It's time for you to fight back (my last topic)

[Midwinter Mist]

My fellow people, it really is time for you to fight back in a way in which you never have. All too often do we claim our fists are clenched and we're battling all that confronts us, when in reality we are often just surviving.

I could take a beating, endure it and tell you that I'm fighting back. Mentally, it is clearly a battle, but ultimately I am just surviving. It is not until I decide to punch back that I can say I'm finally fighting back, and if my punches do not end the battle, it's a clear sign that I must change my tactics. Sure, while I'm being beaten down, it's difficult to think clearly and to know what to do, but sometimes in life, that is our problem. THINKING. We think far too much. As Bruce Lee said, we must not think, but feel. We analyse too much and complicate simple things. Thinking is something we need to do, but there comes a point when we must draw a line.

My biggest fear is to become old and look back on my life with regret. Imagine yourself in the same position, at a time when your loved ones have perhaps passed on and you're in a place where it's too late to make certain changes. Imagine looking back in your life, knowing that you didn't even try, knowing that you let petty things eat away at your life for years without end.

Life isn't always pleasant, but knowing what we cannot change, let's change what we can in order to make a difference for ourselves and for others.

I want you to remember something important. The root of all suffering is attachment, and these attachments come in all forms. We often make life difficult for ourselves, though that's not to say that people don't contribute, because there are a lot of people out there who thrive in making our lives difficult. But we do make our own lives problematic. I can tell you that, for instance, certain relationships in my life have devastated me, but there were negative signs in the beginning of those relationships that I saw but chose to ignore. It was my decision to suffer. I shifted the power, giving it to those who were absolutely going to cause me harm. They're not good people, but I can only blame myself, learn, forgive myself and move on.

In 2012, it's time for you to fight back, even when you're losing. Expect to experience times of frustration, anxiety, sadness and so forth as that's only to be expected. It's normal. Don't fear it, just accept it and the fact that it can be passed. Time must continue to move, so when you fear something coming your way, take relief in the fact that time must pass and so what concerns you must also disappear behind you. If you wish, you can turn your back to it. You don't have to look back if you don't want to...

Don't also forget to reassure yourself always of your own values and worth. When you do something bad, admit it to yourself and those it has harmed, if anybody. Positive energy also has this way of bouncing around, so there are times when somebody will become more positive when you are positive, and the energy will bounce back and forth as you both build upon it. Whenever you have the chance, share some positive energy.

You have every right to live your lives and to the fullest. There are obstacles, but you can find your way forward. It's not easy, but it's possible if you're willing to fight back.

[plokoon]

Great post man! It is absolutely true, thinking is the true culprit.

[NDavid]

Thanks for the post man, it gave me a motivational boost to go out and keep fighting for my dreams. Goodbye and thank you to everyone on this forum who has contributed, I certainly have benefited from advice on here, as have many people. Goodbye, and good luck :-)

[sharshar89]

But sometimes I don't know if its the people I should leave or is it my haywired thoughts

[Midwinter Mist]

Originally Posted by sharshar89

But sometimes I don't know if its the people I should leave or is it my haywired thoughts

You will find your answer through trial and experience. What you could do is create a list of your options and things you can do that would test the various areas of your life and consider doing some of them. Perhaps there is trouble with both the people and your thoughts.

But time really does provide an answer as both good and bad things can develop and transform. It doesn't mean you should be afraid, but it's a fact that something will answer your questions over time. Things you do will decide whether or not it is sooner so that you can get on with your life, or later.

This is something I am now reminding myself. I can hunt for the answers and deal with my obstacles now and get on with the life I deserve, or I can wait a few years, ultimately wasting those few years and leave them with regret.

[FelineNostalgia]

I really love this thread, pity there's no point adding to your reputation

[gene2009]

Nice thread. Thank you and goodbye friends Best of the luck to all you.

[zephra]

"I want you to remember something important. The root of all suffering is attachment, and these attachments come in all forms."

This says it all. Z