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Andrew Brunelle · 10-16-2011, 02:26 AM

I just thought I'd share a story that happened a couple of days ago. A 23 year old coworker and friend died of a drug overdose. I swear I didn't know how deep he was into drugs, and if I would have known, I would have done everything I could to get him some help. He had just started maybe 4 or 5 months ago, fresh out of the Marines, and also had another job working at a nightclub, where most of his friends always were, and he was totally mixed with the wrong crowd, but I had no idea he was doing like at least 10 different drugs at the same time, and then last week, he didn't show up one night and his explanation was he slept through a whole shift, but the truth was he was so high that when we woke up 4 hours after the shift he missed started, he was so out of it that he never even thought to call. The next week, he missed two nights in a row, and the next day it was revealed that we was dead. One of my coworkers knew about his drug addiction, but never came forward about it, and I had my suspicions, but I had no idea he was doing things like heroin and other hardcore drugs.

I am in shock and awe about this and truly, deeply saddened by someone who I really enjoyed spending time at work with is now gone, although we still have quite a few great memories. It's just going to take some time to get over. He had depression and other issues that he masked through drugs, so I never saw any cries for help. I wish I had, and that way I could have gotten him some help before it was too late. It just put a jolt down my spine when I found out and although it has hit me pretty hard, I can still be myself, and I'm not overcome with grief, but I am saddened that he was in so much pain and he never let the people who cared about him know about it.

I guess this is a good cautionary tale for those of you who know someone who is into drugs heavily and isn't reaching out for help...sometimes rock bottom is death, and we don't need to lose anymore people to drug addiction. So, take what you will from this story.

elucidate · 10-16-2011, 02:42 AM

The thing it Andrew, you can't make them get help. If they aren't asking for your help then it's pointless to try and help them.

I'm truly sorry to hear about your co worker though. That's pretty rough. It happens a lot though, and no one ever sees it coming.

Hopefully you can come to terms with this and move past the shock soon.

10-16-2011, 02:26 AM	#1 (permalink)
Andrew Brunelle Family Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Home Posts: 2,578	Death of a Coworker I just thought I'd share a story that happened a couple of days ago. A 23 year old coworker and friend died of a drug overdose. I swear I didn't know how deep he was into drugs, and if I would have known, I would have done everything I could to get him some help. He had just started maybe 4 or 5 months ago, fresh out of the Marines, and also had another job working at a nightclub, where most of his friends always were, and he was totally mixed with the wrong crowd, but I had no idea he was doing like at least 10 different drugs at the same time, and then last week, he didn't show up one night and his explanation was he slept through a whole shift, but the truth was he was so high that when we woke up 4 hours after the shift he missed started, he was so out of it that he never even thought to call. The next week, he missed two nights in a row, and the next day it was revealed that we was dead. One of my coworkers knew about his drug addiction, but never came forward about it, and I had my suspicions, but I had no idea he was doing things like heroin and other hardcore drugs. I am in shock and awe about this and truly, deeply saddened by someone who I really enjoyed spending time at work with is now gone, although we still have quite a few great memories. It's just going to take some time to get over. He had depression and other issues that he masked through drugs, so I never saw any cries for help. I wish I had, and that way I could have gotten him some help before it was too late. It just put a jolt down my spine when I found out and although it has hit me pretty hard, I can still be myself, and I'm not overcome with grief, but I am saddened that he was in so much pain and he never let the people who cared about him know about it. I guess this is a good cautionary tale for those of you who know someone who is into drugs heavily and isn't reaching out for help...sometimes rock bottom is death, and we don't need to lose anymore people to drug addiction. So, take what you will from this story.

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10-16-2011, 02:42 AM	#2 (permalink)
elucidate Banned Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Melbourne, Australia Posts: 12,751	The thing it Andrew, you can't make them get help. If they aren't asking for your help then it's pointless to try and help them. I'm truly sorry to hear about your co worker though. That's pretty rough. It happens a lot though, and no one ever sees it coming. Hopefully you can come to terms with this and move past the shock soon.

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