Positive and negative emotions.

[Maguru]

I've been looking at the polarities of negative and positive for quite some time and I googled this article which just about sums up my experiences. I think it gives a slightly different perspective and maybe it can be of help to others.


Positive and Negative Emotions

Emotion is Energy-in-Motion. It is a way of expressing oneself in life. It is the quality of how one relates to life.
The emotions expressed by humans can be divided into two broad categories. We can regard them as polarized, as opposite of each other, or we could just say that there is a dividing line where one type of emotions change into the other type of emotions.

We can call the two types of emotions Negative and Positive. That is not so much as value judgment as it is a description of the main action of each group. Judging either as "good" or "bad" isn't very helpful.

Negative emotions express an attempt or intention to Exclude. Strengthening one's own position at the expense of others. Keeping bad stuff away, destroying what is perceived as a threat. Negative emotions are fueled by an underlying fear of the unknown, a fear of the actions of others, and a need to control them or stop them to avoid being harmed.

Positive emotions express an attempt or an intention to Include. Taking the whole into consideration. Working on learning more viewpoints, interacting more with others, enjoying making things better. Positive emotions are fueled by an underlying desire for enjoyment and unity.

Negative emotions are, for example: apathy, grief, fear, hatred, shame, blame, regret, resentment, anger, hostility.

Positive emotions are, for example: interest, enthusiasm, boredom, laughter, empathy, action, curiosity.

There is a range of different emotions in each category. We could say that some are more positive or negative than others. But it isn't necessarily practical to place them on a linear scale, since each one is a composite of various elements.

Some emotions camouflage as positive or negative, but really are the opposite of what they pretend. There is a type of pity which appears as genuine concern for others, but which is rather taking comfort in that somebody else is worse off than you. There is a covert hostility that masks as friendliness, which can often be difficult to assess at first. Likewise, some kinds of anger or tears might look negative, but might really be an expression of involvement and care for the whole. It is the underlying mechanism and motivation that counts, more than the superficial outward manifestation.

It might sound like the negative emotions are just something to get rid of. It is not that simple, however. They serve important functions. Basically they show that there is something one doesn't know and can't deal with. If that becomes motivation to then learn it and deal with it, that is very useful. If one is always joyful, one might miss noticing things that are wrong.

Positive and negative emotions are polarities. We can't get rid of one and just keep the other. Ultimately they need to be integrated.

Typically, negative emotion in a client will point us towards areas that need to be processed. They show that there is something there that the person isn't dealing with. We would make her deal with them and transform them into something more useful and enjoyable.

The negative emotions are useful as motivation for moving away from what one doesn't want. The positive emotions are useful as motivation for moving towards what one does want.

Trouble enters when parts of the system get stuck. Particularly when the functions get reversed and the person starts moving towards what she doesn't want. Therefore, stuck negative emotions are a prime target for processing.

People might express all sorts of combinations of these emotions. Some people will be fairly chronically stuck in a negative emotion, like grief for example. Others might be stuck in a positive one, like contentment, and won't be able to experience negative emotions, even when appropriate.

Others will in stressful situations react according to certain emotional patterns. Like, a person might have hidden grief or fear that gets triggered by certain circumstances. A casual remark might push a button that unleashes pent-up anger.

The aim in processing is to make people more fluid in terms of emotion. Able to use whatever emotion is most appropriate, and being able to use the full range as necessary. Most likely a person who is fluid and flexible will choose to live mostly in a positive frame of mind. But the goal is actually integration, moving beyond the positive/negative idea altogether.

[RonSouther]

I see emotions as being an expression of the state of mind in that moment to those around us. It's making the outside body match the inside mind.

We can't see each other's minds but we can see each other's emotions which tell on the mind.

[Angela]

I agree that "negative" is a misnomer for emotions: they all have a positive purpose. I use those labels "positive" and "negative" emotion for linguistic convention, but I'm letting it go more and more.

I think that thinking of "positive" emotions as ones that move you toward what you want and "negative" ones as away-from motivations is also a habitual convention of thought, outdated and outmoded.

The emotions people think of as being negative are very powerful towards-motivators: they are like brilliant, colorful flags that say, "Look here! There's something here to learn that will make a big difference!"

And while habitual convention of thought tends to have people thinking, well, I feel bad around this thing, that means I must remove it or get away from it or kill it, again I think that although that has served a positive purpose in protecting us, it's outdated and unsophisticated in the face of inauthentic threat. We have far more sophisticated resources for transforming what occurs as making us angry, sad, afraid, hurt, ashamed, or guilty so that freezing, fighting and fleeing are no longer our only options. We have all the resources we need to move from a constant emergency state to a state of Mastery.

And those "negative" emotions can support us in that.

[Focus Driblet]

I sometimes think that negative emotions are a means to an end, while positive emotions are a means to an end, and an end in itself.

[Maguru]

I'm more inclined to view negative and positive as working consecutively. Without this, no that.

[BillyTheAdult]

There is only one emotion with different labels on it. There is sensation in the body and then the mind calls it something.

[Maguru]

Originally Posted by BillyTheAdult

There is only one emotion with different labels on it. There is sensation in the body and then the mind calls it something.

Hmmm some sensations make us cry and some make us laugh. It doesn't matter what label we give. It's the spontaneous action connected to the 'sensation' through which we experience life.

[Maguru]

My last penny's worth.

Who Told The Shadow Self It Could Be In Control?

How did get in control...?

The biggest obstacle in life is ourselves. We would rather live in denial wearing our rose colored glasses than take the action to get out of the way! I wonder what it is within us that is so afraid to honestly look at ourselves? Why do we settle for less? We think it is normal and acceptable to watch gruesome horror movies, fixate on gossip, and be addicted to sensationalize news! But honestly looking and acknowledging our true authentic self paralyzes us. Its easier to blame than be responsible. The possibility to really have it all is downright terrifying! What is the root of this malaise?

The shadow self is what sabotages our relationships, jobs, it denies our spirit, keeps us from realizing our destiny and dreams. It is what we sweep under the rug. It gets buried and repressed into our deep unconscious self. The shadow is what we don't want to be. It seems so horrible and grotesque feeding into our greatest fear that someone might discover our dark shameful secret --- further repressing it. Hiding what's inside gives it power, because we don't have the power to chose --- we just react. It is the voice that says we are unloved, undeserving, unworthy, keeping us from what we want or desire. It shows itself through our projection of judgements on others. What we don't own about ourselves we project onto other people. It is the only way to get our attention. terrified of discover the ego disowns it and uses the tool of judgement to protect itself --- but only prevents self realization. When you don't own an aspect of your life --- it runs your life.

Imagine that your body has electrical outlets all through it. Each outlet represents a different quality. The qualities we acknowledge and embrace have childproof covers over them. They are safe because there is no way to plug into them. But the qualities we don't own have an electrical charge. So when someone comes along with the qualities of that outlet --- they just plug right on into us. The jolt in voltage is a signal to arm for confrontation. So what we deny, resent, reject, or project ---we magnetize right to us. We are pathological liars when it comes to looking at our internal feelings. Since we can't find the offending quality within then the only way we can see that qualities is in others. So if you feel uncomfortable to express your anger, you are going to attract a whole lot of angry people in your life, to do it for you!

Other people mirror back our hidden emotions and feelings. Owning to manifest your full potential you have to claim the parts of yourself that you denied, hidden or given away to others to act out for you. If you keep attracting people with similar qualities or traits in your life it is to show you what aspects you are disowning in yourself. This gives us an opportunity to recognize them and reclaim them.

The pain of our perceived flaws compels us to cover them up. We often over compensate by being the opposite. What we don't want to face often is the drive and motivation to do something different. When we see someone doing something we don't like we get angry at them, and judge them as bad. But if we really looked and thought about it --- we might discover that we would have the same reaction. Discovering this compassionate empathy for the person releases our judgement. We understand how the negative trait served to be a positive gift.

Each part you don't like has a gift to give you and is appropriate in certain situations. When we embrace a quality within ourselves then people with the same quality can no longer plug into us. This frees them to experience you, and you are free to experience them. To truly love self you must get your negative emotions out. If we own hate and evil in ourselves we wouldn't need to project it onto another person. Compassion heals and reveals our true essence to evolve Spirit In Action!

"Instead of holding on to resentments learn from them. Turn wounds into wisdom. See how the wounds have benefited you. Where they lead you. Who is in your life now if you didn't have that experience. How does holding onto the wounds keep you from filling your dreams?"

Make a list to expose your hidden aspects:

Here are a few suggestions to get you started.

1. What are you most afraid of?
2. What are you afraid someone else might see or find out about you?
3. What are you afraid of finding out about yourself?
4. People you dislike and what they do that gets you angry?
5. People you admire and the qualities they inspire in you to emulate?

I've personally uncovered many aspects of my shadow self through my interactions on this forum. I shall miss it. I wish everyone the best. With love, Paula

[evolutionarypathways]

Originally Posted by BillyTheAdult

There is only one emotion with different labels on it. There is sensation in the body and then the mind calls it something.

I see it in a somewhat similar way, although I wouldn't say that there is only one emotion. To me energy is the very root of emotion. As energy flows through the filter that is our mind, we get to experience different emotions.

This is how laughter can turn into crying and crying can turn into laughter and then back into sadness, grief etc. As energy surges through our mind, and our mind shifts, so does the expression of our energy.

I don't believe that emotions exist as 'entities' just sitting inside us. It is the energy that is always there, and this energy has the potential to become anything...to express itself as any emotion.