Will a Dark Worker position benefit me?

[Izak]

Hey.

There is this guy in work i confront the other day and I told him to do his ♥♥♥♥ing job and stop bossing around, he apolagized.

But this guy is a ♥♥♥♥ing moron and I see myself as a lightworker. But Im turning to the dark side today! I rather have my ego full and be out of job than working everyday with this guy messing with my inner self. He is cynical, doesnt do ♥♥♥♥ and thinks he is the man. Im seconds of punching him in the face.

Any tips? Im turning dark side either way, today im gonna try to mess him up. Ive had enough.

[Agota]

I don't think that lightworkers are not allowed to set boundaries and put people in their place when needed

That being said, I suggest not to do anything while you're in this state of mind. Chill and think about everything logically. Is that guy really a jerk or you're just being overly sensitive? If he's really a jerk, what steps can you take to prevent him from annoying you? Maybe you can talk to him and he will understand? Maybe you can talk to your boss? Put emotions aside and think logically. When you're angry, you're weak and you won't be able to get your point across.

Also, in case dude apologized and stopped being a jerk, then get over it and see what happens. Maybe he sincerely didn't realized that his doing something wrong.

P.S. It's not him who's messing with your inner peace. It's all you. Sorry, that's the harsh truth..

[pianoperformer]

Originally Posted by Izak

But this guy is a ♥♥♥♥ing moron

Is that really true?

Originally Posted by Izak

and I see myself as a lightworker. But Im turning to the dark side today!

It sounds like you already have.

[C33]

I completely understand the way you feel.

I'm working with small minded people who are sabotaging me every opportunity they get.

I tried ignoring the behavior, taking the higher road, feeling compassion, seeing things through their perspective, even took a webinar about working transgenerationally ( as they are younger) to no avail.

The thing is: They have tried to discredit me , taken every opportunity they had to undermine my work and reputation.

The fact that a coworker can hurt your career and get you fired, threatens your survival.

If you have tried the path of light ( connection, compassion) and it doesn't work, not only that, but compassion, getting to a win-win situation has hurt you, then I'd say take a walk on the dark side and see how it works for you.

[Izak]

I went completely dark side yesterday and I felt amazing. Im not rude and i work hard, but i wont let my sympathy and good behaviour ruin my ego, ever again.

When i try to be nice, people tend to be stupid. Apolagizing, saying please, its putting us in an inferior place. Yesterday I just changed my work personality, I blinked girls (without any second interests), I joked around, i set my voice tone to super alpha male and when i got together with that ♥♥♥♥ing moron coworker i put the guy in place.

Now, my Dark Side position is not perfect, but thats what i decided yesterday, I need time and experience to perfect this, and I will continue on.


I cant think logically with these guys. They are young, some even dont care about the work, but I do, and i show that I do care.


Lightworking my ***.

[pianoperformer]

Originally Posted by Izak

I went completely dark side yesterday and I felt amazing. Im not rude and i work hard, but i wont let my sympathy and good behaviour ruin my ego, ever again.

You never answered my question.

Sure it might be more fun this way, but wouldn't you rather resolve the problem than just meeting it with fear and anger energy and probably making it worse? Even if this particular manifestation of it goes away, it'll come back some other way, maybe with a different person or different situation.

[Izak]

Originally Posted by pianoperformer

You never answered my question.

Sure it might be more fun this way, but wouldn't you rather resolve the problem than just meeting it with fear and anger energy and probably making it worse? Even if this particular manifestation of it goes away, it'll come back some other way, maybe with a different person or different situation.

I had a similar situation when i was in high-schoo. I did Taekwondo back then, so I was very calm and relax, and there was this guy who was a ♥♥♥♥ing moron in my class, but i dealt with the situation calmly, relaxed and when i look back, that hurt my ego alot. I had a great time in high-school, the only problem was that guy.

Now, in my work, i found a guy almost exactly like him. It wont happen again. It wont.

[VinceG]

I ♥♥♥♥ing ♥♥♥♥ this beautiful ♥♥♥♥ing ♥♥♥♥♥! These ♥♥♥♥ing ♥♥♥♥ of ♥♥♥♥s!

[pianoperformer]

Originally Posted by Izak

I had a similar situation when i was in high-schoo. I did Taekwondo back then, so I was very calm and relax, and there was this guy who was a ♥♥♥♥ing moron in my class, but i dealt with the situation calmly, relaxed and when i look back, that hurt my ego alot. I had a great time in high-school, the only problem was that guy.

Now, in my work, i found a guy almost exactly like him. It wont happen again. It wont.

It sounds like you have a consistent problem of dealing with "morons" in your life. Why do you think that keeps coming up for you?

What do you mean your ego was hurt? What is wrong with your ego being hurt?

[Fred Tracy]

I don't really use the light worker versus dark worker perspective, but if the guys being in ass, then tell your boss.

Regardless of how you want to tune your energies, going off on him will only hurt you. Hit them where it hurts – the wallet.

[ChrisGinsburg]

Originally Posted by Fred Tracy

I don't really use the light worker versus dark worker perspective, but if the guys being in ass, then tell your boss.

Regardless of how you want to tune your energies, going off on him will only hurt you. Hit them where it hurts – the wallet.

Yea, I can't really get behind the analogy either. In fact every time I see threads about dark/light worker I want to face palm and mention that most of the solutions people are searching for are not in getting even more absorbed in fantasy and extra labels for themselves.

[CroMagna]

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[C33]

Lightworking my ***.

Funniest thing I've read all day.Thanks.

[Izak]

What labels? And whats wrong with labels? There will always be polarity, like ying\yang. Im having more fun these past 3 days on the darkside then working like a nice person all the time. I respect myself even more. And to me, thats a major improvement. Yesterday one of my bosses started acting like a moron and I put her in her position (the other boss was like "wow, someone who confronts her"). I dont give a damn, i work like crazy, my clients are always happy clients, people came back to appreciate that Im not a seller, i actually care for them and when we dont have good products i tell them where to get them. But when it comes to jackasses, im even more of a jackass, and im trying this outside of work and its being awesome. As i said, im still learning and "perfecting" this new side, but so far, its been an awesome experience.

[ChrisGinsburg]

Originally Posted by Izak

What labels? And whats wrong with labels? There will always be polarity, like ying\yang. Im having more fun these past 3 days on the darkside then working like a nice person all the time. I respect myself even more. And to me, thats a major improvement. Yesterday one of my bosses started acting like a moron and I put her in her position (the other boss was like "wow, someone who confronts her"). I dont give a damn, i work like crazy, my clients are always happy clients, people came back to appreciate that Im not a seller, i actually care for them and when we dont have good products i tell them where to get them. But when it comes to jackasses, im even more of a jackass, and im trying this outside of work and its being awesome. As i said, im still learning and "perfecting" this new side, but so far, its been an awesome experience.

Did these actions and benefits you seemingly reaped require you to label yourself a dark worker or did it happen in the moment spontaneously just fine? In other words, labels become like baggage. Interestingly enough, most people don't appreciate others labeling them but are happy enough to do it to themselves. The polarity you are noticing is not something you all of a suddenly decide to be on one side or the other. Surely you can but this is one of many sources of suffering. People do it every day 'trying' to be happy but push anything that even remotely resembles the opposite away.

What you are noticing is a process of lowering resistance. You have likely been resisting for a very long time to express your real thoughts on many matters. You may have believed it was in bad taste to stand up to people in the work place or what not. Lowering resistance is what life is all about. The folly in deciding to now be a "dark worker" is that instead of noticing that you were allowing both polarities to simply exist as they will without grasping onto one or the other, through the use and subsequent belief in "being a dark worker" you have identified with one polarity instead of another. Once the intrigue and benefit of lowering your resistance wears off in this situation you will begin to notice that you are doing the same thing as before but merely grasping at the other polarity.

[elucidate]

I agree with chris. Labelling yourself a "darkworker" won't make you stand up to those people, feeling fed up with being pushed around and never standing up for yourself did!

You don't need to call yourself anything, as long as you stand up for yourself that's all that matters, and you can do that without a label.

[ZephyrusX]

Disregarding the labels of lightworking and darkworking, it sounds like you are simply learning to be more assertive, and despite what you seem to think, it is possible to be assertive without loosing basic respect for others. To be frank, I'd fire you if you were working for me. You say that you care for your work, but you seemingly fail to recognize that you must work in cooperation with others, and if you cannot tolerate or handle people who are different than you without having your ego threatened or feeling compelled to act 'super alpha male', I'd replace you with someone that can. Because you are the problem. Your behaviour is almost a caricature of a 'tough guy'. I don't want a boy working for me; I want a man that will take personal responsibility.

No one can mess with your inner self unless you allow them to.

[billionairekid]

Here's my opinion. The dark side is dark for a reason. Having visited it, there isn't really much peace or sanity on that side. It's all about power. You want to control everything so you turn to dark working. If the notion of power makes you feel happy then sure, the dark side is a nice illusion you can enjoy for a while. Both paths take you to the same place ultimately....

[ChrisGinsburg]

Originally Posted by billionairekid

Here's my opinion. The dark side is dark for a reason. Having visited it, there isn't really much peace or sanity on that side. It's all about power. You want to control everything so you turn to dark working. If the notion of power makes you feel happy then sure, the dark side is a nice illusion you can enjoy for a while. Both paths take you to the same place ultimately....

Trying to imagine yourself on either 'side' is inevitably about power and control. Only once the futility of this is seen will most people drop the act.

[Izak]

Originally Posted by ZephyrusX

Disregarding the labels of lightworking and darkworking, it sounds like you are simply learning to be more assertive, and despite what you seem to think, it is possible to be assertive without loosing basic respect for others. To be frank, I'd fire you if you were working for me. You say that you care for your work, but you seemingly fail to recognize that you must work in cooperation with others, and if you cannot tolerate or handle people who are different than you without having your ego threatened or feeling compelled to act 'super alpha male', I'd replace you with someone that can. Because you are the problem. Your behaviour is almost a caricature of a 'tough guy'. I don't want a boy working for me; I want a man that will take personal responsibility.

No one can mess with your inner self unless you allow them to.

Well, my department boss disagrees with you, because he already told me that I was one of the best hirings. I care for everything. I care for my clients, the people i work for, the business. When i let my ego get hurt, my work quality decreases. I dont mess with anyone, in fact, the first months I was very "lightworking" when stuff started happened that made me think how to deal with it. I may be a worker, but im first a person. Respect me and Ill respect you 2 times more.

[pianoperformer]

Originally Posted by Izak

I care for everything. I care for my clients, the people i work for, the business.

So you really aren't a dark worker, only a frustrated person dressing up as a dark worker.

Originally Posted by Izak

When i let my ego get hurt, my work quality decreases.

What's the worst that can happen if your ego is hurt? I tried to ask this earlier but it seems you missed it.

[Izak]

Originally Posted by pianoperformer

So you really aren't a dark worker, only a frustrated person dressing up as a dark worker.



What's the worst that can happen if your ego is hurt? I tried to ask this earlier but it seems you missed it.

I feel weak and powerless, like im something useless. If I'm carefree, like i dont give a rats ass, i feel good.

[pianoperformer]

Originally Posted by Izak

I feel weak and powerless, like im something useless. If I'm carefree, like i dont give a rats ass, i feel good.

So you believe that you can only be carefree as a dark worker, but not as one who cares for others? Is that true?

I am relatively carefree, yet I do not label myself with "dark worker."

[ZephyrusX]

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[ButterflyWoman]

Originally Posted by ChrisGinsburg

In fact every time I see threads about dark/light worker I want to face palm and mention that most of the solutions people are searching for are not in getting even more absorbed in fantasy and extra labels for themselves.

*nodnodnod* I have to agree with that. I generally have the same reaction.