I am scared of turning 30!

[FORk]

cannot stop thinking that in 5 years I'll be 30 years old. Because it was like yesterday when I turned 20 years AND FELT SO YOUNG but now I am 25 years and feel so old and cannot stop thinking that another 5 years will fly just as the last FIVE years and I l be 30 and my life will be over!
I am serious!

[IvyW]

be proud to age

[Bonadea]

YOU SHOULD BE! LOL

Not to scare you, but after 28, it went really fast for us. That's when we started trying for a family though, so that might have made it go faster.

[Perry M]

Lots of people are unhealthy, don't take care of themselves, and abuse their bodies and then blame it all on age. On top of that they develop a cynical view on life and towards other people, don't grow very much in their thinking, become rigid, and long for the past which they probably were not all that happy in anyway. Then they blame it on age. Really I think it's more an emotional mental state.

[Bonadea]

For me, it's that it's going by so fast. When you're in your 20's it feels like you're whole life is ahead of you.

I was fine until I moved to our current home which is our forever type of home.

However (just remembered this)... I often wonder if it had to do with the former owners. She left a ton of negative energy here.

I'm at the age (actually older now) when I remember my parents so vividly. It's weird getting to this place for me.

I think I'll be fine once I hit 40 though, that's young in the next age range.

[alexb5784]

When I turned 30, I was actually quite happy. I was doing work I loved, had fallen in love with a wonderful person (it didn't work out), and was pursuing my dreams. Prior to that I was very unhappy in my late 20's, mainly because I wasn't doing work aligned with my life purpose.

Maybe you're afraid to turn 30 because you still haven't "found yourself". To be honest, the best way to find yourself is to face your fears and go after what you want. It's not always easy but it's worth it.

I'm so glad now that at 31, I'm stepping out into the world on a daily basis despite fear, and embracing my true calling. I've made a lot of mistakes but I've never given up.

So enjoy age 25, focus on creating happiness now in the present moment, and live your life.

Good Luck

[OptimistPrime]

Originally Posted by FORk

cannot stop thinking that in 5 years I'll be 30 years old. Because it was like yesterday when I turned 20 years AND FELT SO YOUNG but now I am 25 years and feel so old and cannot stop thinking that another 5 years will fly just as the last FIVE years and I l be 30 and my life will be over!
I am serious!

If it makes you feel any better, I felt the same way after I turned 25, but soon got over it.

[Acting Like Godot]

Originally Posted by FORk

Because it was like yesterday when I turned 20 years AND FELT SO YOUNG but now I am 25 years and feel so old

Funny. I am almost 40 and I still feel quite young.

[nothuman]

Originally Posted by FORk

cannot stop thinking that in 5 years I'll be 30 years old. Because it was like yesterday when I turned 20 years AND FELT SO YOUNG but now I am 25 years and feel so old and cannot stop thinking that another 5 years will fly just as the last FIVE years and I l be 30 and my life will be over!
I am serious!

hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha ........oh man get ready to be surprised

[nothuman]

I am amazed how the mass media has effectively worked to make us feel inadequate as we age. Even the fact you have 40 or 50 year olds saying ' I still feel young' is hardly embracing that stage of their life but comparing it to a more youthful time.
Media of course has done this to sell product. But gradually over time we have become horrified and in effect of the natural cycle of life. We get botox. facelifts. boob jobs...and thats just the guys.
You have the right to feel good about whatever age you find yourself to be don't buy into the fear. "" pushes soapbox away ""

[elucidate]

Yeah, it's weird to me that soap operas implant the idea in young peoples minds that they need to dress and act older than they are, and then when they are that age, they get afraid of being old and do whatever they can to make themselves young again..

Try and think about it from the perspective of an 80 year old.

To them you are a spring chicken.

To them, a 60 year old is a spring chicken.

Perspective is everything.

I'm 37 now, and honestly, it's just another year. I have not been hung up on age since I realized these things, which was around 21. If you are young at heart then you will never really be old. You're physical body will age, that's a fact...but it doesn't mean you will somehow become less of a person for it.

As much as I hate to admit it, sometimes I do feel old. I have less energy than I used to and I am keenly aware of my age right now and my mortality. At 30 you are still quite young believe me. Most of the time I feel pretty good and I look quite youthful from having eaten so well and not smoking or drinking over the last 10 years, except now and then.

What is young and old these days is much different to what was considered young and old about 15 years ago. I agree with nothuman...don't let the mass media brainwash you into feeling less than you are at 30 for goodness sake. You are young to an 80 year old...just remember that.

[Moriarty]

Originally Posted by nothuman

I am amazed how the mass media has effectively worked to make us feel inadequate as we age. Even the fact you have 40 or 50 year olds saying ' I still feel young' is hardly embracing that stage of their life but comparing it to a more youthful time.
Media of course has done this to sell product. But gradually over time we have become horrified and in effect of the natural cycle of life. We get botox. facelifts. boob jobs...and thats just the guys.
You have the right to feel good about whatever age you find yourself to be don't buy into the fear. "" pushes soapbox away ""

Yeah you tell 'em nh! *pushes soapbox back towards him*

[Acting Like Godot]

I'm 38 but I should add that I am very youthful in my appearance. So is my wife (who is 37). We can easily be mistaken for people 10 years younger. It has led to many humorous situations in our lives.

Most recently, I went to a university to speak at an event. After that, I took a taxi home. The driver chatted with me and asked me what course I was doing. He thought I was an undergrad student.

Sometimes I talk to my 9-year-old son more like I'm his big brother, instead of his father.

[BillyTheAdult]

You should be. Not many people know this but you actually die.

In all seriousness, I'll be turning 31 in a couple of weeks and I feel better now (despite having some problems) than just about any other time of my life along with when I was around 17-22.

[James81]

25 years old was how old I was when I got a divorce, went bankrupt, had no life, no friends, and was working two jobs that sucked complete ass crack, working in a career I hated during the day and a job to pay the bills at night. It was also the age that I decided I was going to fix all that by the time I was 30.

I just turned 30 about a month ago now, and I just realized that I had accomplished everything I set out to do when I was 25. And I feel younger today than I did back then.

Your age is really what you make of it. Have you ever listened to people? They start with this "I'm old" crap in their early 20's, and then they spend years telling themselves that they are getting old. And you know what's crazy? The more you tell yourself that, the more you limit yourself to getting old. Over the summer I hurt my back, and I found myself chalking it up to "getting old" (because all I did was bend over to pick up a baseball and threw my back out). I remember that after my back had started feeling better, though, I played baseball with my son very differently, convincing myself that I was too old to play "like I used to."

And right in the middle of it, I stopped and realized how freaking absurd I was being. I didn't hurt my back because I was getting old. I hurt my back due to whatever lifestyle choices I had made that had put my back in that position to be hurt. But I had told myself it was because I was getting old, and, thus, I started playing baseball like an older man.

Then I thought about all the bodybuilders and healthy men who are ridiculously old, but still could outdo many younger people with physical activity all because they take care of their bodies, stay active, and live a healthy, full, rich life. It was then that I decided that I wanted to be that old man who could do that, and to stop telling myself that I'm getting old.

The Grand Canyon is old. I'm not.

[noswal]

i just turned 30 so this has been on my mind a lot of course. i think the best thing is to turn the energy of anxiety into energy towards something good. writing it out is great! i started a blog and i'm asking successful people what's changed for them since 30, and usually the answer is a lot: wheniwas30

hang in there!

[ButterflyWoman]

Thirty is just a number. Really. It's not worth getting angsty and overwrought over. You're giving it far more power over you than it ought to have.

FWIW, when I was 25 I had two kids, a mortgage, a rapidly disintegrating marriage, and I was severely depressed (postnatal depression that just snowballed).

At 26 I started university. By the age of 34, I had undergone a complete personal transformation, changed my name, moved to another country, and started a totally new life.

Now I'm 47, working on a degree (in a different discipline), and generally having a happy life.

It's all just numbers. Really.

[MariconesUnited]

Such a heartwarming thread

I guess this is where I go into my life story huh? Very well...When I turned 30 I was mostly disappointed with myself and my life. I had just lost my boyfriend, my job, my apartment and my business proposal got rejected. Tough time for me. I used that frustration to turn my life around and focus on my self growth. Now, with a little hindsight, to me all those disappointments feel like life telling me I wasn't aligned with my life purpose.

Working in a field with a lot of young people atually really makes me appreciate my self confidence, maturity and perspective that comes with age. Looking forward to more of all of that as I grow older as well.

[votoshka]

I remember soon after I turned 18 having this dream that I turned 19. I woke up thinking "PHEW Thank God I'm not 19 yet, that's so OLD!".

Yeah, lol. I'm now 38 so another 19 years have passed since I DID hit 19, and those 19 years went by waaaay faster than the first 19.

So yeah, it can be freaky when you realise you're half way through your 20s, and you're probably not where you thought you'd be at 25... and thereis this perception among the young that 30 is "OLD" (and yes, I remember thinking 30 was old too ).

But it's really all irrelevant. Age really is JUST a number. If you look after yourself, eat well, get exercise, you'll be fit and youthful when you're 30 (and older). I see people in their 60s and beyond who would leave many 20 year olds for dead, fitness wise.

It's true to say I sometimes look back and wonder "where did the time GO?" It doesn't seem like that long ago I was just a kid and couldn't wait to be grown up.

My advice would be to make the most of the time you've got. Make the most of every day. Don't dwell on what will come in time (and really, isn't it better to turn 30 than it is to never get the chance??)

Aging is something that happens to everyone who survives it! All those people who were 20 along with you... what are they now? They're 25, and in another 5 years, they'll all be 30 too. It's something we all do and all must deal with. Your life isn't over once you're 30. In fact, 30 is still pretty young! It doesn't seem like it when you're in your 20s, but compared to 40, or 50, or 75 or whatever, it IS young. It's not even half your life!

Just don't waste the time you've got, and you'll have no reason to feel sad or regret when you do leave your 20s behind.

[MariconesUnited]

In the gay world they say you're dead when you turn 30. I couldn't agree more. Rebirth is wonderful

[taylor]

I've felt like I was getting old ever since I hit middle school and every single life stage after that. Once you're done with a stage, you're done. No going back.

Life is so short.

Crazy.

Damn.

These are my profound words of wisdom.

[Harmonium]

Heh I'm 20 and I feel like I've wasted a great deal of time sometimes already :P

@elucidate I'm surprised you are 37, you come across as younger to me, not in a bad way, but you seem more relatable than I'd expect.

[ButterflyWoman]

When I was young, there was always this big deal made about The Year Two Thousand. It was the representation of The Future. We were all supposed to have flying cars and whatnot (but nobody anticipated the internet or mobile phones, go figure), and it was just this big symbolic thing.

I remember when I was about five, thinking that The Year Two Thousand was a long way away, and that I'd be very old (36!) when it happened. It turns out I was wrong on both counts.

[NoJobRob]

I just turned 30 in October and it's not a big deal. And in all honesty, I feel younger now than I did a few years ago. I'm still pretty cynical though, but I'm working on that. LOL

[Angelique]

What does 30 look like for you?

[brendannz]

Well if it makes you feel better. In the next 5 years there's going to be some much scarier prospects than actually turning 30

[abcbac]

We are all scared of growing older. But life doesn't end after 30 or even 40. I see people in the 70s enjoying life more than me . You only live once so make the best o11 Famous People Who Were in the Completely Wrong Career at Age 30 - 11Points.comut of it. If it makes you feel better read this article:

[lyricslair]

Originally Posted by FORk

cannot stop thinking that in 5 years I'll be 30 years old. Because it was like yesterday when I turned 20 years AND FELT SO YOUNG but now I am 25 years and feel so old and cannot stop thinking that another 5 years will fly just as the last FIVE years and I l be 30 and my life will be over!
I am serious!

LOL Your life will be over? Hardly... I understand how you feel... Although it's not so bad getting older, hopefully you are wiser as well. To be honest... in your 20's you know nothing... if you knew anything you would know that you know nothing... But you don't even know that... This tidbit of information you learn in your 30's.. it's in your 30's that you realize that you know nothing... then you start to learn. At 43... Im beginning to get it... lol. But really... you are as old as you feel. I was afraid to turn 40... I mean really. Funny... when I tell people my age they don't believe me and honestly I don't look nor act my age... why should you? Age is just a number...

[CFSD McFisticuffs]

This is what I did at midnight on my 27th birthday (I was on my own with a bottle of beer).

I had had the same feeling about time passing too quickly and that I hadn't been enjoying it to the fullest. So I tried to remember what I did on my previous 8 birthdays, and draw a snapshot of each day on my notepad.

I moved out overseas to study when I was 19, so there actually was a lot of story for me to recall. Doing this actually helped me realise what a life I'm living and how lucky I am to have experienced it all. It also helped me find out what it is I want to achieve and what I shall do in the next year or two.

So yeah, it really made me feel better and ready to face the future. Either that, or the beer

[True Believer]

Wow - you're 25 and you're scared of turning 30????

That's the first thing you're doing wrong, you're thinking too much of the future and not concentrating on the now! Why waste your time with something that hasn't happened and that you can't change?

I am now 30, turned it in July and I can honestly say I don't feel it (what am I supposed to feel exactly?), I don't look it (I still get asked for ID) and I still act the same.

So don't be scared, live in the now and when 30 comes if you're living your life right it really won't matter!