How to cry?

[imagex]

I find that I am very hard to cry,can you give me some suggestions?

[RT Wolf]

Why do you have to cry?

[imagex]

I heared that it's very good for health.

[Akashic_Librarian]

Yeah I can't cry either. Even when a death occurs...not a thing. Not even a negative emotion!

[Shamou]

Originally Posted by imagex

I heared that it's very good for health.

I would not have believe it but here is what is said here...

"Science has proven that stress is terrible for the health of your brain, heart and other organs," says William Frey II, Ph.D., biochemist and tear expert of the Ramsey Medical Center in Minneapolis, Minnesota. "It isn't proven yet, but weeping has most likely served humans throughout our evolutionary history by reducing stress."

First you do this...


Then you're like this...

[Shamou]

Originally Posted by Akashic_Librarian

Yeah I can't cry either.

Try sitting on broken glass... it could help...

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[{aspiring_to_clarity}]

Though I find crying cathartic, if you aren't so inclined, maybe it's not something you need. I don't necessarily think it's a problem???

[RT Wolf]

Try a good belly laugh. also good for your health.

[Shamou]

Originally Posted by RT Wolf

Try a good belly laugh. also good for your health.

I'll vote for that...

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[Matthew Shea]

imagex, I'd suggest you don't worry about it. Crying is essentially a response to stimulus or stimuli that overwhelm your emotions. If you feel little or no need to cry, I'd suggest that your life is probably well balanced and that you have it together emotionally.

Personally, I hadn't cried in years until I lost my cat back in December. Then it all let loose. I probably cried more that day than anytime in the past two decades combined. I definitely felt a lot better afterward, but the only reason for the crying in the first place was the overwhelming emotional stimulus. If that hadn't happened, there would have been nothing to potentially impact my health in the first place.

[Kamma]

Like those before me I would say that being unable to cry is not anything to worry about. Everyone reacts differently and someone may weep in a situation that another may not. I agree that laughter can also help reduce stress.

[reflections]

Try watching some sad, emotional movies by yourself and when you feel like you might cry try to encourage the process a little, by faking it if necessary. Play with it and you may find yourself crying with 'dry' tears at first, then the river may just start.

Allowing yourself to cry can be very good for the heart if you haven't cried in a long time, you may feel a lot of tension being released from this area.

[Brendon Colby]

Yeah I haven't had a good cry in YEARS even through breakups, funerals and other severe emotional pain. I have yet to figure out why. I've teared up but have had little else. When my aunt was in hospice we went to see her a few days before she died. I had this overwhelming grief episode for about 30 seconds. It was like this deep well had exploded - it felt so good to get it out! So I don't know what's the deal with that, but I do think it would be nice to be able to express my pain a lot more effectively, including being able to cry!

[openeyes]

Originally Posted by imagex

I find that I am very hard to cry,can you give me some suggestions?

If something has happened that you feel you should be able to cry about try talking about the event with someone else in person. Often verbalizing something will bring out emotions more than simply thinking about it. I'd gone for years without crying until I came to college and started opening up. Suddenly things that I never would have told anyone about were coming out of my mouth, and tears came quite easily at that point. I find I can experience (didn't care to use the term "suffer") most anything so long as I don't talk about it, but upon putting it into words it must be dealt with. Still, there's no situation where it's absolutely wrong not to cry. Tears can simply be cleansing sometimes and that's why I allow them. Regular laughter as mentioned by others may be a much more worthwhile focus, and a good laugh can bring tears of its own. When I visit with my dad now we often switch between laughing and crying. The two seem to go together.

You might check out a post from a few months ago on laughing meditation:

laughing meditation

Also, rather than sad movies maybe try comedy.