|11-04-2011, 06:34 AM||#1 (permalink)|
Join Date: Feb 2010
I sense a lot of my problems are me sheilding myself from grief, I don't know how to handle it so I make ways of living that distract me from it. Why is the world so unfair, why must every beautiful thing that ever existed be destroyed? Why is there so much suffering?
I can't answer these questions, and without a complete loss of ego, I can't let go to my relationships with others. What to do... I'm really bad at saying goodbye, not strictly because I will miss them, which I will, but its the sadness with how the world works...
|11-04-2011, 09:02 AM||#2 (permalink)|
Join Date: Nov 2011
funny i should stumble upon this...was only contemplating a similar thing last night. I came to the realisation that I'm a better person for all the sadness endured.
|11-04-2011, 12:16 PM||#3 (permalink)|
Join Date: Nov 2011
Location: Nr London UK
There is suffering because we make it so. There is beauty because we make it so. There is our life that we can have a choice over if we make it so.
I have found in my travels that sheild from grief is useful for some people to have though there comes a time when the shield begins to get in the way of all the many other things you could experience in life too that balances it out.
If the shields intention is to protect, then the sheild must also learn to not protect you from the happiness that can also be found.
Discovering how you teach your sheild to only be there long enough for the grief to go while allowing the sheild to have the flexibility or transparancy that can allow other things in, in life, is also a useful gift to have.
Connect with that part of you gently and with love and care - let it see and experience that it does not have to be there always, only when it is time.
Sometimes too, our sadness or pain is a way of trying to make sense of the world, but this doesn't have to be the only way.
|11-04-2011, 12:44 PM||#4 (permalink)|
Join Date: Oct 2011
Let the ego collapse...it needs to or you won't be open minded to outside help. The master of the ego is a guy named Osho. Click here to access his free library of 225 books on the ego and search "ego" and see if it rings true. Totally free. Search the Osho Online Library
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