Overwhelm

[straysweeper]

What are some solutions to do with emotional overwhelm?

[billionairekid]

Can you be more specific so we can suggest solutions that are relevant to your particular situation?

[straysweeper]

Well, I feel like my problems are too much for me. Creating failure, shame, escapism. It eventually leads to what I've heard called emotional death. Where I stop trying and stop wanting.

Its very frustrating.

[RonSouther]

What you're experiencing is typical of nearly everyone....it's just a matter of degree.

This is what life is like when lived through ideas and not experiences.

What about beliefs? Profound-Self-Help.com

[straysweeper]

Originally Posted by RonSouther

What you're experiencing is typical of nearly everyone....it's just a matter of degree.

This is what life is like when lived through ideas and not experiences.

What about beliefs? Profound-Self-Help.com

Interesting way of putting it. Now stop giving me new ideas damn you!!! j/k

I tend to wax and wane and I think it does depend on my experiences. When I'm around people and just be, I tend to do much better.

[RonSouther]

Originally Posted by straysweeper

Interesting way of putting it. Now stop giving me new ideas damn you!!! j/k

I tend to wax and wane and I think it does depend on my experiences. When I'm around people and just be, I tend to do much better.

Excellent observation! Truly!!

That IS the learning process. You don't know it all and no one does. What we don't know that we want to know, we guess about. Those are our logical ideas.

The next thing to do is test those ideas and watch for the results then learn where we came up short and where we SEEMED to get it right, then come up with the next new idea to fill in the smaller remaining gap in our understanding.

This is the "steep learning curve" of trying anything new. As newbies, we know the least and guess the most and we make the most mistakes and we feel the most anxiety. But look how quickly we learn!

Then once through the steep learning curve, look how relaxed we are! That is true for knowing self. When you don't know self, the gap between what you know and don't know is huge, so you guess the most and guess wrong the most....that's really confusing, to be alive and know so little and fail so much. And on top of that society and religions live through ideas and not through experiences so these ideas are repeated to us as little kids and we take them on as mental habits, essentially burning that confusion into our "skin" like a tattoo.

To break out of this habitual thought is hard because the thoughts feel real and we don't see that our failures stem from trying to live these beliefs over and over again, failing over and over again, yet the beliefs feel true. So instead we blame others because that's all we got left to guess about why our lives aren't working.

This is the disease of society, ingrained mental confusion as a lifestyle. It's a hard road out of hitting a rock bottom of failure as these belief systems collapse and we know longer trust our own ideas, our own logic anymore.

And there's comfort in the crowd. I you don't know which way to turn and if you get too scared to live, then the crowd is comfort because it feels like everything is ok.

I've lived this and watched this process. It's a bear but is the way. It's a MASSIVE mistake to make an idea a habit, a dogma a habit, and the consequences are massive too!

[straysweeper]

"There is comfort in the crowd."

I went to UPW in LA as a refresher, and I had intended to be more social than I was. I see myself as not being so. I am more introverted by nature but I do get fuel from talking with others about things that we share and mutually value. My mom had gone as was more an observer in the back, and I felt more obligated to stay with her than to Stretch myself.

This overwhelm right now i feel is a byproduct of being in a situation where I feel I have to do something I'm not entirely sure I want to do. IE Going back into a job to get a paycheck where I feel and know in my gut that I'm worth more and capable of doing so much more. Yet one has to live do they not? But its this compulsion or uncertainty, especially where my muscles are weak (both emotional and physically).

However I'm judging these experiences as being not me. I am not a hustler or a cold caller, I want to help and service people that come to me or I them rather than trying to force it to work in something that didn't in the past. Also, have strong need for a good why behind what I'm doing.

(I feel like I'm saying this over and over again and doing so is tripping me up somehow but can't place how).

Anyway the overwhelm is from these problems, and being in a good potential for growth where I am, yet not able to do just 'anything' to get there. Analogy is, you know you need X to get where you want to be, but you can only find a less than half. Do you work for the half and deal with less or find a way to work for the X or better?

I am also starting to feel like I'm getting backed into a corner where I'll have to retreat back to oklahoma because I've 'failed' again.

[RonSouther]

Originally Posted by straysweeper

"There is comfort in the crowd."

I went to UPW in LA as a refresher, and I had intended to be more social than I was. I see myself as not being so. I am more introverted by nature but I do get fuel from talking with others about things that we share and mutually value. My mom had gone as was more an observer in the back, and I felt more obligated to stay with her than to Stretch myself.

This overwhelm right now i feel is a byproduct of being in a situation where I feel I have to do something I'm not entirely sure I want to do. IE Going back into a job to get a paycheck where I feel and know in my gut that I'm worth more and capable of doing so much more. Yet one has to live do they not? But its this compulsion or uncertainty, especially where my muscles are weak (both emotional and physically).

However I'm judging these experiences as being not me. I am not a hustler or a cold caller, I want to help and service people that come to me or I them rather than trying to force it to work in something that didn't in the past.

Totally speaking for me here....I hear you loud and clear...I'm the exact same way....

Also, have strong need for a good why behind what I'm doing.

Anyway the overwhelm is from these problems, and being in a good potential for growth where I am, yet not able to do just 'anything' to get there.

First job in life is survival and for that we all are naturally and necessarily selfish. Your paycheck equals your food and shelter. That's a bigger need than ethics.

I am also starting to feel like I'm getting backed into a corner where I'll have to retreat back to oklahoma because I've 'failed' again.

Keep failing and keep watching so you can keep learning. This is the learning process. It sucks but it's how life works.