Personal Development for Smart People Forums

Personal Development for Smart PeopleTM Forums

 

Go Back   Personal Development for Smart People Forums > Personal Development > Emotional Mastery

Emotional Mastery Emotional intelligence, addiction and recovery, grieving, loss, fear, anger, guilt, resentment, frustration, anxiety, depression, happiness, joy, love, kindness, forgiveness, self-acceptance, confidence, escaping the pit of despair, EFT


Welcome to the Personal Development for Smart People Forums, the place for lively, intelligent discussion of all personal growth issues -- physical, mental, financial, social, emotional, spiritual, and more.

You're currently viewing as a guest, which gives you limited read-only access. By joining our free community, you'll be able to post your own messages, access many members-only features, see the new messages posted since your last visit, and of course remove this header message. Registration is fast, simple, and free, so please join today.

If you arrived here from a search engine, you may want to explore the main site first, which includes hundreds of deep and insightful articles on a variety of personal development topics.
Reply
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 07-25-2007, 04:22 AM   #1 (permalink)
Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: San Diego, California
Posts: 53
Tristan is on a distinguished road
Default Can Anger Be Used in Competition?

QUESTION:

Anger is a powerful and destructive emotion that usually tears down relationships. But is it feasible for us to learn how to apply anger in certain conditions such as to defeat an opponent in boxing or martial arts, or in combat situations?

Please comment
__________________
Tristan Loo
Publisher
Self Improvement Magazine
Tristan is offline  
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!
Reply With Quote
Old 07-25-2007, 05:47 AM   #2 (permalink)
Banned
 
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Quebec, Canada
Posts: 3,811
Shamou is on a distinguished road
Default

Emotions are like power tools that can make it possible to accomplish certain things that could not be done without the empowerment of that emotion…

Anger is probably the most powerful of those emotions… when under attack… if a person gets angry enough… a person becomes many times more effective at defending himself…

However, anger has to be controlled so as not to degenerate into rage where caution and judgment are thrown to the winds and the person becomes way more ineffective…

I have used anger very effectively in situations where I was not performing as well as I could have… becoming angry will give an additional boost of adrenalin and energy that would otherwise not be available…

But, like I have said previously… the anger must be controlled… and must not be allowed to control us…

.
Shamou is offline  
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!
Reply With Quote
Old 07-25-2007, 05:56 AM   #3 (permalink)
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Jul 2007
Posts: 113
Peleke4 is on a distinguished road
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by Tristan View Post
QUESTION:

Anger is a powerful and destructive emotion that usually tears down relationships. But is it feasible for us to learn how to apply anger in certain conditions such as to defeat an opponent in boxing or martial arts, or in combat situations?

Please comment
This reminds me of that boxer Fernando Vargas. He something along the lines that he imagines his opponent messing with his mother, thereby inducing anger in him. And he uses that anger to defeat his opponents. Well, guess the technique didn't work on the main fights of his career.
Peleke4 is offline  
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!
Reply With Quote
Old 07-25-2007, 06:42 AM   #4 (permalink)
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Reno/Tahoe, NV, USA
Posts: 375
elainevdw is on a distinguished road
Default

Your question reminds me of Star Wars... Was it Vader or Palpatine that urges Luke to use his anger? Join the Dark Side?

I'm not sure anger is necessary in the situations you mentioned, and this is why:

"Depression is just anger without enthusiasm." (Best quote ever!)

What you're looking for isn't anger per se, but enthusiasm! Energy! Drive, and motivation to succeed!

If you can tap into that energy without getting angry first, I you're more likely to make reasonable decisions vs. rash ones (like biting off someone's ear in the boxing ring), and you're more likely to enjoy the event overall (once the intense anger is dissipated, you're left with -- yup -- depression).

What do you think?
__________________
~ Elaine.

Last edited by elainevdw; 07-25-2007 at 06:43 AM. Reason: typo!
elainevdw is offline  
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!
Reply With Quote
Old 07-25-2007, 09:59 AM   #5 (permalink)
Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: San Diego, California
Posts: 53
Tristan is on a distinguished road
Default

Hi elainevdw,

I agree with you that empowerment is better than anger on the whole, but that approach is somewhat clinical in nature and not foundational or realistic on the concepts of competitive combat.

I'm not entirely convinced that the "motivation or enthusiasm or positive thinking" applies in combat situations, whether for sport or real-life. Although, I lack any hard research to back it up, I'm inclined to say that it does not and here's why....

Say you are being attacked on the street. What frame of mind is most conducive towards surviving this confrontation, assuming that combat is the only means of survival in this situation? Will you repeat incantations such as,"I'm super motivated and enthusiastic to win!"? Or will getting extremely pissed off and developing a burning rage that's directed entirely at your opponent help you win a confrontation?

I think enjoyment of the activity is not part of the emotional equation as it applies to this situation because we are speaking of motivation here in essence. Enjoyment = pleasure and when we are in a state of pleasure, we are not motivated to change. But when we are placed in a situation that causes us pain, then we are very motivated to get out of that position of pain. I think applied anger gets us out of this pain.

But like Shamou said, anger must be controlled. In the example by Peleke4, Fernando Vargas....a fighter I am not afraid to say I heavily dislike because of his personality, was arrested numerous times for doing some real damage in street brawls that did not need to happen. I think for him, anger controlled him, not the other way around.
__________________
Tristan Loo
Publisher
Self Improvement Magazine
Tristan is offline  
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!
Reply With Quote
Old 07-25-2007, 12:33 PM   #6 (permalink)
Banned
 
Join Date: Feb 2007
Posts: 734
Uplift is on a distinguished road
Default

I don't think anything beats confidence, and preparation. To fight successfully you also need need aggression, determination and will... loads of attitude, which is only real when something is backing it up. But if you are going to rely on anger alone, or think that anger is what gives you the edge, you'd better be selective who you fight. When Tyson was prepared, and in good mental shape, he was invincable. When he started relying on his anger alone, he was in trouble. Better prepared, and so more truly confident fighters beat him. I would sum it up this way, you can put a world champion flyweight in with a world champion heavyweight, and the flyweight can get as angry as he likes. It takes more than anger.
Uplift is offline  
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!
Reply With Quote
Old 07-25-2007, 12:56 PM   #7 (permalink)
Banned
 
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Inside the Container
Posts: 1,543
Max Power is on a distinguished road
Default

I don't believe consciousness emotes, that's for humans, so I would say that to align yourself with creative source/force, then staying neutral, emotion wise is the way to get clarity and control.

Not understanding leads to fear, fear leads to anger, anger leads to suffering, much fear is the dark side

Max
Max Power is offline  
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!
Reply With Quote
Old 07-25-2007, 01:16 PM   #8 (permalink)
kat
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Switzerland
Posts: 105
kat is on a distinguished road
Default

I'm no fighter or martial artist, but everything that I've read about these topics suggests that you should avoid getting angry at all costs - and if your opponent is angry, it is to your advantage. Anger tends to cause stupid lashing out, a lack of tactics, falling into obvious traps/feints, overreaching/attacking too aggressively for the current situation, etc - elements that add up to an easy defeat for the angry party.
kat is offline  
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!
Reply With Quote
Old 07-25-2007, 02:23 PM   #9 (permalink)
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Moscow, Russia
Posts: 452
Ilya is on a distinguished road
Default

The original question was about the possibility of using anger in a very specific situations. I would, however suggest using the term aggression instead of anger. Anger is a derivative emotion it is a strong fear component in it which makes it weaker. Aggression or rage is the primary physiological state. It is one of the two basic responses to danger: Fight or Flee. If you find yourself physically threatened and you consider yourself stronger - aggression is your best friend. Otherwise, it is better to run away, however humiliating this can seem.

So the answer is yes, it is possible. Boxing or combat or street fight are the best situations to use aggression. Martial arts are too different to make generalizations.
The general rule is: the better you fighting skills, the less should be your reliance on aggression. A skilled martial artist would defeat several aggressive mobsters without loosing peace of mind. But such mastery requires practice.
__________________
Ilya.
Ilya is offline  
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!
Reply With Quote
Old 07-25-2007, 03:51 PM   #10 (permalink)
Banned
 
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Quebec, Canada
Posts: 3,811
Shamou is on a distinguished road
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by Ilya View Post
Aggression or rage is the primary physiological state. It is one of the two basic responses to danger: Fight or Flee. If you find yourself physically threatened and you consider yourself stronger - aggression is your best friend. Otherwise, it is better to run away, however humiliating this can seem.
Thank you for that clarification... I must admit that I had never seen or heard the word "aggression" to define an emotion... however, it does make a lot of sense...

.
Shamou is offline  
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!
Reply With Quote
Old 07-29-2007, 09:13 PM   #11 (permalink)
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Reno/Tahoe, NV, USA
Posts: 375
elainevdw is on a distinguished road
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by Tristan View Post
Hi elainevdw,

I agree with you that empowerment is better than anger on the whole, but that approach is somewhat clinical in nature and not foundational or realistic on the concepts of competitive combat.

I'm not entirely convinced that the "motivation or enthusiasm or positive thinking" applies in combat situations, whether for sport or real-life. Although, I lack any hard research to back it up, I'm inclined to say that it does not and here's why....

Say you are being attacked on the street. What frame of mind is most conducive towards surviving this confrontation, assuming that combat is the only means of survival in this situation? Will you repeat incantations such as,"I'm super motivated and enthusiastic to win!"? Or will getting extremely pissed off and developing a burning rage that's directed entirely at your opponent help you win a confrontation?

I think enjoyment of the activity is not part of the emotional equation as it applies to this situation because we are speaking of motivation here in essence. Enjoyment = pleasure and when we are in a state of pleasure, we are not motivated to change. But when we are placed in a situation that causes us pain, then we are very motivated to get out of that position of pain. I think applied anger gets us out of this pain.

But like Shamou said, anger must be controlled. In the example by Peleke4, Fernando Vargas....a fighter I am not afraid to say I heavily dislike because of his personality, was arrested numerous times for doing some real damage in street brawls that did not need to happen. I think for him, anger controlled him, not the other way around.
Hi Tristan,

Positive thinking and fluffy bunnies certainly won't help you in an attack situation!

Energy is the main reason "kiyahs" as so important in martial arts. It's really easy to do a gigantic shout when you're responding to an attack -- you don't have to be angry, but it serves the dual purpose of surprising/scaring your attacker and making your attack more powerful. If I were attacked, honestly, I wouldn't get angry until well after the fact. I'd either be scared for my life or -- more likely -- I'd be feeling nothing at all; I'd be in survival mode. I'd be working from instinct -- doing the easiest and most-practiced of my martial arts moves with some yelling thrown in, all because it was hammered into my head so much during practice.

However, a life-threatening situation is very different from a sports situation. Take martial arts again as an example -- martial artists at tournaments can get fierce, but they don't necessarily get angry. They can still pat each other on the back afterwards.

I also disagree with anger motivating us to better ourselves ("to change" you said). It's easy to use anger to reach new limits -- I got into running during one of the most difficult periods of my life. However, in that case, channeling anger towards myself, though I got really fit, also caused me to injure myself. Now that I'm not so emo and I don't have excess anger to use to better my running, I use friends as motivation to succeed... and that burning desire to see myself run farther than I ever have before.
__________________
~ Elaine.
elainevdw is offline  
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!
Reply With Quote
Old 07-30-2007, 12:52 PM   #12 (permalink)
Member
 
Join Date: Jun 2007
Location: Japan
Posts: 75
justfiverules is on a distinguished road
Default

Watching top track and field athletes in action seems like a controlled release of aggression. The explosive events (sprints & some field events) do that quickly, while the endurance events have to release the valve more slowly.

Rare to see angry t&f athletes in actual competition...though I have seen some angry shot putters in my time because they hadn't been aggressive enough on the day! Better to buy them a drink and commiserate :-)

So; anger, no.
Aggression; yes.

Isn't giving birth one of nature's more aggressive activities for many species?
Maybe some female readers can comment better...

Just my 10 yen
__________________
Regards,
Mark McClure

Taking Action.
justfiverules is offline  
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!
Reply With Quote
Reply

Bookmarks

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off


Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Controlling anger unique Emotional Mastery 9 07-17-2007 01:03 AM
what to do with anger cally9096 Emotional Mastery 15 06-18-2007 12:15 PM
Angry about Anger ZenFender Emotional Mastery 3 05-28-2007 09:13 PM
Channeling Anger dECLAN Emotional Mastery 6 12-20-2006 01:12 AM
Lots of Meditations shivraj Spirituality, Consciousness, & Awareness 7 12-07-2006 10:50 PM


All times are GMT. The time now is 08:32 PM.


Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.2
Copyright ©2000 - 2009, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Search Engine Optimization by vBSEO 3.1.0
Copyright © 2008 by Pavlina LLC