ignorance is bliss'



Edit: Not to mention that you often need to dig really deep if you want to find usefull information inside advice, its like finding a needle in a haystack. Often people judge you based on there own current situation which is obviously different than yours, so you need to find a way to remove that filter to find the usefull information. Most of the time it just ain't worth the effort...

[unwiser]

Not caring what anyone thinks.

good luck finding a job...........getting promotions on work............getting married.............making friends..........having a social life

by the way waht is a darkworker

it is healthy to care what others think of you as long as you care about self more than you care what others think

[Doku]

Originally Posted by unwiser

Not caring what anyone thinks.

good luck finding a job...........getting promotions on work............getting married.............making friends..........having a social life

by the way waht is a darkworker

it is healthy to care what others think of you as long as you care about self more than you care what others think

You've been reading Ken's blog, haven't you?
According to his blog, he believes that getting a job is unimaginative, going to college is stupid, and so is getting married. Well, just read through his blog. I try to read it on at least a weekly basis. It's hilarious! The part that I think is most funny about it is that he seems to honestly believe the stuff that is in his blog. (although he could just be spouting off complete bs to see how people will react as some kind of social experiment)

[unwiser]

Never heard of Ken but Ill check it out

Originally Posted by Doku

You've been reading Ken's blog, haven't you?
According to his blog, he believes that getting a job is unimaginative, going to college is stupid, and so is getting married. Well, just read through his blog. I try to read it on at least a weekly basis. It's hilarious! The part that I think is most funny about it is that he seems to honestly believe the stuff that is in his blog. (although he could just be spouting off complete bs to see how people will react as some kind of social experiment)

[Steven Moros]

If only we could give round house kicks to everyone who criticizes us. Wouldn't that make the world a better place.

Regards
Steven