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Old 06-06-2007, 05:00 AM
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Default how do you laugh and smile?

no really, how???

what i mean is there are some people who have great laughs...and it kinda makes you drawn to them in a sense. the problem with me is that even if something is funny, i only smirk, and my laugh does not seem "real" . its just a simple "haha", and that's it. so how do you you laugh? is there any way i can practice? i need help with smiling too...it's because i seem timid, but i really want to be one of those people that smile all the time, and have an incredible laugh. HELP!

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Old 06-06-2007, 01:36 PM
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Genuine laughter and smiling is infectious, isn't it? Forcing yourself to laugh and smile will never get you to where you want to be, though. Instead, focus on feeling better about yourself and your life and the genuine smiles and laughter shall start arising naturally from deep within you. That which we admire in others represents underdeveloped things in ourselves. Invest your energy in becoming happier and the rest shall follow.

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Old 06-06-2007, 07:49 PM
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I agree with Alchemiss.

That laughter in people that draws you in to them is not actually what you need... it's the feeling of self-confidence and self-love behind the laughter. When you have such deep love for life, yourself, and everyone and everything, you radiate that loving energy in the form of magnetic smiles and laughter, and people want to get close to you to absorb some of that energy.
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Old 06-06-2007, 09:24 PM
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I'm one of those "laughing out loud" persons, so maybe I can give you an advice. I love watching comedy movies, or TV series, or reading funny articles. So I guess I'm kind of used to laugh, and even when I'm watching it, or reading by myself I laugh out loud. Maybe you need to practice it , and surround yourself with "funny" stuff.

Although , I admire people who don't laugh much, because I laugh all the time, and I'm afraid that might be annoying for someone. :-))
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Although , I admire people who don't laugh much, because I laugh all the time, and I'm afraid that might be annoying for someone. :-))
I'll let you spend 20 minutes with my mother-in-law and you'll know what annoying is...

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Old 06-07-2007, 01:13 AM
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I wonder if you're how I used to be. I had an underbite, and braces, so I used to hate my smile and the way I looked when I laughed. I tried to control my reactions, hiding my smile, without even realising that not only did other people not mind, but they actually liked my smile.

If you truly feel like laughing but you don't, then you're actively trying not to laugh. If you're at all like me then my advice is to relax and let it happen, release your control, and enjoy the experience without worrying about what other people think (because you're almost certainly mistaken).
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Old 06-07-2007, 04:10 AM
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I am so grateful for my disposition.
I'm told i smile in my sleep.
I'm sure it's just gas

i have had a life that most people would lament with despair.
I'm filled with so much joy.
i am so grateful to be a chosen one
to steward joy and kindness and understanding.

i don't know how it happened to me.
i'm the most laid back uptight woman you will ever meet DOH!! LOL!

maybe real joy is started with being thankful.
truely grateful.
i smile as i type to you.
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Old 06-07-2007, 04:20 AM
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I am so grateful for my disposition.
I'm told i smile in my sleep.
I'm sure it's just gas

i have had a life that most people would lament with despair.
I'm filled with so much joy.
i am so grateful to be a chosen one
to steward joy and kindness and understanding.

i don't know how it happened to me.
i'm the most laid back uptight woman you will ever meet DOH!! LOL!

maybe real joy is started with being thankful.
truely grateful.
i smile as i type to you.
For a "cussin" lady... that's purty darn, tootin' good...

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Old 06-07-2007, 04:42 AM
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ya, that's the dangest part!!!
i have so much light, yet a filthy mouth

I thought of this as i read my evening dedication.

try when you meet people to think
" i know something nice about you"
even ifn you don't know that person.
maybe it's thier snazzy shoes or swell hat or something.
look for what's right with people and the world/ your experiences.
pump it up a notch, even if you don't believe it your self.
it will become natural to your conscousness.
we become what we study

you subconcious doesn't have a sense of humor,
it cannot differenciate who's the nice person
with the great smile and the swell hat.

you might as well have someone telling you that!
and what better way to incite a
great genuine smile than
to hear, think and say all sorts of good stuff all day!

when you promote other people, you promote yourself.

look for what's right.
be thankful.
you'll find your smile.
I promise.
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Old 06-07-2007, 04:51 AM
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Iyanla Vanzant has a wonderful book called "UNTIL TODAY"
it's a daily devotion book.
she has somany different insightful ways to express gratitude.
and how to find more things to be thankful for,
being thankful won't slow you down, i promise.

so what? it took 30 seconds extra to encourage some one
and you're almost garanteed to always
get rockstar parking to comphensate you for your time.
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ya, that's the dangest part!!!
i have so much light, yet a filthy mouth

I thought of this as i read my evening dedication.
That is a beautiful dedication brandi... however, you should stop saying that "you have a filthy mouth..."

That simply reinforce a negative view about yourself...

Instead, try the following affirmation... "I am a lady... and I speak and act like one." It will do wonders for you...

And, thank you for being so nice...

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Old 06-07-2007, 04:52 AM
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Hi Lightthecandle,

Everyone's laugh is a different. My laugh isn't a boomer either but I still love to laugh. I think if you practiced a new laugh it wouldn't be authentic. But who knows.
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Old 06-07-2007, 05:01 AM
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That is a beautiful dedication brandi...


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Doh! no i didn't even get to concentrate on my dedication tonight.
it was about the importance of being peaceful over being right.

that other tid bit was just my .02 worth
as an assumptive compilation of thoughts and lessons.
life has been a very genorous teacher.
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I'll let you spend 20 minutes with my mother-in-law and you'll know what annoying is...

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How do you laugh? Read some of Shamou's posts. I regularly get a kick out of his sense of humor, this post included.

Part of laughing, though, is not taking life too seriously. To laugh about any particular topic, you have to be able to step back, remove your attachments to whatever's being poked fun at and let the humor in the situation guide your emotions for a brief time. Remember that just because something or someone is being made fun of, it doesn't necessarily mean the person doing it doesn't respect what he or she is poking fun at. It's usually the opposite. People rarely try to find humor in something they completely disrespect, dislike or even hate.

As an illustration, I'll tell you a joke that was related to me by my wife's great aunt:

Q: What does an old woman have between her breasts that a young woman doesn't?

A: Her belly button.

Now there are a thousand ways that someone could find that joke either not funny or even offensive. You could easily take the view that I'm disrespecting old ladies for no reason, but you could also step back and focus on the fact that this joke highlights something that happens to everyone in a funny way: the wrinkles and sags we all see as we age. Back that up with a ridiculous, exaggerated mental picture of a woman whose breasts have sagged so far they touch her waist and it becomes funny.

This brings me to another point: being able to visualize a joke helps tremendously when trying to see the humor. Humor is also spontaneous and if you overthink it, it disappears.

So my advice would be to step back, don't take things too seriously and don't think too hard. Just enjoy the moment and the laughter should come naturally.
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Well.. You may want to check out the following clips below. Using Laughter as a theraputic means is gaining steam as a movement. Not to mention just watching the second clip will bring out laughter in your own self..

Laughter as Therapy Clip:
YouTube - Laughter Yoga on Discovery Channel

A person who's put it into Practice:
YouTube - Laughing Yoga
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Keep smiling! Once you start practicing it, your sense of humor will automatically improve and the slightest humor will make you laugh.

OK, now if you find it difficult to smile too, then here's an exercise I absolutely love, being a serious person myself.

Just stand in front of the mirror and smile. Just watch and don't judge anything. Keep the expression for as long as you can and are comfortable with. Repeat it as many times as you can. You can also try raising your arms (like the laughing buddha). Raising arms can bring a natural smile without much effort. Try it and see the difference.

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Don't think...



Ps. Lately I've been solving A LOT of problems for myself with the simple advice 'don't think...' lol.
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That which we admire in others represents underdeveloped things in ourselves.
Good thought! I have saved it.


For me, I laugh most when I am not thinking of it, and I am just relaxed. Maybe try to listen to comedey shows to put you in the mood.


If you don't laugh at something as much as someone else, that is OK, that is you. You don't have taste in that. In other words, maybe to laugh more you need to find the kind of things that really make you laugh, as opposed to learn to laugh at things you don't find so funny.
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i’m poopin « Lolcats ‘n’ Funny Pictures - I Can Has Cheezburger?

Spend some time on i can has cheezburger every day and you'll learn how to laugh and smile. That site is my daily therapy, I love cats.
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Yes, I agree with you LighttheCandle I'm also drawn to people who laugh heartily and genuinely 'cos they feel good about themselves and life. I feel I can be with them and accepted just the way I am. That's the wonderful thing about laughter it includes everyone. Sometimes people use laughter to cover up their discomfort and that always feels phony. I love watching small children and babies. They are always smiling and laughing for just the joy of being alive and feeling happy. It's about finding what makes us happy and not taking ourselves too seriously along the way and creating a life filled with joy and fun.
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I don't laugh and smile anymore. There is nothing to laugh or smile about in my life any longer.
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I don't laugh and smile anymore. There is nothing to laugh or smile about in my life any longer.
I will hold in my heart the wish that you again find something in your life which will bring a smile to your face and laughter to your heart. I hope it will be sooner rather than later.
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I like to use laughter to go out of my mind. It's the best meditation. =)
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