define "feeling good" for me

[learningtogrow]

I've heard from many lately, including in the book "Law of Attraction", that your higher self guides you through your emotions. If something feels "good" then you're in alignment and that makes sense to me. Some things are a no brainer when it comes to feeling good (i.e. my hobbies etc....). Some other stuff that I need to make decisions on seem to be a little tougher lately.

Say I look at a situation that I've been pondering, say becoming a real estate investor, or quit my job, or whatever, and there are essentially 2 solutions. Either do it or don't.

The feelings I have when I think about doing it seem good (like it would be smart), although, I have to say there is a lot of conditioned fear attached to it based on my beliefs about failure I suppose. My question is, is that still "feeling good" or is that a sign of feeling bad? Fear to me at the moment feels like a big physical knot in my stomach literally.

If I look at the emotions behind not doing it, I don't feel the knot in my stomach, but it almost seems like the easy way out. I start to think, perhaps the physical discomfort just means there's something else out there for me to do that would make me more comfortable with out any fears (i.e. no discomfort phsyically).

I think that all the wavering about decisions just makes things so much bigger than they need to be. However, up til now, that's been my conditioning. Question EVERYTHING ad nauseum. I'm working on trying to look at a situation that needs a decision, realizing what feels good, what I truly want, and proceeding without looking back. I suppose that this current glitch about the true meaning of feeling good would help me.

Does anyone have any insight into what "feeling good" is all about?

[Akashic_Librarian]

When you smile for no reason

[Dusty]

It is not possible to define "feeling good" in it's complete essence. That's like describing how an orange tastes - I could tell you about it, but you would never KNOW it. You want to put something that is formless (love) into a box that can be stored away into the mind - not gonna happen. You need to feel it... to experience it.

I'll describe it instead - no worries, no anxieties, no regrets.

[Shamou]

Hello learningtogrow…

I think that what is needed here is a little clarity… you mix a few different subject together and try to get an overall solution… no wonder you are confused…

The two main components of your question are: 1) about taking a decision and 2) the definition of feeling good…

First, you find it hard to take a decision… that’s natural. It is always difficult to step out of the comfort zone and to step in the unknown… on the other hand… if you remain in the comfort zone… there will always be that gnawing feeling of “What if I had done it…???”

What I would suggest in your case is finding a way of making a gradual transition from the position that you are now into the one you aspire… That way… if you do not find satisfaction in what you are entering in… you can always go back…

Second… the definition of “Feeling good.” It is a state where you a quite content to live in the moment without desire for anything else but are satisfied with what you have (and feel) and also where there is no disturbing fear for the future…

Hope this helps…

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[InJoy]

A good book (IMO) on the subject is "Excuse Me, Your Life is Waiting" by Lynn Grabhorn. She talks a lot about feeling good, what it's like, and several ways to "get there".

[learningtogrow]

Thank you Shamou for pointing out the difference to me. I think it is also clearer to me in that sense b/c of course I know what feeling good is and happy and content. I think my question might be more about how to make decisions based on feeling good.

I read a post by Steve about decision making and essentially the gist that I'm getting is just to make a decision no matter what it is, and just be happy about it. Don't constantly question it. It doesn't really matter what the decision is. Learn to be comfortable and see the positive in any situation.

Does that make sense?

[Shamou]

Originally Posted by learningtogrow

Thank you Shamou for pointing out the difference to me. I think it is also clearer to me in that sense b/c of course I know what feeling good is and happy and content. I think my question might be more about how to make decisions based on feeling good.

I read a post by Steve about decision making and essentially the gist that I'm getting is just to make a decision no matter what it is, and just be happy about it. Don't constantly question it. It doesn't really matter what the decision is. Learn to be comfortable and see the positive in any situation.

Does that make sense?

First and foremost, I don’t see how you can make a decision based on “feeling good.” To me, it would simply be an element that would complicate matters and cloud the judgment…

Now, if I had to make an extremely important decision I would seek counsel from some nice retired lawyer, judge or CPA (chartered public accountant.)

These people spent their lives weighing the pros and cons of arguments… they have the knack of seeing the essential of a proposition and evaluating what the essential elements are…

Now, you may be a little surprised with this approach… but, I have used it… and it worked wonders for me…

And, if you wonder how to do it… well, just grab the phone and call one of those guys… you will be amazed as to how receptive (and flattered) they will be… and how enlightened the response will be…

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[Uplift]

Quote from Shamou:
'First and foremost, I don’t see how you can make a decision based on “feeling good.” To me, it would simply be an element that would complicate matters and cloud the judgment…

Now, if I had to make an extremely important decision I would seek counsel from some nice retired lawyer, judge or CPA (chartered public accountant.)

These people spent their lives weighing the pros and cons of arguments… they have the knack of seeing the essential of a proposition and evaluating what the essential elements are…

Now, you may be a little surprised with this approach… but, I have used it… and it worked wonders for me…

And, if you wonder how to do it… well, just grab the phone and call one of those guys… you will be amazed as to how receptive (and flattered) they will be… and how enlightened the response will be…'

Sound, good advice, but then, on the other hand, there's Richard Branson. Amazing, inspiring book. I guess we are all different, and have to learn to recognise and have faith in what feels good.